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Offline mcollier

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Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
« on: January 20, 2018, 10:51:31 AM »
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  • Good morning: 

    My wife's cousin is getting married in Ridgefield, CT. 

    Initially I told her that I would go because neither the bride nor groom were ever baptized Catholic. 

    The plan was to simply pray the rosary and not participate in the wedding ceremony. 

    However, it just hit me like a ton of bricks that this wedding is scheduled at 5pm on Holy Saturday! 

    What does the Church teach? Should I back out of going? 

    Part of me was on board with attending because it would probably give my wife and I the opportunity to go to Sunday Mass at the nearby Resistance SSPX Church. But I don't know the schedule and I know that one evil does not justify a good so while I would want to do whatever it takes to get to a Sunday Mass on Easter...I realized I better think about what I was doing before I make a misstep. 

    Thank you in advance for any advice/coaching on this. God bless. 


    Offline JezusDeKoning

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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #1 on: January 20, 2018, 11:59:58 AM »
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  • I think you can go, as long as you make it in time for the Easter Vigil.
    Remember O most gracious Virgin Mary...


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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #2 on: January 20, 2018, 12:12:45 PM »
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  • As long as they are non-Catholics and have no impediments to marriage, attendance is fine as long as no active participation is had. 

    While the Easter Vigil is a spectacular liturgy, you can satisfy the obligation for Easter Sunday by either the Vigil or the morning Mass. So really it’s up to you! Personally we don’t do late night Masses like Christmas Midnight Mass or Easter Vigil as we have three under three, so we always opt for the morning Masses. 
    Please disregard everything I have said; I have tended to speak before fact checking.

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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #3 on: January 20, 2018, 02:44:35 PM »
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  • I agree that there is no impediment to going, but the couple clearly do not understand that for followers of Jesus Saturday of Holy Week is a day of sadness and mourning and not a time to celebrate as Jesus is still in the tomb.
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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #4 on: January 20, 2018, 04:25:57 PM »
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  • Thank you. 


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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #5 on: March 24, 2018, 05:05:07 PM »
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  • How is it ok to go to a non catholic wedding. Where did the church teach this. 

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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #6 on: March 24, 2018, 05:51:05 PM »
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  • Good morning:

    My wife's cousin is getting married in Ridgefield, CT.

    Initially I told her that I would go because neither the bride nor groom were ever baptized Catholic.

    The plan was to simply pray the rosary and not participate in the wedding ceremony.

    However, it just hit me like a ton of bricks that this wedding is scheduled at 5pm on Holy Saturday!

    What does the Church teach? Should I back out of going?

    Part of me was on board with attending because it would probably give my wife and I the opportunity to go to Sunday Mass at the nearby Resistance SSPX Church. But I don't know the schedule and I know that one evil does not justify a good so while I would want to do whatever it takes to get to a Sunday Mass on Easter...I realized I better think about what I was doing before I make a misstep.

    Thank you in advance for any advice/coaching on this. God bless.
    Will you be attending the reception, and how long will that last?
    If you attend the wedding reception, will you be over tired and exhausted from the trip? If so, you might miss the Easter Sunday Mass altogether.
    Perhaps you can just stop in briefly for the wedding reception.
    It is important not to upset the couple for by your good example, you might be able to lead them to the True Faith.
    Lord have mercy.

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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #7 on: March 24, 2018, 06:57:54 PM »
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  • How is it ok to go to a non catholic wedding. Where did the church teach this.
    I too would ask this question.
    The OP is asking advice but we have no info. 
    Was one of them divorced?     NO you could not attend.
    Is it before a justice of the peace?   NO you could not attend.
    Unless the wedding is in a manner whereby the Catholic church would accept
    it as legitimate then I think a Catholic could not attend.
    Would the Church accept a marriage between two unbaptised people?
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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #8 on: March 24, 2018, 08:02:53 PM »
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  • I too would ask this question.
    The OP is asking advice but we have no info.
    Was one of them divorced?     NO you could not attend.
    Is it before a justice of the peace?   NO you could not attend.
    Unless the wedding is in a manner whereby the Catholic church would accept
    it as legitimate then I think a Catholic could not attend.
    Would the Church accept a marriage between two unbaptised people?
    Would that be considered a “natural” marriage as opposed to a sacramental?

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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #9 on: March 24, 2018, 09:21:27 PM »
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  • How is it ok to go to a non catholic wedding. Where did the church teach this.
    I was under the impression that you could go if it were 2 non-Catholics getting married. Two non-Catholics getting married still marry validly. 
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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #10 on: March 25, 2018, 08:00:40 AM »
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  • I was under the impression that you could go if it were 2 non-Catholics getting married. Two non-Catholics getting married still marry validly.
    I don’t see why. Presently i’m telling my wife I can’t go to the reception of a wedding of her best friend who is marrying a divorced novus ordo in an Anglican Church.   You can imagine this is causing a lot of stress


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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #11 on: March 25, 2018, 03:08:44 PM »
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  • I don’t see why. Presently i’m telling my wife I can’t go to the reception of a wedding of her best friend who is marrying a divorced novus ordo in an Anglican Church.   You can imagine this is causing a lot of stress
    I will pray for all involved.
    This would cause a lot of stress.
    Lord have mercy.

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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #12 on: March 25, 2018, 03:55:32 PM »
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  • I don’t see why. Presently i’m telling my wife I can’t go to the reception of a wedding of her best friend who is marrying a divorced novus ordo in an Anglican Church.   You can imagine this is causing a lot of stress
    This is not the same situation as the OP as this person is marrying someone who is already married. "Divorced" is a legal status, not an end to a valid marriage. Either the first marriage has been annulled or it has not.
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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #13 on: March 25, 2018, 07:03:05 PM »
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  • This is not the same situation as the OP as this person is marrying someone who is already married. "Divorced" is a legal status, not an end to a valid marriage. Either the first marriage has been annulled or it has not.
    I realize it is not the same situation, I’m still waiting for anyone to post catholic teaching allowing to attend a non catholic marriage 

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    Re: Non-Catholic Wedding on Holy Saturday
    « Reply #14 on: March 25, 2018, 07:28:46 PM »
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  • Stick to your guns and stay home, keeping the day somber, as It should be.