Author Topic: not family values (Read 1130 times)

tradlover · « **on:** August 19, 2013, 12:07:03 PM »

I don't think these family values are Catholic. What is the Catholic solution to this problem?

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http://www.my9nj.com/story/23158585/new-jerseys-boomerang-generation
Newark, New Jersey (My9NJ) -
Is 27 the new 18 when it comes to living at your parents' house?

According to the US census Bureau, at least 1 in 4 N.J. adults, ages 18-31 live at home and 42% are 24 or older. Experts call it an "epidemic" of millennials leaching off their parents, but does a bad economy and student loan debt crisis justify the situation?

A new survey from Coldwell Banker says parents in the Northeast region are more lenient on this than anywhere else in the US on children moving back home.

But, according to the survey, more than two in three Americans believe that too many adults living at home with their parents are avoiding responsibility, and 65 percent believe too many young adults who move back home after college are overstaying their welcome.

Dr. Susan Newman, a Jersey-based social psychologist and author of the book “Under One Roof”, she says it’s almost expected for kids in N.J. to move back into their suburban homes after college.

But a Moody's study shows that each new household that is created helps stimulate the economy, so children moving back home might actually hurt economic growth in the state.

RomanCatholic1953 · « **Reply #1 on:** August 19, 2013, 02:57:57 PM »

Our economy has been in recession since 2008, and despite the pundits,
The recession/depression is not over with yet, and probably get worse.
Many new jobs opening are part time, less than 40 hours a week. This
to avoid paying into obamacare. If you get sick and injured you are
just out of luck, and you can be easily replaced.
Also, there is a problem of illegal immigrants taking jobs that Americans
did, because they will work for less. However, if they get sick and
injured, the taxpayers will foot the bill.
So in the new economy, if you have a job. You have to look forward
to less working hours, fewer and no pay raises. And competing with
a large pool of illegal immigrants that will work for less.
The only way most smart people will survived is starting their own
business and make and sell things that people need.
I am not surprised that the mass media keeps the truth from the
American People.

songbird · « **Reply #2 on:** August 19, 2013, 06:14:01 PM »

What would you consider the Waltons family?

When times are hard and we have seen it, just because kids are in the home, like a boomerang does not necessarily mean they are slackers. If it were happening in our home, everyone would do their part to keep the family going. Besides, I know of parents who are in their children's home. Sometime the studies are one sided and are paid for by our money and the result must come out the way those who paid for the study wish for it to come out.

Julie10 · « **Reply #3 on:** September 06, 2013, 10:12:53 PM »

I moved back home after college but I had a job. I paid rent and the reason I lived there was because I knew it was better for my sole. I was dating my husband at the time and I just knew I didn't need my own place :) I lived there until my wedding day and I was 27.

I think nuclear families are great just as long as everyone contributes but it does not have to be monetarily.

StCeciliasGirl · « **Reply #4 on:** September 06, 2013, 11:15:59 PM »

I don't like Waltons' family homes because of negatives associated with them in today's society, but I think it's preferable for families to remain in the same general area (depends on if you're urban, suburban, or sticks, but I think within an hour is best). One, I would have killed my MIL, or she me

No really. Two, her other children are ALL divorced, which would have left me in a home with 4 men, my husband, and a MIL who didn't like her children's spouses (the sister died *crosses self*).

But mostly, you get guys like that CT shooter whose parents completely ignored (or encouraged) the son's sick shooting fantasies, and it just freaks me out that families "protect" these deadbeat, post-college age "kids" who don't work, and supposedly have some kind of "mental problem" which these days include "sadness", "boredom", "fear", oh and "sɛҳuąƖ addiction" and "video game addiction"

That said, we built a private set of rooms with a bath, private entrance, etc, several years ago for my oldest son and guests; my husband wanted our son to have privacy (but when he put in kitchenette hookups, I wondered). He also built a large music room and then a private room for our daughter with a separate entrance that goes to the pool and, after turning a corner, the back door.

These areas could be used to rent rooms if times get tight after the kids move out, but I wouldn't be opposed, under certain conditions, to having my children's future families live here. All males would need to be working; I'd probably have the same restrictions my dad had on me after college (the whole three months I was there before meeting my now-husband): have a plan (grad. school), some sort of income... I mean, adult or not, they can't just party and live under this roof. Oh no. And don't drag some hoe (pardon) or heathen up in here. I just don't have the patience of Job; oh no. There will be blood. (Sorry, it's who I am. I didn't push kids out for them to hook up with heathens. It would be an affront to God and put me in Hell, and if I go to Hell, I'm going for a good reason: taking out heathens.) What daughter-in-law would want to live with me

(I'm cool, ...until it comes to family. Then I'm a tad protective of their eternal souls.)

Spork · « **Reply #5 on:** September 10, 2013, 06:12:38 PM »

I am reading a book on a famous Italian American. In the photo section, a modest three story Brooklyn home was shown and described as a dwelling for two or three families of aunts, uncles and cousins.