Author Topic: Power of the husband (Read 2336 times)

jman123 · « **on:** August 29, 2016, 09:01:55 AM »

Is it within a husbands power to demand That his wife wear skirts? And if so ,what should the husband do if she resists? This also applies to the wearing of veils in Church . What if she resists?

tdrev123 · « **Reply #1 on:** August 29, 2016, 09:29:15 AM »

A husband can (not should) demand anything that is not sinful from his wife. Yes you should make your wife wear skirts and a head veil in church. If she resists you need to show her traditional resources on how you are the head of the family and she needs to follow you, if she still resists she is sadly not catholic.

nctradcath · « **Reply #2 on:** August 29, 2016, 09:38:33 AM »

If she resists, then pray and sacrifice for her that she change lest she end up in hell.

nctradcath · « **Reply #3 on:** August 29, 2016, 09:40:09 AM »

That is a reason praying the family rosary is so important, so that the family members can meditate on Mary's virtues and imitate them.

Ascetik · « **Reply #4 on:** August 31, 2016, 11:38:23 AM »

Yes. Praying the rosary with my wife everyday has made incredible changes in her demeanor and attitude. I highly suggest if you are not praying the rosary with your wife daily that you start immediately and do not stop.

LittleFlowers · « **Reply #5 on:** September 06, 2016, 07:09:40 PM »

As St. Paul writes, it is the duty of the wife to submit to her husband, and her husband to love her as Christ loves the Church. He is to lift her, so she can bend to him.

Have you had a loving chat with your wife? She should be veiling, that is for God, and wearing skirts and dresses is part of the beauty of being feminine.

I'm a young woman, so if I may share a little advice as a woman: women respond well to gentleness and a kind of sweetness, to get her to feel excited about veils, to build and lift her, so she can respond lovingly to you, too, so she can bend to you. Pray with her. Encourage her. Talk to her about saints, like St. Clare, like St. Veronica, like St. Rita, like the Blessed Virgin. Especially the Virgin!

The last commandment of Jesus, is to love. Through love, all things are possible.

God Bless!

Thursday · « **Reply #6 on:** September 07, 2016, 03:23:05 AM »

Skirts all the time or skirts on Sunday?
First of all be patient , if she's been immersed in modern culture her whole life it could take some time. Start with skirts for mass and special occasions.

Tell her to go out on a Saturday while you watch the kids to go skirt shopping.
Then after buying them you can say, why don't you wear those nice skirts I bought you.

Try to encourage friendship with other modest skirt wearing girls.

Degrelle · « **Reply #7 on:** September 07, 2016, 09:09:31 AM »

Good answers here.

I would say that it is not only the right but the duty of the husband to insist that his wife dress modestly and appropriately. This does not mean that he should be a tyrant, however.

I know that when I was first married, I approached the issue with my wife from the perspective of "I don't like doing this, this isn't for my own pleasure, but I really think that as your husband I have to insist that you stop wearing pants."

There was some resistance, so I did not argue over it -- she clearly knew my position -- and I just made sure to praise her whenever she dressed well and to encourage her to buy herself a nice new dress whenever the opportunity presented itself. Over about six months she started wearing pants less and less. I also coupled this with prayer of course. She has never worn pants again after I finished a Novena to the Sacred Heart ten years ago.

Ladislaus · « **Reply #8 on:** September 07, 2016, 01:09:22 PM »

Yes, wives are to obey their husbands with regard to any just commands (criteria similar to following just laws as St. Thomas describes in detail). Of course, not all wives fully buy into this principle, even Traditional Catholic ones, so that's where the virtue of prudence comes in. At that point you need to persuade her to do the right thing.

Last Tradhican · « **Reply #9 on:** September 07, 2016, 01:29:28 PM »

Frankly, I don't understand why women today insist on showing their stuff. Now you have women with wrinkled up, or cellulite legs, and fallen breasts walking around exposing everything as if they were still 18 years old. I don't think women see themselves when they look in a mirror, they only see the model from the magazine where they saw the outfit.

I was once an athlete in impeccable shape, when I was younger. Now, although I look better than anyone within 10 years of me, I would not even think of walking around without a shirt or with a tank top, or shorts.

Ladies, cover your arms and legs, you are not 18 years old anymore.

Cantarella · « **Reply #10 on:** September 07, 2016, 02:43:44 PM »

Quote from: Last Tradican

Ladies, cover your arms and legs, you are not 18 years old anymore.

Modesty and decorum have nothing to do with age. 18 years old young women should also be covering their arms and legs, according to the Catholic standards of modesty, as per:

The Marylike Standards for Modesty in Dress

http://www.salvemariaregina.info/Modesty.html

Feminine modesty not only applies to older ladies who have lost the sensual beauty of their early youth. It is not like "lady, you better cover more now because you have nothing nice to show off any longer, but it is OK not to cover if you are 18, young and pretty".

Cantarella · « **Reply #11 on:** September 07, 2016, 02:51:05 PM »

In regards to the OP, I think this would be a good time for a husband to persuade his wife using romantic means. Buy her a pretty skirt or a veil as a gift, and add chocolates and flowers to it

. Women's hearts melt with chocolates and flowers ....and maybe a serenate. Hahaha. She will not refuse you anything, especially if you communicate with her nicely explaining the reason why it would make you happy for her to dress more Mary - like, tell her she would look a lot more lovely in skirts as they would enhance her natural beauty and femininity; and also, tell her all the reasons behind the Catholic teachings on modesty.

Maria Auxiliadora · « **Reply #12 on:** September 07, 2016, 05:57:59 PM »

Quote from: Cantarella

In regards to the OP, I think this would be a good time for a husband to persuade his wife using romantic means. Buy her a pretty skirt or a veil as a gift, and add chocolates and flowers to it . Women's hearts melt with chocolates and flowers ....and maybe a serenate. Hahaha. She will not refuse you anything, especially if you communicate with her nicely explaining the reason why it would make you happy for her to dress more Mary - like, tell her she would look a lot more lovely in skirts as they would enhance her natural beauty and femininity; and also, tell her all the reasons behind the Catholic teachings on modesty.

I will add that a woman who is loved and cherished by her husband, will always honor and obey him.

nctradcath · « **Reply #13 on:** September 07, 2016, 07:52:21 PM »

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I will add that a woman who is loved and cherished by her husband, will always honor and obey him. [/quote][/quote]

The above is not a true statement for every married couple. It takes away a woman's free will to be evil and selfish despite having a good husband. It frankly isn't reality.

Last Tradhican · « **Reply #14 on:** September 08, 2016, 01:54:15 PM »

Quote from: Cantarella

Quote from: Last Tradican
Ladies, cover your arms and legs, you are not 18 years old anymore.

Modesty and decorum have nothing to do with age. 18 years old young women should also be covering their arms and legs, according to the Catholic standards of modesty, as per:

The Marylike Standards for Modesty in Dress

http://www.salvemariaregina.info/Modesty.html

Feminine modesty not only applies to older ladies who have lost the sensual beauty of their early youth. It is not like "lady, you better cover more now because you have nothing nice to show off any longer, but it is OK not to cover if you are 18, young and pretty".

That is all correct for Catholic ladies, I was not speaking to them, why preach to the choir? I was speaking to the women of the world. They do not listen to their husbands, God, and their guardian angel, maybe they'll listen to the mirror.

A 70+ lady with a facelift and sleeveless top once asked what should she do to harden up her flabby triceps. I told her to wear a sleeve that covers them, it requires no work.

I see older ladies at the SSPX masses with stretch tops that reveal every contour of their body, with skirts that show their fat or wrinkled up knees, what on earth are they thinking?