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Offline AMDGJMJ

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Re: Marriage seeking advice
« Reply #30 on: September 11, 2022, 02:45:55 PM »
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  • I'm most closely Sedeprivationist, but I attend an SSPX church. I've always been hesitant toward long distance relationships, but I know a few people it's ended up working out for so I'd be willing to give it a shot. What state is she in?
    So...  I talked to her last night and she has recently decided (since the last time I talked to her about it) that at this point the single life is her vocation. 

    Sorry...  God-willing you can find another traditional woman. :pray:
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    Re: Marriage seeking advice
    « Reply #31 on: September 12, 2022, 09:06:57 PM »
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  • I'm in north Idaho, near Coeur d'Alene. I'd definitely like to be married and don't see how anything else could be my vocation at this point.

    I empathize with you, Bataar. :smirk: I would imagine though that you would have a good selection between three chapels in your area, considering, from what I know, that there are FSSP, SSPX, and CMRI chapels around there. I would only guess that there would be a lot of eligible maidens at particularly the SSPX chapel since it is a big priory. I believe the largest SSPX hub after that of St. Mary's if I am not mistaken. 

    I want to thank AMDGJMJ for the invitation as well. Time and money is something needed if one is to travel to find a spouse. I definitely would need more of those, but each situation is different. 
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    Re: Marriage seeking advice
    « Reply #32 on: September 13, 2022, 11:15:09 AM »
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  • I empathize with you, Bataar. :smirk: I would imagine though that you would have a good selection between three chapels in your area, considering, from what I know, that there are FSSP, SSPX, and CMRI chapels around there. I would only guess that there would be a lot of eligible maidens at particularly the SSPX chapel since it is a big priory. I believe the largest SSPX hub after that of St. Mary's if I am not mistaken.

    I want to thank AMDGJMJ for the invitation as well. Time and money is something needed if one is to travel to find a spouse. I definitely would need more of those, but each situation is different.
    That's the church I go to actually. The problem is that they don't really do any social activities where it's possible to meet people. They do 5 masses on Sunday and people from the next mass are usually arriving as the current Mass is ending so people are trying to get out to make room. They have a couple of classes and weekly seminars that the priests give, but there's not really any chance to interact with anyone at those kinds of events. This is just one area Catholic churches are bad at. I have some protestant friends and nearly their entire social structure is based around their church and events at their church. Multiple people I know met their spouse through the church, etc. 

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    Re: Marriage seeking advice
    « Reply #33 on: September 13, 2022, 02:37:50 PM »
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  • That's the church I go to actually. The problem is that they don't really do any social activities where it's possible to meet people. They do 5 masses on Sunday and people from the next mass are usually arriving as the current Mass is ending so people are trying to get out to make room. They have a couple of classes and weekly seminars that the priests give, but there's not really any chance to interact with anyone at those kinds of events. This is just one area Catholic churches are bad at. I have some protestant friends and nearly their entire social structure is based around their church and events at their church. Multiple people I know met their spouse through the church, etc.
    Have someone or maybe a few people of both sexes in mind for an after Mass get-together?  Maybe invite a couple of families to a nearby park for an Autumn leaves picnic.  See what happens.  

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    Re: Marriage seeking advice
    « Reply #34 on: September 13, 2022, 04:06:28 PM »
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  • I empathize with you, Bataar. :smirk: I would imagine though that you would have a good selection between three chapels in your area, considering, from what I know, that there are FSSP, SSPX, and CMRI chapels around there. I would only guess that there would be a lot of eligible maidens at particularly the SSPX chapel since it is a big priory. I believe the largest SSPX hub after that of St. Mary's if I am not mistaken.

    I want to thank AMDGJMJ for the invitation as well. Time and money is something needed if one is to travel to find a spouse. I definitely would need more of those, but each situation is different.
    My husband and I originally met and courted over long distance.  So, I totally understand about the expenses that can be involved with that.  :cowboy:

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    Re: Marriage seeking advice
    « Reply #35 on: September 13, 2022, 04:12:45 PM »
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  • That's the church I go to actually. The problem is that they don't really do any social activities where it's possible to meet people. They do 5 masses on Sunday and people from the next mass are usually arriving as the current Mass is ending so people are trying to get out to make room. They have a couple of classes and weekly seminars that the priests give, but there's not really any chance to interact with anyone at those kinds of events. This is just one area Catholic churches are bad at. I have some protestant friends and nearly their entire social structure is based around their church and events at their church. Multiple people I know met their spouse through the church, etc.
    Wow...  If your chapel is that big maybe you could talk to your priest about him letting you start a singles group for the parish?  We recently had someone start one at our chapel, but it sounds tiny in comparison to yours.::)

    You can literally do monthly Meet-Ups in the chapel if you have one and play board games or go for a group walk at a park until you get more established.

    It sounds like many people at your church besides you might benefit from it as well.  :popcorn:
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    Re: Marriage seeking advice
    « Reply #36 on: September 13, 2022, 04:15:05 PM »
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  • That's the church I go to actually. The problem is that they don't really do any social activities where it's possible to meet people. They do 5 masses on Sunday and people from the next mass are usually arriving as the current Mass is ending so people are trying to get out to make room. They have a couple of classes and weekly seminars that the priests give, but there's not really any chance to interact with anyone at those kinds of events. This is just one area Catholic churches are bad at. I have some protestant friends and nearly their entire social structure is based around their church and events at their church. Multiple people I know met their spouse through the church, etc.
    Maybe start a young adult (singles) club at the church, yourself, with approval of the priest?  If he doesn't give approval, do it anyway.  You just won't get to "advertise" in the bulletin.  

    Our priest refused, so we did it anyway.  Just put flyers on the cars just before the end of mass.  Worked great until we moved.  No one picked it up afterwards.

    My daughter started a brunch group, for after mass.  Won't get people from all the masses, but more people have started going to the early mass.

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    Re: Marriage seeking advice
    « Reply #37 on: September 13, 2022, 04:18:52 PM »
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  • Maybe start a young adult (singles) club at the church, yourself, with approval of the priest?  If he doesn't give approval, do it anyway.  You just won't get to "advertise" in the bulletin.
    Hahaha!  Apparently we both were writing up the same idea at the same time.  🤣

    And same here about flyers for our Young Adult Group Meet-Up in November.  Father still hasn't given us permission to leave anything in the church (at least yet).  So, we have just been handing them out to people who we think might be interested.  😅
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