Author Topic: Needing a break from maternity leave?! (Read 6890 times)

PenitentWoman · « **Reply #75 on:** July 23, 2012, 01:24:05 PM »

Quote from: PereJoseph

Many women would prefer to dress provocatively with a group of friends and gossip about their husbands and be looked at by other men.
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The trash talking of spouses is the worst. On the rare occasion I splurge and go out to lunch with coworkers, it is inevitable that someone starts "venting" about their husband. I would be so hurt if my spouse did that. Maybe I just notice it more because I'm single, but it just strikes me as disrespectful. They say that divorce is contagious among friends. Sadly, I can see why.

CathMomof7 · « **Reply #76 on:** July 23, 2012, 01:40:58 PM »

I really wonder about some people.

When my 5th child was 7 weeks old, I got a horrible bacterial infection that began with a mosquito bite. One Sunday afternoon I found myself double over in pain with a fever of 104 degrees. My husband had to take me to the emergency room.

I was nursing my son. I had to have IV antibiotics in the hospital. I was there overnight and kept my son WITH ME the ENTIRE TIME because I was nursing. I would not allow the Dr's or Nurses to take him. Period.

So, you will never, ever get me to say that women are justified in leaving their nursing babies behind to go out for drinks.

Do mothers need some time free of their children. Yes. It's called "Take your 7 children to your girlfriend who has 12 children's day-out."

You'd be surprised how relaxing having a glass of wine with cheese and crackers can be when 5 or 6 teenagers are occupying 10 or 12 children.

It's great fun and exciting. You might actually get a good recipe or two or some new fabric or pattern for a skirt or you get some new religious icon that they have 3 of and thought you might like to have.

Then when talks gets around to the men, as it usually does, its always about how hard they work or how they helped us in some way or how they taught the boys how to attached a wall to concrete or something.

I don't know, but I left the Novus Ordo a while ago, where all of my girl friends were wanting to go out for drinks and pedicures. I could never go because they don't like nursing mother's sitting at the bar.

PenitentWoman · « **Reply #77 on:** July 23, 2012, 02:52:48 PM »

Quote from: CathMomof7

I really wonder about some people.

When my 5th child was 7 weeks old, I got a horrible bacterial infection that began with a mosquito bite. One Sunday afternoon I found myself double over in pain with a fever of 104 degrees. My husband had to take me to the emergency room.

I was nursing my son. I had to have IV antibiotics in the hospital. I was there overnight and kept my son WITH ME the ENTIRE TIME because I was nursing. I would not allow the Dr's or Nurses to take him. Period.

So, you will never, ever get me to say that women are justified in leaving their nursing babies behind to go out for drinks.

Do mothers need some time free of their children. Yes. It's called "Take your 7 children to your girlfriend who has 12 children's day-out."

You'd be surprised how relaxing having a glass of wine with cheese and crackers can be when 5 or 6 teenagers are occupying 10 or 12 children.

It's great fun and exciting. You might actually get a good recipe or two or some new fabric or pattern for a skirt or you get some new religious icon that they have 3 of and thought you might like to have.

Then when talks gets around to the men, as it usually does, its always about how hard they work or how they helped us in some way or how they taught the boys how to attached a wall to concrete or something.

I don't know, but I left the Novus Ordo a while ago, where all of my girl friends were wanting to go out for drinks and pedicures. I could never go because they don't like nursing mother's sitting at the bar.

I'm pretty sure you have my dream life. :wink: I hope I am blessed with a big family someday.

wallflower · « **Reply #78 on:** July 23, 2012, 05:18:35 PM »

Quote from: CathMomof7

I really wonder about some people.

When my 5th child was 7 weeks old, I got a horrible bacterial infection that began with a mosquito bite. One Sunday afternoon I found myself double over in pain with a fever of 104 degrees. My husband had to take me to the emergency room.

I was nursing my son. I had to have IV antibiotics in the hospital. I was there overnight and kept my son WITH ME the ENTIRE TIME because I was nursing. I would not allow the Dr's or Nurses to take him. Period.

I did the same with my gallbladder attacks. Nursed my 3 week old right there on the hospital bed all night in the ER. I don't think it would be possible with all illnesses and depending on what meds would have to be taken but for an infection and for gallbladder it's easily done yes.

Do mothers need some time free of their children. Yes. It's called "Take your 7 children to your girlfriend who has 12 children's day-out."

Honestly, that's all I have been trying to say, (except I don't believe it's limited to a playdate because that's not truly free of the children). I've asked many times for this to be clarified and no one has really answered upfront, preferring instead to keep talking about the bar. I'm glad to hear it.

PenitentWoman · « **Reply #79 on:** July 23, 2012, 06:03:09 PM »

I don't know if there is a one size fits all answer. It is really more that certain attitudes and patterns are troubling. What is a non medical reason that a mother needs to be away from a two week old?

The idea of needing lots of leisure time away from your family is a very new societal concept. It feeds into the modern idea that the vocation of mother/wife/ keeper of the home is not satisfying enough. So many mothers are worried about losing their pre-motherhood identity instead of embracing the new one.