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Title: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 14, 2018, 11:42:51 AM
A lady here on CI, who I respect, said that"male immodesty tempts  feminine women".

In the context of the subject we were discussing: female immodesty in dress, I would answer that women are not tempted to sin in the same way as men are. I would say that male immodesty may attract some women, but I would not say it tempts them to sin.

I'll be blunt, when a man of the world sees a young good looking well figured girl dressed provocatively, they immediately mentally strip her of her clothes  and fantisize or begin to plan on how to have relations with them. That is a mortal sin. 

"Whosoever shall look on a woman to lust after her, hath already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:28).

For a Catholic man, when they sees such a girl, a temptation, they must turn away and try to get the image out of their minds in order not to sin.

I do not think women have the same problem. I think that women might be attracted by a "a young good looking well figured man dressed provocatively", but they are not tempted to sin as a man is.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 14, 2018, 11:53:11 AM
Women are not tempted to sin to the same degree as a man, but they are indeed tempted to sin.  That is, if course, as long as the woman is not frigid.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Cantarella on March 14, 2018, 11:57:26 AM
I think that contrary to post -sɛҳuąƖ revolution propaganda (and wishful thinking of immature men) the temptation you describe above (of undressing the men in our minds and fantasize) is quite foreign to the female nature, really.

I think the idea of women beign the same as men as of their sɛҳuąƖ appetites, has been heavily fueled by the pornographic industry.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 14, 2018, 01:22:02 PM
Women are not tempted to sin to the same degree as a man, but they are indeed tempted to sin.  That is, if course, as long as the woman is not frigid.
And I would go further, still, and say that some women are tempted much more than others, just as some men are tempted much more than others.  Again, not to the same degree as men.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 14, 2018, 01:39:30 PM
Women are not tempted to sin to the same degree as a man, but they are indeed tempted to sin.  That is, if course, as long as the woman is not frigid.
Basically, the provocatively dressed female is telling the man, I am easy.  I described in detail how a man is tempted to sin by the provocative fashions of women. 

I ask, how exactly is a Catholic woman tempted to commit mortal sin, what exactly takes place?
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 14, 2018, 01:52:49 PM
Basically, the provocatively dressed female is telling the man, I am easy.  I described in detail how a man is tempted to sin by the provocative fashions of women.

I ask, how exactly is a Catholic woman tempted to commit mortal sin, what exactly takes place?
I am sorry, LT, but I just can't be as blunt as you... 
I will say that, generally to a lesser degree, women fantasize in the exact same way with exactly the same detail as a man.  Again, some women more than others, if she is not frigid.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 14, 2018, 02:12:18 PM
I think that contrary to post -sɛҳuąƖ revolution propaganda (and wishful thinking of immature men) the temptation you describe above (of undressing the men in our minds and fantasize) is quite foreign to the female nature, really.

I think the idea of women beign the same as men as of their sɛҳuąƖ appetites, has been heavily fueled by the pornographic industry.

More and more you hear of WOMEN being addicted to pornography, so I think that it's beginning to affect them as well.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 14, 2018, 02:15:16 PM
And I would go further, still, and say that some women are tempted much more than others, just as some men are tempted much more than others.  Again, not to the same degree as men.

Overall, men should be held to the same (or very similar but as applied to men) standards of modesty as women.  Not only COULD they cause temptations to many, but they should exhibit modesty out of example to everyone else, including women.  If a man runs around shirtless but then rails at women who show a little cleavage, how is that going to strike a woman except as being hypocritical?  Female immodesty is discussed almost ad nauseam but male immodesty not even raised as an issue.  Sounds like a double standard.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 14, 2018, 02:18:50 PM
I am sorry, LT, but I just can't be as blunt as you...
I will say that, generally to a lesser degree, women fantasize in the exact same way with exactly the same detail as a man.  Again, some women more than others, if she is not frigid.

Presumably the mechanism would be exactly the same.  Various impure/erotic thoughts enter the mind, and the woman could consent to them.  While perhaps some women might be less inclined to having these thoughts, and they don't necessarily arise in them when confronted with some male immodesty to the same degree as might happen to a man, the sequence that leads to sin would presumably be the same.

Also, because they are not tempted as much, perhaps, by overt sɛҳuąƖ thoughts, women are more inclined to "flirt" with thoughts and feelings that border on the impure, even if they don't strictly cross the line into sin.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: MMagdala on March 14, 2018, 03:04:13 PM

I think the idea of women being the same as men as of their sɛҳuąƖ appetites, has been heavily fueled by the pornographic industry.
and by militant feminists.
(You mean, by the pornography industry.)  
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: MMagdala on March 14, 2018, 03:07:38 PM
Also, because they are not tempted as much, perhaps, by overt sɛҳuąƖ thoughts, women are more inclined to "flirt" with thoughts and feelings that border on the impure, even if they don't strictly cross the line into sin.
True, yes.  However, even that can be a significant challenge for some of us women -- i.e., to be careless about entertaining such interior flirtations. If unchecked, those can lead to sins of thought.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Cantarella on March 14, 2018, 03:44:38 PM
More and more you hear of WOMEN being addicted to pornography, so I think that it's beginning to affect them as well.
I think that is more because of decades of feminist indocrination of women wanting to be just like the men (combined with a foolish attempt to please the men themselves which is a contradiction), rather than a natural or biological inclination of women.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 14, 2018, 03:50:56 PM
More and more you hear of WOMEN being addicted to pornography, so I think that it's beginning to affect them as well.
I do not believe it. The pornographic magazines are being bought up by the homos. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Cantarella on March 14, 2018, 03:55:16 PM
Basically, the provocatively dressed female is telling the man, I am easy.  I described in detail how a man is tempted to sin by the provocative fashions of women.

I ask, how exactly is a Catholic woman tempted to commit mortal sin, what exactly takes place?

I think the temptation for women in this regard is more a vanity issue than physical unchastity. Sure, we can see a good looking man and think to ourselves: "wow, what a handsome man". But from that point of simple awareness, to actually "undressing the man in our minds and imagining"... I just don't think it naturally happens. Or maybe it is just me.

What I do remember happening back in my early youth is me instantaneously trying to appear more pretty or even flirtatous, this is, actively seeking attention, when the mentioned good looking young man appeared in the room. It is really an ego issue. If left unchecked, this could lead to sins of vanity or even immodesty.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Miseremini on March 14, 2018, 04:01:21 PM
I think this topic is one the OP should be discussing with his own wife
This is not even a topic that needs discussion with one's own spouse.
There are too many topics of late of a titilating nature here on CI.
We all know what tempts each of us and we should be trying to correct ourselves
not giving ammo to voyeurs.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Matthew on March 14, 2018, 04:14:37 PM
Women are wired differently. They have their own immoral "porn" equivalent -- but it takes a vastly different form.
It's called a Romance Novel.

Romance novels "set up" the characters. Women (unless they've been corrupted, over-sɛҳuąƖized, their nature tampered with, or they have above-average sex drive) aren't interested in watching or reading about sex "without any context".

They need a backstory. Hence the difference between romance novels and male porn.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 14, 2018, 04:16:42 PM
I think the temptation for women in this regard is more a vanity issue than physical unchastity. Sure, we can see a good looking man and think to ourselves: "wow, what a handsome man". But from that point of simple awareness, to actually "undressing the man in our minds and imagining"... I just don't think it naturally happens. Or maybe it is just me.

