There are certain low class men who don't really need to give money to women in any context in order to get their attention and favor. In fact, such men are typically the most popular among a large class of women. (and not just poor women - there are plenty of women who slum)
At most they need a nice set of clothes and a car - and a criminal rap sheet, scars and tattoos can help.
These men are often "lazy" -
If they adopted an attitude of conformity to a regular job the attention that women give them would in all likelihood decline steeply.
So that is possibly the origin of the claim that "women need to work because men are lazy."
If a man is working for a low wage and giving most of it to a shrew, very few men will find much motivation.
The more a man earns, the more he can be required to give.
The disincentives for marriage (especially in the former UK) have been quite high at times, because of the class system there.
When disincentives didn't work (for example, among Catholic potato farmers) starvation could result (because the Catholics of Ireland were forced onto marginal lands and made into tenant farmers.)