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Offline SoldierOfChrist

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« on: September 25, 2015, 08:05:35 AM »
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  • I've got a coworker who has Catholicism in his background but not a very good upbringing.  He was previously married outside of the Church, got divorced, now living with his girlfriend with whom he has two young children.  Their relationship is falling apart and she is not interested in marriage.  What do you tell someone in this kind of situation?

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    « Reply #1 on: September 25, 2015, 09:50:58 AM »
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  • A lot depends upon what he's willing to hear.

    You either:

    1.  Tell him the truth that he is reaping what he has sown.  It's going to be a rough road ahead but this is the consequence of sin.

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    2.  Tell him nothing because he's not going to listen to you and it will just make life in the workplace unbearable.

    The only other option is to refer him to a traditional Catholic priest not connected with any diocese.  No matter how "good" a priest who is connected with the Conciliar organization is, he will end up solving nothing because he can't outright tell the man the Truth.

    These are the times in which we live.




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    « Reply #2 on: September 25, 2015, 11:28:47 AM »
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  • Sad...... but true.

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    « Reply #3 on: September 25, 2015, 04:51:09 PM »
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  • Quote from: TKGS
    A lot depends upon what he's willing to hear.

    You either:

    1.  Tell him the truth that he is reaping what he has sown.  It's going to be a rough road ahead but this is the consequence of sin.

    or

    2.  Tell him nothing because he's not going to listen to you and it will just make life in the workplace unbearable.

    The only other option is to refer him to a traditional Catholic priest not connected with any diocese.  No matter how "good" a priest who is connected with the Conciliar organization is, he will end up solving nothing because he can't outright tell the man the Truth.

    These are the times in which we live.




    Yeah I was thinking about referring him to an SSPX priest.  I'm trying to get it out of him whether he was previously married in the Church, but he hasn't said.  I told him that as long as he wasn't, then he can just marry the girl and at least then he'll have a solid commitment from her.  The problem is that she doesn't want to get married.  Yet they have two children together.  So if he leaves her, he leaves the children abandoned.  He can handle hard truths and it won't make the workplace unbearable.  I just want to handle this delicately because I want it to end with himself and his wife attending the traditional Mass and living Catholic lives.  Then again, if he was previously married in the Church, then he's still married, so there's really nothing that I can tell him.

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    « Reply #4 on: September 26, 2015, 02:37:15 PM »
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  • He needs to discuss his situation with a good priest who can help him sort out his life.

    A relationship that is falling apart cannot be repaired by marriage.  In the end he may have to take his lumps, pay his child support, and do his best to father his children.  It would be FAR worse to be married to a woman who only married for the sake of appearances.


     

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