What I do remember happening back in my early youth is me instantaneously trying to appear more pretty or even flirtatous, this is, actively seeking attention, when the mentioned good looking young man appeared in the room. It is really an ego issue. If left unchecked, this could lead to sins of vanity or even immodesty.
Cantarela,

That makes more sense to me and jibes with my experience in life. Thank you.

I could always tell the day a girl loses her virginity by the great change in them. Where they were before that day flirting with all the boys, high on the pedestal. The next day, they look crestfallen, like they have been disemboweled of the joys of their youth. If women were like men in their temptations, then those girls would have been ecstatic the next day after their "conquest". Not a one ever was.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 14, 2018, 09:09:28 PM
I think that is more because of decades of feminist indocrination of women wanting to be just like the men (combined with a foolish attempt to please the men themselves which is a contradiction), rather than a natural or biological inclination of women.
NO WAY.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: poche on March 15, 2018, 05:49:37 AM
A lady here on CI, who I respect, said that"male immodesty tempts  feminine women".

In the context of the subject we were discussing: female immodesty in dress, I would answer that women are not tempted to sin in the same way as men are. I would say that male immodesty may attract some women, but I would not say it tempts them to sin.

I'll be blunt, when a man of the world sees a young good looking well figured girl dressed provocatively, they immediately mentally strip her of her clothes  and fantisize or begin to plan on how to have relations with them. That is a mortal sin.

"Whosoever shall look on a woman to lust after her, hath already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:28).

For a Catholic man, when they sees such a girl, a temptation, they must turn away and try to get the image out of their minds in order not to sin.

I do not think women have the same problem. I think that women might be attracted by a "a young good looking well figured man dressed provocatively", but they are not tempted to sin as a man is.
I think we should be circuмspect in how we dress. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 15, 2018, 06:19:45 AM

I could always tell the day a girl loses her virginity by the great change in them. Where they were before that day flirting with all the boys, high on the pedestal. The next day, they look crestfallen, like they have been disemboweled of the joys of their youth. If women were like men in their temptations, then those girls would have been ecstatic the next day after their "conquest". Not a one ever was.

That's not because those girls have an intrinsic default to virtue which makes them realize their error, rather, it's because they realize the guys with whom they slept were either beta males and/or scuм bags, which left the girls feeling low about themselves, hence, as a defense mechanism, they convince themselves that they weren't guilty of using the guys, and only they were the ones being used.  

If the guys had been alpha or sigma males, those girls would have been satisfied with their own "conquest".

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 15, 2018, 08:08:28 AM
Most women are, more or less, sɛҳuąƖ deviants. It's due to their fallen "nature", hence their Jezebel and Asmodeus spirit.
Firstly, your entire post is much too graphic for me and should be removed.
Secondly, I wonder how you are able to communicate with women at ALL in real life, considering your condescending attitude towards them.
I feel for you.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 15, 2018, 08:15:32 AM
Firstly, your entire post is much too graphic for me and should be removed.
Secondly, I wonder how you are able to communicate with women at ALL in real life, considering your condescending attitude towards them.
I feel for you.

He has a condescending attitude towards everyone, not just women.  He kept calling me "tubby" when I objected to his assertion that eating lots of refined sugar is good for people ... even though he's never seen me.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 15, 2018, 08:17:31 AM
That's not because those girls have an intrinsic default to virtue which makes them realize their error, rather, it's because they realize the guys with whom they slept were either beta males and/or scuм bags, which left the girls feeling low about themselves, hence, as a defense mechanism, they convince themselves that they weren't guilty of using the guys, and only they were the ones being used.  

If the guys had been alpha or sigma males, those girls would have been satisfied with their own "conquest".

You're deeply polluted with the spirit of the world.  You would undoubtedly consider most of the male saints, and Our Lord Himself, to be "beta" males on account of their meekness.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 15, 2018, 08:20:36 AM
He has a condescending attitude towards everyone, not just women.  He kept calling me "tubby" when I objected to his assertion that eating lots of refined sugar is good for people ... even though he's never seen me.
How do people survive, spiritually, when they are so vicious to God's creation?
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 15, 2018, 09:29:46 AM
That's not because those girls have an intrinsic default to virtue which makes them realize their error, rather, it's because they realize the guys with whom they slept were either beta males and/or scuм bags, which left the girls feeling low about themselves, hence, as a defense mechanism, they convince themselves that they weren't guilty of using the guys, and only they were the ones being used.  

If the guys had been alpha or sigma males, those girls would have been satisfied with their own "conquest".
Alpha, Beta, Sigma males? I was talking about human beings, not dogs. 

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Meg on March 15, 2018, 09:35:48 AM
Women are wired differently. They have their own immoral "porn" equivalent -- but it takes a vastly different form.
It's called a Romance Novel.

Romance novels "set up" the characters. Women (unless they've been corrupted, over-sɛҳuąƖized, their nature tampered with, or they have above-average sex drive) aren't interested in watching or reading about sex "without any context".

They need a backstory. Hence the difference between romance novels and male porn.

I never thought of it in the above terms before, but it makes sense that women need a backstory and context. Though I don't understand why women would want to read the disgusting modern romances. 

I have to wonder if even the old-fashioned romance novels written by, say, Charlotte Bronte and Jane Austin (which were for the most part chaste), were a set-up for the modern romance novels, though maybe unintentionally. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 15, 2018, 09:49:08 AM
Firstly, your entire post is much too graphic for me and should be removed.
You say that because you weren't able to refute the facts that I stated. Instead, you grant yourself a waiver to the duty of refutation and claim "that's too graphic".



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Secondly, I wonder how you are able to communicate with women at ALL in real life, considering your condescending attitude towards them.
I feel for you.

"Fanny" :laugh1:
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 15, 2018, 09:50:56 AM
Overall, men should be held to the same (or very similar but as applied to men) standards of modesty as women.  Not only COULD they cause temptations to many, but they should exhibit modesty out of example to everyone else, including women.  If a man runs around shirtless but then rails at women who show a little cleavage, how is that going to strike a woman except as being hypocritical?  Female immodesty is discussed almost ad nauseam but male immodesty not even raised as an issue.  Sounds like a double standard.

Says the guy who probably pushes a pen for a living and hides himself from the elements when he exercises in air conditioned environments.

Some laborious acts in the outdoors necessitate men to go shirtless or wear shorts.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: JezusDeKoning on March 15, 2018, 09:51:36 AM
How do people survive, spiritually, when they are so vicious to God's creation?
He's always been one of those people with a Roosh-V mentality - misogynistic, condescending towards women and men. When Mary is the Queen of our Church! Machismo is not everything, especially when many saints were meek and excelled in humility. 

It's quite disgusting.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 15, 2018, 09:52:58 AM

Some laborious acts in the outdoors necessitate men to go shirtless or wear shorts.
I don't recall any monastery which has shorts and no shirts as their habit.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 15, 2018, 10:24:37 AM
My Capuchin priest for the first 10 years after I came back to the Church was ordained in 1953. He had served in the missions in the South Pacific Islands. One day we were discussing the incident involving JPII in the South Pacific giving communion to a topless native. The lady was older and fat and totally unattractive, a sin against charity. We talked a while and he started to tell me about the topless native girls. He said that almost all of them were not a temptation since there was nothing obscuring the realities of nature and child birth and gravity. He said that the young teens were where there was a big problem, and that it was a constant fight for all the priests.

