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Re: Never nurse a child while driving
« Reply #1 on: November 16, 2024, 02:23:51 PM »
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  • The article states mother tending to the baby, not breastfeeding. 


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    Re: Never nurse a child while driving
    « Reply #2 on: November 16, 2024, 04:06:16 PM »
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  • I feel so bad for father.   

    Sad. 
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    Re: Never nurse a child while driving
    « Reply #3 on: November 16, 2024, 04:24:18 PM »
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  • Title is clickbait, mother was not driving. And I agree with songbird.

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    Re: Never nurse a child while driving
    « Reply #4 on: November 17, 2024, 05:15:29 PM »
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  • When I read the subject line, I said to myself "well, I wouldn't think so!".


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    Re: Never nurse a child while driving
    « Reply #5 on: November 17, 2024, 06:44:12 PM »
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  • Even if this particular mother wasn’t nursing (I know the news article doesn’t say so and I didn’t say she was, read the title again) I tend to think she in fact was. And even if she wasn’t nursing, the point still holds: the end result would be exactly the same for someone who does in fact nurse in the back of a car while someone else is driving, because the cause of death in this case was that both the mother and the baby were unbuckled, which is exactly what happens when a mother is nursing in the backseat.

    I posted this because I know for a fact mothers nurse in the backseat going to or coming from Mass, for example, which to me seems was the case here, because this mother was a traditionalist mother of 10. 

    The accident happened around 10:30 am on a Sunday. Sounds very likely they were either going to or coming from Mass.

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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #6 on: November 17, 2024, 11:52:13 PM »
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  • Title is clickbait, mother was not driving.
    Click bait indeed! I was thinking, "how in the world?"
    How about "ALWAYS wear your seat belt"?

    Seriously, though, to the nursing moms out there, at least operate on a hierarchy where you first make every attempt to nurse before you get in the car. Second, if it's unavoidable, at least keep your own seat belt on.
    And, when you're really in a bind, traveling highway speeds with an inconsolable infant, know that nursing a baby who's still buckled into their car seat while still wearing your own lap seat belt is possible, but also rather uncomfortable. #btdt


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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #7 on: November 18, 2024, 12:05:20 AM »
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  • I tend to think she in fact was
    I'm not so convinced. If this is the same family as before, she was already expecting the next baby and the 17-m-o would be mostly on solid food. If she was in fact nursing, then the family was very lackadaisical about car seats and seat belts in general as this wasn't an infant. With that laid back of an attitude, she could have just as easily been changing a diaper. I can't think of a single time I've had a reason to be in a moving vehicle with a child over 1 out of their car seat.


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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #8 on: November 18, 2024, 05:37:00 AM »
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  • Click bait indeed! I was thinking, "how in the world?"
    How about "ALWAYS wear your seat belt"?

    Seriously, though, to the nursing moms out there, at least operate on a hierarchy where you first make every attempt to nurse before you get in the car. Second, if it's unavoidable, at least keep your own seat belt on.
    And, when you're really in a bind, traveling highway speeds with an inconsolable infant, know that nursing a baby who's still buckled into their car seat while still wearing your own lap seat belt is possible, but also rather uncomfortable. #btdt
    I skipped past this thread a few times but decided that I would stop and write something.

    I have been guilty as you might say of nursing a baby in the back of the car while my husband was driving to Mass.

    I always try to nurse the babies when they are small before we go (I will wake up anywhere from 2 hours or so before we leave to have time to get everyone ready and out the door) but with Mass over an hour away and sometimes running late we aren't always able to stop again. 

    Usually by the time the baby is 3-6 months this is not an issue because they can have longer gaps between nursing times but when a baby is in those first few months, they nurse almost constantly.  If we stopped every time a newborn needed to nurse we probably would never make it to Mass.

    There have also been times that we have had a major blowout or throw up incident half way into the drive and I had to quickly take a baby out of his chair, clean him up and put him back into his carseat.

    So, while I definitely recommend always keeping babies in their carseats as much as possible, there are definitely some situations where there is hardly much of a choice.  Perhaps a good habit would be to pray to one's guardian angels to watch guard whenever such is necessary.
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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #9 on: November 18, 2024, 07:10:16 AM »
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  • I skipped past this thread a few times but decided that I would stop and write something.

    I have been guilty as you might say of nursing a baby in the back of the car while my husband was driving to Mass.

    I always try to nurse the babies when they are small before we go (I will wake up anywhere from 2 hours or so before we leave to have time to get everyone ready and out the door) but with Mass over an hour away and sometimes running late we aren't always able to stop again. 

    Usually by the time the baby is 3-6 months this is not an issue because they can have longer gaps between nursing times but when a baby is in those first few months, they nurse almost constantly.  If we stopped every time a newborn needed to nurse we probably would never make it to Mass.

