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Offline songbird

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Re: Never nurse a child while driving
« Reply #15 on: November 18, 2024, 03:10:08 PM »
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    • One thing to consider. Demons.  My brand new Honda 2005, was blessed by Fr. Leblanc.  When I drove out to be his cook months later Fr. LeBlanc saw  a demon on my car.  Fr. Le Blanc said he blessed my car again.

    You just never know. Another strategy of demons is to have a driver day dream.  The demons are very thick!.  Even Christ had Lucifer tempt him.  We need compassion for everyone!  IMO the demons are very close to the end of their 100 years, and they know their time is short.  Have compassion for we all need prayers.
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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #16 on: November 19, 2024, 05:11:32 AM »
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    • Quote from: Disputaciones on November 18, 2024, 07:10:16 AM
    Another choice is not to take babies and toddlers to Mass in the first place, but for the parents to take turns going by themselves.

    I had made a thread a while ago where most people said that before V2, babies and toddlers simply weren’t taken to Mass because they really shouldn’t be there. It’s bad for everyone because of the distraction. You really won’t get the most out of the Mass if you take a child. I learned this the hard way.
    I have to be with the babies while they are of nursing age because they usually nurse every 2 hours.  My husband can't just stay home with them for 3-4 hours while I would take a turn and travel to and from Mass.  If I was to not take them to Mass with me until they were no longer nursing I would have to skip Mass for about a year after every baby was born.  If the baby cries I take the baby out of the church right away to a cry room or mother's room and at least am still able to recieve Holy Communion every week.  I think that is worth the trouble.

    Before Vatican II, there were Masses all over which you could walk to and at varying time throughout the whole morning.  Having a longer distance to travel and Masses not offered as frequently makes our situation different from the pre-Vatican II times.

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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #17 on: November 19, 2024, 05:17:30 AM »
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    • Quote from: Everlast22 on November 18, 2024, 08:38:23 AM
    100 percent. Thank you... I love kiddos, but it IS distracting (don't say it's not). I hear a lot of NO priests say it's great to hear crying babies and bratty toddlers at Mass, because they "might be a priest someday"..... These moms (for the most part) need to get over themselves. A lot of them get snarky when they get those "looks" from people trying to concentrate at Mass. It's already hard enough..
    If a toddler or baby is being bad he should definitely be taken out of the Church.  But just because children can be bad sometimes does not mean that they should never be allowed when they are being good.  How otherwise do they learn to be good for Mass for when they have an obligation to be there?

    As I do not currently have a nursing baby, my husband and I take turns with the youngest toddler and take him out whenever he is making noise or being too rambunctious.  

    Also important to remember is that every child is different.   Our oldest son was only able to sit quietly through Mass after turning 5 years old.  Our second son was almost always able to sit quietly for Mass.
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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #18 on: November 19, 2024, 05:21:29 AM »
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    • Quote from: Disputaciones on November 18, 2024, 11:21:18 AM
    An hour is an extremely long time for a baby/toddler to be strapped in a car seat. It’s a nightmare. 30-40 minutes is already pushing it.

    All the more reason to leave the baby home and go to Mass by yourself and only with the children who are old enough to behave.

    For the past 2 months my husband was severely ill and was not able to drive.  If I had not driven everyone to Mass and then taken care of the toddler when needed, no one would have made it to Mass.

    God has allowed a good Mass location to be farther for us, and so we do the best we can.
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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #19 on: November 19, 2024, 05:23:56 AM »
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    • Quote from: FarmerWife on November 18, 2024, 12:48:53 PM
    I had to drive to mass a few times with my baby (my husband is not Catholic) which is a 3 hour drive one-way. I also pick up groceries on the way back because it's a lot of gas and mental exhaustion to drive. I think it's more than a 3 hour-drive because of all the stops I have to make. I put a video on my phone for her and that usually keeps her quiet. When she's screaming it is distracting for me while driving. She also sleeps for part of the drive as well. I couldn't leave her home because she's still nursing and she actually likes going out and seeing things. My baby is actually quite good during mass. People comment how quiet she is.
    God bless you for your commitment and perseverance!  😇
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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #20 on: November 19, 2024, 06:05:51 AM »
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    • Quote from: AMDGJMJ on November 19, 2024, 05:11:32 AM
    I have to be with the babies while they are of nursing age because they usually nurse every 2 hours.  My husband can't just stay home with them for 3-4 hours while I would take a turn and travel to and from Mass.
    I know it’s not the best but, have you ever considered pumping? You can easily pump for 1-2 feedings, at least it would allow you to not have to take the baby. We’ve done it before. It would be one day a week only.
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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #21 on: November 19, 2024, 11:45:08 AM »
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    • Quote from: Disputaciones on November 19, 2024, 06:05:51 AM
    I know it’s not the best but, have you ever considered pumping? You can easily pump for 1-2 feedings, at least it would allow you to not have to take the baby. We’ve done it before. It would be one day a week only.
    We have tried it in the past but it has never worked well for us.  I could tell horror stories of mastitis and thrush infections for the baby and me with trying... 

    Some people have a hard time nursing, others have a hard time with pumping. 

    It is all in God's Hands.   :pray:
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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #22 on: November 19, 2024, 01:11:31 PM »
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    • Quote from: AMDGJMJ on November 19, 2024, 05:11:32 AM
    I have to be with the babies while they are of nursing age because they usually nurse every 2 hours.  My husband can't just stay home with them for 3-4 hours while I would take a turn and travel to and from Mass.  If I was to not take them to Mass with me until they were no longer nursing I would have to skip Mass for about a year after every baby was born.  If the baby cries I take the baby out of the church right away to a cry room or mother's room and at least am still able to recieve Holy Communion every week.  I think that is worth the trouble.

    Before Vatican II, there were Masses all over which you could walk to and at varying time throughout the whole morning.  Having a longer distance to travel and Masses not offered as frequently makes our situation different from the pre-Vatican II times.
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    Re: Always wear your seat belt
    « Reply #23 on: November 19, 2024, 01:21:08 PM »
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    • Quote from: Disputaciones on November 19, 2024, 06:05:51 AM
    I know it’s not the best but, have you ever considered pumping? You can easily pump for 1-2 feedings, at least it would allow you to not have to take the baby. We’ve done it before. It would be one day a week only.
    I had trouble breastfeeding in the beginning so was pumping. I did pump and went to mass (at the time I was going to the NO which was a 45 min drive) and give my husband the milk to feed the baby but it wasn't enough. And I gradually got rid of the pump and able to nurse. My milk supply was way better. The way pumping works and actual nursing is different. The baby actually makes the milk come not really the pump. The amount of time pumping takes, you might as well nurse. I hated cleaning the bottles and pump. 

    Besides, babies and mothers have a strong connection, it's natural for them to be together. Nursing like a pacifier soothes the baby and the baby will stay quiet during mass. That is if you are nursing before or after mass or stepping out to do it. 

    Also, I wanted to mention, if children are being homeschooled, then church is going to be one of their few options to socialize with other children. 
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    Re: Never nurse a child while driving
    « Reply #24 on: November 19, 2024, 01:45:31 PM »
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    • It seems like this subject of babies/children at Mass comes up regularly. I will say that some parents could/should do a better job of taking their noisy one(s) out, especially during the sermon and Consecration.

    But maybe another consideration could be added to what has been said: every one of us was a baby at one time, and doubtless were fussy and distracting at times, so, when you can't tune it out, just figure that you're getting a little of your own back and offer it up.
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