I find it hard to believe that a woman would be "turned on" at seeing a man shirtless or in shorts, specially the men that most often go shirtless, sweaty dirty men who work under the Sun. Personally, I no longer go shirtless, nor do I wear shorts when I work. I do not go shirtless because I can stay cleaner and drier with a t-shirt that I can dunk in a bucket of water to cool down, or I can change. I do not wear shorts because of the mosquitos, fire ants, spiders, thorns, poison ivy, dirt, oil.

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 15, 2018, 10:33:53 AM
You say that because you weren't able to refute the facts that I stated. Instead, you grant yourself a waiver to the duty of refutation and claim "that's too graphic".



"Fanny" :laugh1:
If you were to treat women as the delicate flowers they should be, you might not have such disdain for them.

Just because this is a public forum does not mean it needs to contain filth.  As a Catholic forum we are supposed to set the example for others to follow and, knowing this is a mixed company forum, extra caution should be taken.

You sound like a man who has been spurned by a woman, more than once.  I am sorry for you.

Fanny farmer chocolates were my favorites...
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 15, 2018, 10:43:58 AM
If you were to treat women as the delicate flowers they should be, you might not have such disdain for them.
Sluts, feminists and modern women who consent to fαɢɢօtry don't deserve to be treated as delicate flowers. They should be ignored until they espouse their filth and error, which will then require correcting them and calling them out as social & spiritual virons.

Only virtuous women deserve to be treated like princesses and delicate flowers.


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You sound like a man who has been spurned by a woman, more than once.  I am sorry for you.

Wrong analysis and lame narrative.

It's sorta the other way around, although I don't deliberately spurn women to hurt them. Two women have actually gone insane when they knew they couldn't have me. True story.

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Cantarella on March 15, 2018, 10:46:08 AM
Cantarela,

That makes more sense to me and jibes with my experience in life. Thank you.

I could always tell the day a girl loses her virginity by the great change in them. Where they were before that day flirting with all the boys, high on the pedestal. The next day, they look crestfallen, like they have been disemboweled of the joys of their youth. If women were like men in their temptations, then those girls would have been ecstatic the next day after their "conquest". Not a one ever was.

I think that is because they realize that they just lost their most precious asset. If they knew the true male nature, they would not have been so foolish. Fathers used to warn daughters about such facts in life.

Regardless of what the current world says, everyone knows that the true worth of a woman is intrinsically connected to her chastity. Sadly, many women have this realization too late in life. Even outside the religious context, the flower of virginity is supposed to be given to a man within the context of MARRIAGE and long-life commitment. That is the only man who truly deserves it. A man who will provide for you, protect you, be the father of your children, etc. That is the only man who deserves your body, period. That is also, one of the reasons of the importance of modesty in dress, as well. Slutty and loose women lower the real value of woman in general. They betray their gender.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 15, 2018, 11:18:58 AM

I don't recall any monastery working in coal mines, building iron bridges and logging trees in humid environments, nor have I ever seen a monk run a marathon or race a bike 150 miles in his habit.
The Monks of Beauchief Abbey were still mining the coal at Smotherfly, Alfreton, in Derbyshire around 1335.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 15, 2018, 11:21:30 AM

I don't recall any monastery working in coal mines, building iron bridges and logging trees in humid environments, nor have I ever seen a monk run a marathon or race a bike 150 miles in his habit.
Bhutan's iron bridge, built originally by a 16th-century monk, Thangton Gyelpo.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 15, 2018, 11:25:56 AM

I don't recall any monastery working in coal mines, building iron bridges and logging trees in humid environments, nor have I ever seen a monk run a marathon or race a bike 150 miles in his habit.

Monks logging trees?
You need a picture for that?
How do you think all those wood monasteries were built and all their cells?
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 15, 2018, 11:27:51 AM

I don't recall any monastery working in coal mines, building iron bridges and logging trees in humid environments, nor have I ever seen a monk run a marathon or race a bike 150 miles in his habit.

Monks are not supposed to participate in such races.  Don't you know anything?
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 15, 2018, 11:33:11 AM
Croix de Fer and all of those taking him seriously and debating with him about really, nothing,  have started to ruin this thread with these digressions and inane arguments. The thread is becoming like: blah, blah, blah, blah , a good posting by Cantarella, blah blah blah, blah blah, a good posting by Matthew, blah, blah blah...

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Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Meg on March 15, 2018, 11:40:34 AM
Croix de Fer and all of those taking him seriously and debating with him about really, nothing,  have started to ruin this thread with these digressions and inane arguments. The thread is becoming like: blah, blah, blah, blah , a good posting by Cantarella, blah blah blah, blah blah, a good posting by Matthew, blah, blah blah...

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You may think that we should not say anything to Croix De Fer (unless it meets with your approval).

He may not listen, it's true. But then again....maybe he will. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 15, 2018, 12:04:52 PM
You may think that we should not say anything to Croix De Fer (unless it meets with your approval).
It has nothing to do with meeting my approval, it has to do with what I stated,  I don't know why anyone takes him seriously.

I guess the difference between those arguing with him  and I is that they take him seriously. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 15, 2018, 02:46:17 PM
I think that is because they realize that they just lost their most precious asset. If they knew the true male nature, they would not have been so foolish. Fathers used to warn daughters about such facts in life.

Regardless of what the current world says, everyone knows that the true worth of a woman is intrinsically connected to her chastity. Sadly, many women have this realization too late in life. Even outside the religious context, the flower of virginity is supposed to be given to a man within the context of MARRIAGE and long-life commitment. That is the only man who truly deserves it. A man who will provide for you, protect you, be the father of your children, etc. That is the only man who deserves your body, period. That is also, one of the reasons of the importance of modesty in dress, as well. Slutty and loose women lower the real value of woman in general. They betray their gender.
Reminds me of Tobias & Sarah
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Matthew on March 16, 2018, 08:07:28 AM
Ok, if Ladislaus and Croix de Fer could "take it outside" that would be great.

I tried to clean up the thread a bit. It's a very important thread on a very important topic. It doesn't need sidetracks and bickering.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 16, 2018, 08:28:45 AM
Monks are not supposed to participate in such races.  Don't you know anything?
:facepalm:

So don't expect laymen who train for competitive races to follow stringent dress attire a la monks, especially in hot, humid weather.

Again, you miss the point.

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"Fanny" :laugh1: says:
Bhutan's iron bridge, built originally by a 16th-century monk, Thangton Gyelpo.
You referenced a faithless pagan - Buddhist monk. Are Catholics supposed to follow the examples of dumb idolaters? Moreover, were you alive in the 16th century? How do you know he didn't build the bridge shirtless? Shaolin monks perform martial arts shirtless.

You lose, again
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 16, 2018, 08:52:17 AM
The Monks of Beauchief Abbey were still mining the coal at Smotherfly, Alfreton, in Derbyshire around 1335.

Poor example. It doesn't get hot in England, much less, hot and humid.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 16, 2018, 09:01:37 AM
Monks logging trees?
You need a picture for that?
How do you think all those wood monasteries were built and all their cells?

You can wear at least a light shirt even when logging ... without compromising safety.  In fact, I would want to wear something more protective than even a shirt.  Now, when I was at seminary in SSPX, many were zealous about always wearing cassocks.  I myself wore a cassock when up on a steep roof replacing corroded metal rooting panels.  In restrospect, that was very stupid.  But sometimes when you're young and idealistic and zealous ... you can violate prudence.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 16, 2018, 09:03:57 AM
Ok, if Ladislaus and Croix de Fer could "take it outside" that would be great.

