I have to say I agree with you, CathMom. I've been reading this thread, and I started to think maybe I am just old-fashioned in my thinking. I'm not so sure that "any traditional priest" would say there is no problem with a mother doing this, not to mention her husband permitting it. It's not just about going out for drinks, it's about an attitude or disposition toward what ought to be one's station in life. But, that is the world and it's trappings in a nutshell.
The traditional priest I met with didn't believe working in a bar was a good environment for a mother, I doubt he would approve of me going to one to sit and drink. I can't see any holy man (priest OR layperson) who would approve of women leaving brand new babies to have drinks.
That's why I say the circuмstances may change things. However you aren't just in disagreement with the drinks, you are also in disagreement with her leaving her 2 week old, period. By what you're saying it seems that no matter what she were doing, going to a hair app't for example or grocery shopping or whatever else, you would think she were just some uninterested "modern" mother. All this talk of I would nevah! That's what I'm trying to get across is not necessarily a moral issue or a defect in her motherhood although some of you are reacting as though it is. Even the drinks depending on where they go may not be an issue. Are they going to a club to get drunk or to a pub to have a drink or two with dinner? We don't know. Those details do make a difference.
I find it disturbing because it shows the selfishness and self-centeredness of the mother, period.
By definition, motherhood is about self sacrifice. You sacrifice your body to growing your baby. Your sacrifice what foods you eat and what you drink so your baby can have the best start in life.
You sacrifice your old life for your new life as wife and mother. Going out for drinks, whether one or 7, with your girlfriends is not an appropriate adventure for a new mother. Period.
Going to dinner with other mothers and their children would be more appropriate because it focuses mothers on their new roles and responsibilities, and helps them to associate with women who are in the same state in life.
There are admittedly some places women cannot go with their tiny babies. A beauty salon, perhaps, but definitely a doctor's appointment. It is a good thing to volunteer under these circuмstances.
Going to the grocery with your babies and children is important and necessary. It shows others that you are a wife and mother attempting to care for your home. Men will not flirt with you in the grocery line under these circuмstances. It is also good practice for children learning to behave in public and practicing obedience and self-control. Mother's absolutely should not leave their children at home just to go grocery shopping.
My point is simple. Once you get married, your life changes. Your focus is your husband and your home. When you have children, it changes again.
Unfortunately we live in a society today where women do not know their place. They want to party and socialize all the time. Women have other duties. Their duties are nurturing and caretaking, organizing and planning. A better use of time would be visiting grandma and taking her dinner or visiting another young mother to help her organize her kitchen or something similar.
In times past, very few married women went out of their homes without their husbands or children. And when they did, they went with other married women or their relatives. And usually it was for something suggested above.