    There have also been times that we have had a major blowout or throw up incident half way into the drive and I had to quickly take a baby out of his chair, clean him up and put him back into his carseat.

    So, while I definitely recommend always keeping babies in their carseats as much as possible, there are definitely some situations where there is hardly much of a choice.  Perhaps a good habit would be to pray to one's guardian angels to watch guard whenever such is necessary.
    Another choice is not to take babies and toddlers to Mass in the first place, but for the parents to take turns going by themselves. 

    I had made a thread a while ago where most people said that before V2, babies and toddlers simply weren’t taken to Mass because they really shouldn’t be there. It’s bad for everyone because of the distraction. You really won’t get the most out of the Mass if you take a child. I learned this the hard way. 

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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #10 on: November 18, 2024, 08:38:23 AM »
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  • Another choice is not to take babies and toddlers to Mass in the first place, but for the parents to take turns going by themselves.

    I had made a thread a while ago where most people said that before V2, babies and toddlers simply weren’t taken to Mass because they really shouldn’t be there. It’s bad for everyone because of the distraction. You really won’t get the most out of the Mass if you take a child. I learned this the hard way.
    100 percent. Thank you... I love kiddos, but it IS distracting (don't say it's not). I hear a lot of NO priests say it's great to hear crying babies and bratty toddlers at Mass, because they "might be a priest someday"..... These moms (for the most part) need to get over themselves. A lot of them get snarky when they get those "looks" from people trying to concentrate at Mass. It's already hard enough..


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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #11 on: November 18, 2024, 11:21:18 AM »
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  • I skipped past this thread a few times but decided that I would stop and write something.

    I have been guilty as you might say of nursing a baby in the back of the car while my husband was driving to Mass.

    I always try to nurse the babies when they are small before we go (I will wake up anywhere from 2 hours or so before we leave to have time to get everyone ready and out the door) but with Mass over an hour away and sometimes running late we aren't always able to stop again. 

    Usually by the time the baby is 3-6 months this is not an issue because they can have longer gaps between nursing times but when a baby is in those first few months, they nurse almost constantly.  If we stopped every time a newborn needed to nurse we probably would never make it to Mass.

    There have also been times that we have had a major blowout or throw up incident half way into the drive and I had to quickly take a baby out of his chair, clean him up and put him back into his carseat.

    So, while I definitely recommend always keeping babies in their carseats as much as possible, there are definitely some situations where there is hardly much of a choice.  Perhaps a good habit would be to pray to one's guardian angels to watch guard whenever such is necessary.
    An hour is an extremely long time for a baby/toddler to be strapped in a car seat. It’s a nightmare. 30-40 minutes is already pushing it. 

    All the more reason to leave the baby home and go to Mass by yourself and only with the children who are old enough to behave. 

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    Re: Never nurse a child while driving
    « Reply #12 on: November 18, 2024, 11:33:39 AM »
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  • From the life of blessed Anna Maria Taigi, pg. 63:

    “She herself rose daily at a very early hour, while all were yet in their beds, to prepare herself for Communion; and after arranging everything and leaving directions with her old mother, who lived with them, as to what she should do in any contingency that might arise, she went to Mass, returning home after having made her thanksgiving.”

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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #13 on: November 18, 2024, 12:48:53 PM »
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  • An hour is an extremely long time for a baby/toddler to be strapped in a car seat. It’s a nightmare. 30-40 minutes is already pushing it.

    All the more reason to leave the baby home and go to Mass by yourself and only with the children who are old enough to behave.
    I had to drive to mass a few times with my baby (my husband is not Catholic) which is a 3 hour drive one-way. I also pick up groceries on the way back because it's a lot of gas and mental exhaustion to drive. I think it's more than a 3 hour-drive because of all the stops I have to make. I put a video on my phone for her and that usually keeps her quiet. When she's screaming it is distracting for me while driving. She also sleeps for part of the drive as well. I couldn't leave her home because she's still nursing and she actually likes going out and seeing things. My baby is actually quite good during mass. People comment how quiet she is. 

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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #14 on: November 18, 2024, 02:06:45 PM »
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  • I had to drive to mass a few times with my baby (my husband is not Catholic) which is a 3 hour drive one-way. I also pick up groceries on the way back because it's a lot of gas and mental exhaustion to drive. I think it's more than a 3 hour-drive because of all the stops I have to make. I put a video on my phone for her and that usually keeps her quiet. When she's screaming it is distracting for me while driving. She also sleeps for part of the drive as well. I couldn't leave her home because she's still nursing and she actually likes going out and seeing things. My baby is actually quite good during mass. People comment how quiet she is.
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