I tried to clean up the thread a bit. It's a very important thread on a very important topic. It doesn't need sidetracks and bickering.

Just saw this.  Sorry about the latest post.  I made it before seeing this.  I wouldn't directly violate your requests here on your forum.  I'll avoid directly going after Croix.  Perhaps we could take it outside (literally).  Some forums have a specific forum called "Take It Outside" where people could be banned from the rest of the forum except that room for a while (like a suspension).
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 16, 2018, 09:07:49 AM
I will here appeal to my "Hero Member" status on the forum, ranking 3rd all time in total CI posts behind only you and Neil.  Not sure what that says about me though.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 16, 2018, 09:24:43 AM
You're deeply polluted with the spirit of the world.  You would undoubtedly consider most of the male saints, and Our Lord Himself, to be "beta" males on account of their meekness.

True meekness (the Hebraic meaning) is to have strength, but to only use that strength for a just and righteous cause (effecting the Lord's Kingship on Earth), not to use it arbitrarily, hastily, imprudently or for the pleasure of pushing people around.

A person who is inherently weak is not meek. There is no virtue in not having a trait that can be abused for one's self-interest, pleasure or whatever reason. Virtue resides in the person who has the ability do wrong, but, instead, he uses that ability to do right according to God's will for him.

Jesus Christ and the saints were alphas and sigmas. They weren't betas which the modernist, false theology depicts them as a psyop to get the faithful to be passive cowards and tolerant of iniquity.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 16, 2018, 09:35:22 AM
We were doing the family rosary this morning and as I was opening a prayer book, I saw a holy card that has a painting of Our Lord, the Blessed Mother, and the Souls in Purgatory. Our Lord and all the men are bare chested with thighs exposed, and all the women are fully covered. Like all other paintings like this one, the men’s bodies are in perfect athletic bodybuilder (before steroids) physical condition. In the real world, men rarely have bodies like those in the paintings. The equivalent in perfection of a female body for men would that the painting would be of naked Playboy centerfolds. In other words, those paintings of men would be the apex of unrealistic temptation to women, the same as air brushed Playboy centerfolds are to men. So, I serious doubt that women are tempted to lust by seeing shirtless men, for if that was so, then the Church has been tempting women for 2000 years. Just imagine the inverse, if the Church commissioned all its paintings of women to be of bare chested and exposed thighs Playboy centerfolds.

(I know there might be a painting of Eve that one can present or a woman with her cleavage exposed, but I think they were rare, likely during the Renaissance, but I am talking about practically EVERY painting with men.)  
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 16, 2018, 11:20:43 AM
We were doing the family rosary this morning and as I was opening a prayer book, I saw a holy card that has a painting of Our Lord, the Blessed Mother, and the Souls in Purgatory. Our Lord and all the men are bare chested with thighs exposed, and all the women are fully covered. Like all other paintings like this one, the men’s bodies are in perfect athletic bodybuilder (before steroids) physical condition. In the real world, men rarely have bodies like those in the paintings. The equivalent in perfection of a female body for men would that the painting would be of naked Playboy centerfolds. In other words, those paintings of men would be the apex of unrealistic temptation to women, the same as air brushed Playboy centerfolds are to men. So, I serious doubt that women are tempted to lust by seeing shirtless men, for if that was so, then the Church has been tempting women for 2000 years. Just imagine the inverse, if the Church commissioned all its paintings of women to be of bare chested and exposed thighs Playboy centerfolds.

(I know there might be a painting of Eve that one can present or a woman with her cleavage exposed, but I think they were rare, likely during the Renaissance, but I am talking about practically EVERY painting with men.)  

Well, there's more to covering up than not to be a temptation.  Modesty is more than just that.  So, for instance, you might have a man or woman who is seriously overweight or otherwise extremely unattractive.  If they were to expose themselves, they would not only NOT be a temptation, but it might actually have the OPPOSITE effect, to turn people off to allures of the flesh.  So are unsightly women exempt from the rules of modesty?  Of course not.  Just because they do not cause temptation in men, they can run around half naked?  Similarly for a man.  Just because he might not pose a temptation to any woman, then it's OK for him to run around shirtless?  It bothers me when I see men walking around in public without their shirts on ... and not because I'm the least bit "tempted" by them.  Why then?  Because for anyone, whether a temptation or not, to run around partially undressed creates and ATMOSPHERE and a CULTURE of immodesty in general.  Even my younger children, when they see a man walking around in public without his shirt on, find it shocking and ask, "Why is he naked?"

There's something there about how we comport ourselves as temples of the Holy Spirit ... as St. Paul taught, with dignity and decorum.  Similarly with men.  So, even IF I know that I will not cause temptation to anyone, I would be embarrassed to walk around without a shirt on [and not because I'm unsightly or anything, since I work out and have a good physique].  Even among [straight] men, I would be very reluctant to take my shirt off.  When I was a kid, even before the notion of being attracted to women presented itself to my mind, I was embarrassed to be "skins" when we played shirts-and-skins.  When I was at High School and we had to shower with other boys in an open shower at the gym, that embarrassed me.  When I was a very young boy, maybe 4 or 5, for some reason my Mom took a picture of me when I was taking a bath, and I immediately placed my hands over my private parts.  So, even apart from the problem of causing someone else a temptation, there's a natural instinct we have towards modesty.

When we cover up, we are presenting ourselves as human beings, as people with souls created in the image and likeness of God, with higher faculties, intellect and will.  When we run around half naked, we are presenting ourselves (and relating to other people) as mere bodies and flesh.  But we are temples of the Holy Spirit, and being properly attired helps to present itself that way to others.  And the same thing goes for dressing like slobs.  Most people run around in public dressed like slobs even when they're not being immodest.  People used to dress with much more dignity and decorum in earlier societies that were more civilized.  Then women might wear tons of makeup and lots of jewelry.  Even if done in such a way as not to actually cause a temptation, they still present themselves as extremely focused on themselves as mere flesh, as animals, rather than as souls created in the image and likeness of God.  Or when certain cultures of men wear tons of "bling".

More and more these days, you'll see men running around in public without their shirts on.  And the other question, then, is WHY they are doing it.  At the gym, there are some guys who wear next to nothing on their upper bodies, and are well built ... and I often notice them in front of the mirror flexing and checking themselves out.  Many of these run around like that because they're trying to get attention from women.  [Croix, is that you?]  Even if the women aren't tempted per se, they're hoping to get a look, to have some woman "check" them out.  So a lot of the motivation behind guys taking their shirts off is impure in the sense of their wanting to be noticed for their physique ... so an impure vanity.  Not to mention that vanity in a man is even uglier than in a woman, because there's something more natural (albeit in a Fallen Nature type of way) for a woman to want to be attractive than for a man.  Frankly, these guys strike me as borderline gαy ... so obsessed are they with vanity.  So, because men don't pose as strong a temptation to women as the other way around, it's OK for a man strutting his half-naked stuff around trying to get women to look at him and check him out?  Even if he doesn't actually provoke a sin right there on the spot, he's getting the INTEREST of women, who might become more and more interested in the physical attractiveness of men.  So even while not directly sin, it may be creating habits and inclinations and patterns of thinking that might ULTIMATELY lead to sin.  Not to mention the bad example they are setting, and even potentially resentment from women.  From time to time one reads of women who expose themselves in public in order to protest the double standard.  Hey, if men can walk around without their shirts, why can't we?  That's sexist, they claim.

