Seeing this post and some others had me thinking. So I am just going to express some things, feel free to correct anything or add your opinions.
Females love and need masculine presence.
What is the proper definition and understanding for masculinity and femininity? When thinking of a 'masculine presence' I might immediately think of a stereotypical 'macho man' but not every man has the frame, mass and personality to fit that criteria, the same applies to a typical feminine woman. I've seen Lad (or was it someone else?) say that a man is someone who puts their reason first, this makes sense from a Catholic perspective, though I'm not sure if he was referring to man as in human or man as in male. Likewise a man who uses his reason and doesn't compromise against God may not by physically 'masculine', have an introverted personality and only speak when necessary, how would you know if he had a 'masculine presence'? And if a women is extroverted and likes to talk and tends to be on the louder side how can see have a 'feminine presence'?
Regarding dominance this seems to do with recognising and accepting the order that God has made. That Adam was made more perfect than Eve, with the female nature being made inferior to the male nature. A male might not exert dominance and assertiveness in public or towards women who aren't his spouse but at home this may be different, but then would he really have a 'masculine presence'? Since in public he doesn't might not express those qualities. But dominance cannot be disordinate to God. A perfect example of disordinate dominance is with secular women, the most popular books for secular women is smut, filth which portrays an attractive male asserting a disordinate dominance over a women (though it also highlights that women do recognise their inferior nature and want a 'real man' to treat them as such, though in this case it's disordered). It's the difference between a kind and loving husband treating his wife as a woman made in the image and likeness of God whilst still retaining the authority, assertiveness and dominance as the man, the leader vs degrading and treating a woman like a whore. Proper order between a man and women is normal and necessary for a healthy relationship and I'll quote again "Females love and need masculine presence". It's the difference between leading as a man vs dragging/forcing. To lead still requires someone to follow willingly.
A perfect example of a gentle and loving man who is dominant and assertive is our Lord. Throughout the gospels you will see Him handle both men and women, enemies and allies in the most perfect, optimal and orderly manner.
Feminism appears to me to be an attack on Christ by the denial of God's order. Those who say/believe that men and women are equal are feminists and in reality deny God, because to deny the order that God has made is to deny God. Secular men who do not recognise or accept this order come on both ends of the extreme, from men who degrade women, to simps who extol women. It's no surprise that a women who is degraded as a whore becomes a whore because it is the women's nature to follow. If she is led to become a degenerate then who can be surprised when the outcome occurs? On the other hand women who deny God's order also go crazy and most do not live happy and fulfilling lives. In denying men the basic dignity and respect they are supposed to have as per natural order you are left with women being led straight into hell (by you know who) dragging everyone around them with them. The disorerded men exacerbate this problem. Interestingly these women are happy to submit themselves to men they find attractive yet for the other men they will not give the same respect and obedience. There are plenty of testimonies online of feminist women expressing natural feminine behaviour when they come across a 'real man'. Yet they do not know nor understand what a real man is because their perspective is based on a perverse denial of God's order, their 'real man' is sorely judged on physical attractiveness and disordered dominance.
Now I cannot make any statement regarding tradition Catholics because I have little experience as a traditional Catholic and my local trads are small in number and their business isn't my business (don't stick your nose where it doesn't belong). But I have heard from other users here that even trad circles have similar problems to the secular world, like the infamous 80/20 rule, or men not being men (whatever that means), disorderly families, though this many be outliers and not the general rule.
So I would like to hear others thoughts on these matters. This information will be useful in preparing me to become a better husband and father when the time comes.
Topic: Masculine presence, dominance and feminism (Read 2761 times)