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Too bad you aren't on Facebook anymore, PW. I'd hook you up with a young lady I know. She is a traditional Catholic, owns a seamstress shop that caters to Trads and is studying fashion. No one would.ever call her frumpy. She and the clothes she designs and makes are lovely and modest.  She was my nieces maid of honor and when the ordered dress was a disaster she made a bridesmaid dress from scratch in a couple days. Amazing.
She is a nice, single twenty something woman, you two would probably hit it off.

PW, you need to place yourself under the spiritual headship of a solid traditional priest.  There is a protection proceeding from the divine order that is needed for single women out on their own and particularly those who have unmet needs or wounds from their upbringing.  You are at extremely high risk for a relationship with another abuser.  You have done it once before.  I say this to you like one alcoholic knows another.  Please find a priest and do this ASAP.  The internet is not a substitute for in person catechism and community. I say this not with the intention to offend but out of concern.  Your situation is serious.

PW, you need to place yourself under the spiritual headship of a solid traditional priest.  There is a protection proceeding from the divine order that is needed for single women out on their own and particularly those who have unmet needs or wounds from their upbringing.  You are at extremely high risk for a relationship with another abuser.  You have done it once before.  I say this to you like one alcoholic knows another.  Please find a priest and do this ASAP.  The internet is not a substitute for in person catechism and community. I say this not with the intention to offend but out of concern.  Your situation is serious.

I understand what Catherine is getting at.

I don't know who thumbed this post down, but it was most un-called for. Catherine is showing genuine concern.

The person who thumbed it down probably didn't understand. Allow me to elaborate:

PW sounds very attractive and feminine in her posts here. She also does sound vulnerable (maybe I already said that? I said feminine. Well, that's really the same thing.) She expressed a desire to be a traditional female, which is to say submissive. She has even stated many ways in which she submits to Church doctrine, morals, practices, etc. and that is a huge red flag for the "wrong kind of guy".  If a woman is submissive, she might be able/inclined to submit to an abusive "he-man" type. Bad men know this. They know what to look for.

I'm NOT saying she's doing anything wrong in her life, as she describes it on here.

What I *am* saying is that good people will often be taken advantage of -- or ATTEMPTS will be made to take advantage of them. It's a sad commentary on the world we live in, but it's nevertheless true.

Catherine (and myself) were merely REMINDING PenitentWoman that she should be somewhat careful as she meets people online or IRL.

I could go on for paragraphs, but let's just say that when a woman "falls" as PW has described in the past, she often ends up in a bad marriage or abusive situation, because a man (sometimes the partner who convinced her to sin) takes advantage of her feelings of guilt, etc. and verbally abuses her into the ground.

This pattern was very apparent in a book I read a couple years ago by a German midwife who lived in the early 1900's. "All for the love of mothers". An *excellent* book for all men and women to read. You learn more about human nature reading that book in 1 hour than most people learn in 4 years.