Would I want my teenage daughter mixing with a group of boys without their shirts on?  Certainly not.  Even if it doesn't cause her to commit an immediate sin, it can still cause an at-least-vague sense of attraction and physical interest in the opposite sex ... that probably would not lead anywhere good in the end.

As for art, very few men are tempted by PAINTINGS of nude women, far fewer, at any rate, than would be tempted by the sight of an actual nude woman.  Similarly, if a woman were to see a very well built man without a shirt, that would undoubtedly be more of a temptation than a painting.

So, in short, to view modesty merely with regard to its potential to cause an immediate sinful reaction is WAY too narrow a perspective on the subject.  St. Paul doesn't write about it that way at all.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 16, 2018, 11:48:43 AM
Well, there's more to covering up than not to be a temptation....  
Of course, but this thread is precisely about temptation, "Does Male Immodesty tempt women in the same way as female immodesty tempts men?" That is exactly what it is about.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 16, 2018, 01:01:26 PM
Of course, but this thread is precisely about temptation, "Does Male Immodesty tempt women in the same way as female immodesty tempts men?" That is exactly what it is about.

It had broadened into a general discussion about whether it's OK in general for men to dress immodestly.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: 1st Mansion Tenant on March 16, 2018, 02:11:09 PM
Where I grew up guys wandering around in public without shirts were considered low-class. Even in the hot summer sun a t-shirt isn't a real burden. I have a neighbor who sometimes does yard-work without his shirt. He's middle-aged and pudgy and hairy-- not a temptation, believe me. If you are young and fit, cover up to avoid giving temptation to wandering eyes of either sex; and if your're older or not-so-fit, cover it up so we're not embarrassed for you! Just cover it up, for Pete's sake.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 16, 2018, 03:22:18 PM
Where I grew up guys wandering around in public without shirts were considered low-class.  
Exactly. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 16, 2018, 06:53:28 PM
So, I serious doubt that women are tempted to lust by seeing shirtless men, for if that was so, then the Church has been tempting women for 2000 years. Just imagine the inverse, if the Church commissioned all its paintings of women to be of bare chested and exposed thighs Playboy centerfolds.

(I know there might be a painting of Eve that one can present or a woman with her cleavage exposed, but I think they were rare, likely during the Renaissance, but I am talking about practically EVERY painting with men.)  

Not only are women tempted to lust by seeing shirtless men, they're tempted by seeing fully clothed men. Trust me, brah. In real life, I've had women vocalize their lust to me even when I was wearing shirts.

When I was in the Air Force during my Novus Ordo days, I went to a Mormon service during Basic Training, and I kid you not, I was sharing a hymn book with a girl (another Basic Trainee recruit) whom I had just met for the first time, and while we were sitting there holding the hymn book together, she rubbed my leg with her hand.

A chick winked at me during Mass back in college.

I also dated a girl in a sorority in college. It's the only sorority, Alpha Chi Omega, that allows male visitors inside their house. Look it up if you don't believe me. I heard lustful talk among the chicks there that truly rivals male "locker room talk".

Women are not these virtuous "delicate flowers" that many people on this forum and in real life posit them to be...
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Nadir on March 16, 2018, 10:08:23 PM

...I went to a Mormon service during Basic Training, and I kid you not, I was sharing a hymn book with a girl (another Basic Trainee recruit) whom I had just met for the first time, and while we were sitting there holding the hymn book together, she rubbed my leg with her hand.

I also dated a girl in a sorority in college. It's the only sorority, Alpha Chi Omega, that allows male visitors inside their house. Look it up if you don't believe me. I heard lustful talk among the chicks there that truly rivals male "locker room talk".

Women are not these virtuous "delicate flowers" that many people on this forum and in real life posit them to be...
At least not your Alpha Chi Omega and Mormon "chicks". I am so pleased you have upped your standard. Keep improving... Never look back... http://alphachiuga.org/
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: poche on March 16, 2018, 11:03:09 PM
Modesty s a virtue we should all try to acquire. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 02:56:00 AM
At least not your Alpha Chi Omega and Mormon "chicks". I am so pleased you have upped your standard. Keep improving... Never look back... http://alphachiuga.org/

You left out the Catholic chick who exaggeratedly winked at me at Mass (essentially, the look on her entire face intended her non-verbal communication to be unambiguous). In fact, it happened right after I received Holy Communion and I was walking back to the pew. That shows you the lack of reverence and Jezebel spirit of these chicks.



Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 08:19:17 AM
Women are not these virtuous "delicate flowers" that many people on this forum and in real life posit them to be...
This is a strawman.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 08:43:18 AM
Not only are women tempted to lust by seeing shirtless men, they're tempted by seeing fully clothed men. 
I disagree, based on my experience, you are not concluding correctly.

man of the world sees a shirtless young woman and he will either fantasize or start planning to seduce the girl, both mortal sins. His objective is strictly to "seduce".

A woman of the world sees a shirtless young man and she will dream of having him for a boyfriend to show to all her friends how pretty she is because she attracted this handsome man. If she just wants a one night stand, it is again because attracting men is where she gets her sense of self worth it is how she gages her beauty. It is not about lust, it is about self esteem. It is part of her fallen nature and it is what likely her mother taught her too, that their beauty is gaged by how men react to them.

Notice that I am talking about men and women of the world. I do that to differentiate them from real Catholic women and men.

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Pax Vobis on March 17, 2018, 09:13:34 AM

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A  man of the world sees a shirtless young woman and he will either fantasize or start planning to seduce the girl, both mortal sins. His objective is strictly to "seduce".
I think this is generally true, 99% of the time.


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woman of the world sees a shirtless young man and she will dream of having him for a boyfriend to show to all her friends how pretty she is because she attracted this handsome man.
That's probably true 75% of the time, but some women have temptations similar to men.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 17, 2018, 09:23:03 AM
... some women have temptations similar to men.

Look, we've had women chime in on this thread and agree with this statement.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 09:48:22 AM
Look, we've had women chime in on this thread and agree with this statement: "that some women have temptations similar to men"
Then they are saying that some women of the world sees a shirtless young man and she will either fantasize having relations with the young man or start planning to actually seduce the young man, both mortal sins. Her objective is strictly to "seduce", just like a man.

Nothing is 100%. But from my experience, I do not think that the percentage of women who think like men is much higher that say the percentage of Lesbians. 

[Some women are lesbians, so they pursue women. Some men are sodomites so they pursue men. But even there, they behave differently. A male will pursue everything in sight each hour because their "prey" (other sodomites) are also pursuing everything in sight. A female lesbian does not do that, they strictly seek one partner at a time]



Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 09:50:43 AM
I disagree, based on my experience, you are not concluding correctly.

Funny how you ignore my own experiences with, and observations of, women, then declare I'm "not concluding correctly" while keeping your own myopic "experiences" to "validate" your (weak) argument.

I, also, have many more experiences of being the object of lust from women, who come from different demographics, spanning over time. So it's not a few behavioral oddities from a certain class of chicks, rather, the harlots were from of a wide range of socioeconomic, educational, racial, religious, and age backgrounds.

Another example was when I was at a wake preceding a funeral, and some aspiring slutty cougar under the cloak of  "rendering comfort", which is normal behavior at funerals, initiated embracing me and seductively bit my cheek as she kissed me. It was pathetic.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 17, 2018, 09:50:49 AM
Then they are saying that some women of the world sees a shirtless young man and she will either fantasize having relations ...

That's not what they said at all.  They said that a reasonable number of women, those who are not "frigid", would be tempted to impurity by the sight of men.  And the actual number is probably relatively high, since many of them would not even admit being tempted this way because women are not "supposed to" be like that.  In order to commit a mortal sin against purity, by the way, it's not necessary to get to the point of "fantasizing about having relations".  Taking venereal pleasure in the sight is enough.  That's impure thought.  When someone gets to the point of fantasizing, that's in the category of impure desire.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 09:58:35 AM
This is a strawman.
No, it's not a strawman.

Earlier in this thread or another recent one similar to it, "Fanny" ( :laugh1: ) mentioned I should treat women as "delicate flowers", basically for the mere sake of them being women, regardless of their character.

Did you learn a new word ("strawman")? Look, brah, I know you're anxious to declare "strawman argument" as a rebuttal after learning it for the first time, but you need to use it when it actually applies. Good luck, next time.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Miseremini on March 17, 2018, 10:03:05 AM
Quote from: Croix de Fer on Yesterday at 06:53:28 PM (https://www.cathinfo.com/general-discussion/male-immodesty-tempts-feminine-women/msg599976/#msg599976)
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Not only are women tempted to lust by seeing shirtless men, they're tempted by seeing fully clothed men.
.I disagree, based on my experience, you are not concluding correctly.
If you are not a woman you have no experience.  You are using a male mind to try to judge a woman's thoughts.  Good luck with that!
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 10:09:16 AM
.I disagree, based on my experience, you are not concluding correctly.

If you are not a woman you have no experience.  You are using a male mind to try to judge a woman's thoughts.  Good luck with that!

Your argument is illogical. When a man grabs a woman's behind, are you saying you don't know his motivation for doing it, simply because you're not a man? Why would a woman doing it to a man be any different?

Also, why did you put Last Tradhican's comment inside my quote box as if I said it?
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 10:16:16 AM
Funny how you ignore my own experiences with, and observations of, women, then declare I'm "not concluding correctly" while keeping your own myopic "experiences" to "validate" your (weak) argument.
In the country of blind men, the one eyed man is a King.

Your experiences are puerile. They are puerile because you raise them to be something special and one of a kind, when your experiences are typical of any man of the world. Your conclusions however, on the points  that I brought, are wrong.

To me, watching you write is like watching a Jerry Lewis movie, exasperating. You are publicly making a fool of yourself by spelling out, bragging about your "experiences". I recommend that you scrap and change your name here on CI and start over again, and re-make yourself. Like in the movie "Ground Hog Day", you can totally change your mistakes.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 10:19:11 AM
In the country of blind men, the one eyed man is a King.

Your experiences are puerile. They are puerile because you raise them to be something special and one of a kind, when your experiences are typical of any man of the world. Your conclusions however, on the points  that I brought, are wrong.

To me, watching you write is like watching a Jerry Lewis movie, exasperating. You are publicly making a fool of yourself. I recommend that you scrap and change your name here on CI and start over again, and re-make yourself. Like in the movie "Ground Hog Day", you can totally change your mistakes.

Ad hominem fallacy.

You can't refute anything I've said, so you use a lame narrative as a diversion.

Try again.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 10:26:14 AM
That's not what they said at all.  They said that a reasonable number of women, those who are not "frigid", would be tempted to impurity by the sight of men.  And the actual number is probably relatively high,
They are tempted to impurity and the actual number is very high? What does that mean? How does this impurity that is brought about by a shirtless man look like? Spell it out. How does the mortal sin come to be?
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 10:34:20 AM
Ad hominem fallacy.
You are the one bragging about your sɛҳuąƖ exploits, your experiences. I was only pointing out to you that your experiences are nothing that any male schlump of the world has not had. The fact that you brag about them as if they were special, shows that you are  just a "one eyed man".

"In the country of blind men, the one eyed man is a King".
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 10:42:07 AM
If you are not a woman you have no experience.  You are using a male mind to try to judge a woman's thoughts.  Good luck with that!
Your response is worthless, because you do not explain anything.

I showed exactly how a man is tempted to sin by a topless woman, what the objective of the man is, and what the sin is. I explained the same a woman.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Cantarella on March 17, 2018, 10:47:36 AM
Earlier in this thread or another recent one similar to it, "Fanny" ( :laugh1: ) mentioned I should treat women as "delicate flowers", basically for the mere sake of them being women, regardless of their character.

It was this Fanny by the way, who also made the indecorous comment that those women who are not "frigid", would be tempted to impurity by the sight of men. It was only Fanny ( :laugh1: ) who said that, not "many women" in this thread. I disagree. I believe it is part of the ultra - egalitarian revolution that the sexes are not "that different" to pretend that women have the same temptations than the men when it comes to sins of lust or that their needs for sɛҳuąƖ release are the same. As I said before, the temptation is more a pride issue. Last Tradhican is correct when he says is more a self - esteem issue for women. That is why women flirt, not necessarily because they are "undressing the men in their minds and all that", but because they falsely feel better about themselves when receiving validation from the men.

It is also a power issue. I would be willing to bet that that the motivation of that "cougar" that Croix de Fer had such an experience with, was not a physical inclination per se; but more of a desperate attempt of hers to feel she "is still got it" and that she has some imaginary power over him. This motivation comes from broken women who realize they have absolutely nothing to offer to a man; but her sex. I agree it is absolutely pathetic.  

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 10:53:49 AM
You are the one bragging about your sɛҳuąƖ exploits, your experiences. I was only pointing out to you that your experiences are nothing that any male schlump of the world has not had. The fact that you brag about them as if they were special, shows that you are  just a "one eyed man".


Now this is an actual strawman argument.

I never bragged about anything. I was giving examples of women's harlotry. Naturally, in order to give (plentiful) personal experience, I have to mention myself. Also, please quote me where I mentioned my "sɛҳuąƖ exploits".

I'll wait...



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"In the country of blind men, the one eyed man is a King".

"In a country of eunuchs and impotent men, the Last Tradhican is a king."

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 10:56:13 AM
They are puerile because you raise them to be something special and one of a kind, when your experiences are typical of any man of the world.
You seem to have a fixation with me for whatever reason.

Again, the points I made are not about me, per se, but, naturally, I have to mention myself when giving my own plentiful experiences. The points are about the harlotry of women. That's not boasting. If you think it's boasting, then you probably have a jealousy or envy problem, or you're insecure about yourself for whatever reason.

When the aforementioned women initiated sensual touch and heavy flirtations at me, what was the stimulus for their actions? Did they just do them randomly at any direction, and I happened to come in contact with them when I appeared? Of course not.

Logically, upon viewing me, the women had a lustful thought or some fantasy involving my physical being (the object of their perception) and themselves, which was the impetus for their actions. There is no other way around it. It wasn't like a scenario where they were trying to whore themselves into a job promotion.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 11:22:03 AM
You are the one bragging about your sɛҳuąƖ exploits, your experiences. I was only pointing out to you that your experiences are nothing that any male schlump of the world has not had. The fact that you brag about them as if they were special, shows that you are  just a "one eyed man".

"In the country of blind men, the one eyed man is a King".
Dear Croix De Fer,

I know it is too late now, since it is written. I wish we had the option to delete a posting but we do not. I publicly apologize for the way I wrote about the subject above and for the other previous post saying the same. I should have sent you this observation in a private email and put it differently.   

Your relations with women of the world that you have detailed here are nothing special, they are the typical experience of any man who has lived in the world. The fact that you consider them special indicates to me that you have a good heart and felt betrayed in your ideals by the reactions of those women of the world. You are a good man searching a good woman. Unfortunately, today, good women as rare, the whole world is corrupt. It is no different for the good women. They exist the same as you exist. From my experience, stay in shape, keep your mind young, and let God sort out the rest for you. He did for me.

*Keep your mind young = do not let life's bad experiences embitter you. 

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 11:44:49 AM
Dear Croix De Fer,

[...] I publicly apologize
Thanks. I apologize for being abrasive.



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The Great Tradhican says:
Your relations with women of the world that you have detailed here are nothing special, they are the typical experience of any man who has lived in the world.

I don't mean to continue to be argumentative, but this actually supports what I'm saying, variably, about most women. Their harlotry is widespread, but the motivation is lust as much as validation.

While I agree Cantellara is correct that women engage in that type of behavior to get attention, and it's empowering if they succeed, and because it raises their self-esteem, I think it's only part of the reason. Just as much, if not greater, a reason has lust at its core. Of course, every individual case is different.



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The Great Tradhican says:
From my experience, stay in shape, keep your mind young, and let God sort out the rest for you. He did for me.

*Keep your mind young = do not let life's bad experiences embitter you.

Thanks for the advice. Indeed. Indeed.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 12:47:34 PM
While I agree Cantellara is correct that women engage in that type of behavior to get attention, and it's empowering if they succeed, and because it raises their self-esteem, I think it's only part of the reason. Just as much, if not greater, a reason has lust at its core. Of course, every individual case is different.
I do not think it is the sin of lust as men experience it. Remember, we are talking here about a young athletic shirtless man.

What do you think about this comment about sodomite males vs. female lesbians? If women lusted the same as men, we could get our way with many different women every day:


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Then they are saying that some women of the world sees a shirtless young man and she will either fantasize having relations with the young man or start planning to actually seduce the young man, both mortal sins. Her objective is strictly to "seduce", just like a man.

Nothing is 100%. But from my experience, I do not think that the percentage of women who think like men is much higher that say the percentage of Lesbians.

[Some women are lesbians, so they pursue women. Some men are sodomites so they pursue men. But even there, they behave differently. A male will pursue everything in sight each hour because their "prey" (other sodomites) are also pursuing everything in sight. A female lesbian does not do that, they strictly seek one partner at a time].

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: forlorn on March 17, 2018, 01:04:14 PM
More and more you hear of WOMEN being addicted to pornography, so I think that it's beginning to affect them as well.
The vast vast majority, probably over 90%, of people who use porn are men. The vast majority of people who masturbate regularly are men too. Women can certainly be lustful, but their sex drives are far lower(testosterone governs the sex drive, even women with high T are more lustful) and their attraction is generally less visually based too.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 01:46:42 PM
 If women lusted the same as men, we could get our way with many different women every day:
Most women are flaky, which is somewhat of a counter to the lust within themselves. The lust is still there but, many times, there are conflicting emotions and drives, so the realization of them carrying through with their sɛҳuąƖ desires is lessened.

Men are less internally conflicted.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 01:57:28 PM
Most women are flaky, which is somewhat of a counter to the lust within themselves. The lust is still there but, many times, there are conflicting emotions and drives, so the realization of them carrying through with their sɛҳuąƖ desires is lessened.
They must really be flaky for they can have their way with any man with a pulse any time. No. I do not think that flakiness is the answer.

If a man could have his way with women, the same way that women can have their way with men, we would spend our every waking hour "getting our way".
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 02:11:25 PM
They must really be flaky for they can have their way with any man with a pulse any time. No. I do not think that flakiness is the answer.

If a man could have his way with women, the same way that women can have their way with men, we would spend our every waking hour "getting our way".
But it's their flakiness preventing many of the opportunities they have to get with a man. Their lust is still there, but something within themselves prevents it from happening.

Men don't have the inhibitions and conflicting thoughts, emotions and drives of women. Thus, usually, men stay the course in their sɛҳuąƖ pursuit of women. Women have the lust to initiate or accept proposals, but their inner conflict will, many times, stop it from being fully realized.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 02:47:20 PM
Cantarella is a woman and she confirmed my observations and added to my details ( indeed,too many details and examples).

There is not one woman (or man) here who has elaborated how a woman's reaction to a young athletic man without a shirt actually turns into sin, what actually transpires in detail.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 02:58:41 PM
Most men of the world will go after anything with a pulse, if it is easy. It does not mean that a woman is pretty or intelligent.
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Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 03:44:28 PM
It was this Fanny by the way, who also made the indecorous comment that those women who are not "frigid", would be tempted to impurity by the sight of men. It was only Fanny ( :laugh1: ) who said that, not "many women" in this thread. I disagree. I believe it is part of the ultra - egalitarian revolution that the sexes are not "that different" to pretend that women have the same temptations than the men when it comes to sins of lust or that their needs for sɛҳuąƖ release are the same. As I said before, the temptation is more a pride issue. Last Tradhican is correct when he says is more a self - esteem issue for women. That is why women flirt, not necessarily because they are "undressing the men in their minds and all that", but because they falsely feel better about themselves when receiving validation from the men.

It is also a power issue. I would be willing to bet that that the motivation of that "cougar" that Croix de Fer had such an experience with, was not a physical inclination per se; but more of a desperate attempt of hers to feel she "is still got it" and that she has some imaginary power over him. This motivation comes from broken women who realize they have absolutely nothing to offer to a man; but her sex. I agree it is absolutely pathetic.  
Women have been brainwashed big time in a drive to destroy society. Pretty much everyone in the world today is brainwashed. It is only by God's Grace that some find their way out of it or even see it.  Very few find their way out. Today, for instance in my SSPX chapel there are few good examples for the young girls, their own parents are brainwashed.

I went through it practically all my life, till I was in my 40's. I saw nothing wrong. As a clean example I bring forward this story below:

When I was a teen, I played on the high school football team where all the boys showered together naked in open showers. Even the coaches showered with us. I thought nothing of it. It was a public school, as I never went to Catholic schools. There was however, one player that would never shower, he was black and was one of the 300+ pounders. The team was about 70% black. Everyone thought that he was an oddball for not showering, and made jokes about him. I later found out that he had transferred from a Catholic school, and thinking back I realize that he was the only person, including the coaches in their 50's, that was not brainwashed. 

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: klasG4e on March 17, 2018, 04:10:59 PM
A lady here on CI, who I respect, said that"male immodesty tempts  feminine women".

In the context of the subject we were discussing: female immodesty in dress, I would answer that women are not tempted to sin in the same way as men are. I would say that male immodesty may attract some women, but I would not say it tempts them to sin.

I'll be blunt, when a man of the world sees a young good looking well figured girl dressed provocatively, they immediately mentally strip her of her clothes  and fantisize or begin to plan on how to have relations with them. That is a mortal sin.

"Whosoever shall look on a woman to lust after her, hath already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:28).

For a Catholic man, when they sees such a girl, a temptation, they must turn away and try to get the image out of their minds in order not to sin.

I do not think women have the same problem. I think that women might be attracted by a "a young good looking well figured man dressed provocatively", but they are not tempted to sin as a man is.

I'm glad this OP didn't ironically complain about male immodesty by showing us an immodest "hunk" in much the same way the recent complaining OP on female immodesty showed us the two sexy pics of Marilyn Monroe, the far worse of the two having been subsequently and rightfully removed.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: MaterDominici on March 17, 2018, 04:44:49 PM
That's not what they said at all.  They said that a reasonable number of women, those who are not "frigid", would be tempted to impurity by the sight of men.  And the actual number is probably relatively high, since many of them would not even admit being tempted this way because women are not "supposed to" be like that.  In order to commit a mortal sin against purity, by the way, it's not necessary to get to the point of "fantasizing about having relations".  Taking venereal pleasure in the sight is enough.  That's impure thought.  When someone gets to the point of fantasizing, that's in the category of impure desire.
I believe it was only one woman who said this. You can add me to the tally of those who disagree with this being the norm for women.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 04:51:01 PM
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I'm glad this OP didn't ironically complain about male immodesty by showing us an immodest "hunk"
Please post where I complained about male immodesty?

On the contrary, I do not believe that "topless" men, men not wearing shirts, is male immodesty, nor a temptation to the sin for women. I just think it is men working outdoors, men at the beach, men with no class or bums like in the case of someone just walking around with no shirt. A picture of a topless man would be a temptation to gαy men.

 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 05:05:31 PM
Here are Sts. Peter, James, and John "topless". I could post 100's of such paintings. If it was a sin for men to not wear a shirt, the Church would not have allowed any of these paintings which have adorn Churches all over the world for thousands of years. I could post hundreds of Our Lord Jesus Christ "topless". 

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Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 17, 2018, 05:14:55 PM

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I'm glad this OP didn't ironically complain about male immodesty by showing us an immodest "hunk"
You should ditch that word from your vocabulary, it is totally ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ. It is the brainwashed women who have been conned into spreading its usage. Just like they have been brainwashed to say OMG like 100 times in a short conversation. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 17, 2018, 06:23:49 PM
Here are Sts. Peter, James, and John "topless". I could post 100's of such paintings. If it was a sin for men to not wear a shirt, the Church would not have allowed any of these paintings which have adorn Churches all over the world for thousands of years. I could post hundreds of Our Lord Jesus Christ "topless".(https://thumbs.dreamstime.com/b/gent-miracle-fishing-st-peter-s-church-26249060.jpg) (https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=images&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwjDy5u9rPTZAhUQ0VMKHfvyCbIQjRx6BAgAEAU&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dreamstime.com%2Fstock-photo-gent-miracle-fishing-st-peter-s-church-image26249060&psig=AOvVaw0iPkTV0EQcP-0tP_fSGhDS&ust=1521410106666355)
They are working.
They are all men.
In polite company or in public where women could see, men should wear shirts.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: SusanneT on March 17, 2018, 06:32:21 PM
I think that contrary to post -sɛҳuąƖ revolution propaganda (and wishful thinking of immature men) the temptation you describe above (of undressing the men in our minds and fantasize) is quite foreign to the female nature, really.

I think the idea of women beign the same as men as of their sɛҳuąƖ appetites, has been heavily fueled by the pornographic industry.
I agree completely I think it is a myth put about by feminists who believe it represents some misguided ideas of equality. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 17, 2018, 07:51:52 PM
Here are Sts. Peter, James, and John "topless". I could post 100's of such paintings. If it was a sin for men to not wear a shirt, the Church would not have allowed any of these paintings which have adorn Churches all over the world for thousands of years. I could post hundreds of Our Lord Jesus Christ "topless".

(https://thumbs.dreamstime.com/b/gent-miracle-fishing-st-peter-s-church-26249060.jpg) (https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=images&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwjDy5u9rPTZAhUQ0VMKHfvyCbIQjRx6BAgAEAU&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dreamstime.com%2Fstock-photo-gent-miracle-fishing-st-peter-s-church-image26249060&psig=AOvVaw0iPkTV0EQcP-0tP_fSGhDS&ust=1521410106666355)

:facepalm: And the Church has allowed nudes in church as well (ever hear of the Sistine Chapel?).  Just because the Church allowed that art, it's now not a sin for men to walk around with their genitals exposed?  Use some logic, man.

Just because something is depicted in art doesn't mean that it's necessarily permitted in real life. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: 1st Mansion Tenant on March 17, 2018, 08:36:32 PM
I have some really worldly female relatives who could make a case for women leering after shirtless men. Not sure if they really feel like that, or they just think they are supposed to act like that because that's what they've been taught in our wicked culture. They think it's funny to send me birthday cards of men in tiny bathing suits even though I ask them not to. The pics don't do anything for me except embarrass me. I don't find them titillating in the least., they're just stupid.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 10:17:13 PM
Cantarella is a woman and she confirmed my observations and added to my details ( indeed,too many details and examples).

There is not one woman (or man) here who has elaborated how a woman's reaction to a young athletic man without a shirt actually turns into sin, what actually transpires in detail.

I could give you an example, but I won't because people will say I'm bragging; and I don't know how to explain it while keeping it Catholic-friendly and not sounding like some short erotic story. It would probably be an occasion of sin for chicks.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 10:28:55 PM
Also, the reason women aren't turned on by shirtless men in religious paintings or statues is because it's a religious context. Even an atheist woman, who shouldn't care about committing sacrilege because she doesn't believe in it, won't be turned on by the shirtless men because there is sill an innate sense of what is appropriate, and what is inappropriate, impressed upon their hearts by God, despite their faithlessness. That's why they have no natural inclination to be aroused by a religious painting's image of a shirtless man.

And the reason the men are shirtless, and women are always fully clothed, is because it's natural for men to be shirtless as they are, naturally, the laborers. It gives them more free range of motion. There are no shirts, robes or cloaks to get caught on anything while working, and it helped keep them cooler during their tasks and hunts.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 17, 2018, 10:42:41 PM
Also, the reason women aren't turned on by shirtless men in religious paintings or statues is because it's a religious context. Even an atheist woman, who shouldn't care about committing sacrilege because she doesn't believe in it, won't be turned on by the shirtless men because there is sill an innate sense of what is appropriate, and what is inappropriate, impressed upon their hearts by God, despite their faithlessness. That's why they have no natural inclination to be aroused by a religious painting's image of a shirtless man.

And the reason the men are shirtless, and women are always fully clothed, is because it's natural for men to be shirtless as they are, naturally, the laborers. It gives them more free range of motion. There are no shirts, robes or cloaks to get caught on anything while working, and it helped keep them cooler during their tasks and hunts.
Time ran out to add to the above.

If female Church figures were depicted as topless or naked in paintings and statues (but there is no reason to do it because it wasn't natural for them be naked; they weren't laborers), I don't think any man would be turned on by it for the same reasons mentioned above.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Cantarella on March 18, 2018, 12:52:34 PM
I agree completely I think it is a myth put about by feminists who believe it represents some misguided ideas of equality.

And the sad thing is that misguided girls fall for these lies so easily! In an attempt to just be "like the guys" they deliberately imitate and exaggerate the "guy's talk" about such matters. It makes them feel "empowered" to be harsh and insensitive, which they perceive men to be like; but it is a lie which actually goes against their nature. It is also a physiological mechanism of defense against the men and their own feelings. 

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I heard lustful talk among the chicks there that truly rivals male "locker room talk".

Surely, from damaged girls, which sadly account for the vast majority of them out there nowadays. But these girls are broken and damaged. They have been brainwashed. There is a reason why we girls tend to be "copy cats". We tend to imitate other women around us. When all we see as girls is what the media portrays today the role model to be, (this is, basically the "empowered, masculinized slut") well...it is hard for girls to disconnect from that pattern, it takes a special Grace.

Role models for girls are crucial because of our malleable, water-like nature. Patriarchal societies are well aware of this nature, and heavy reinforcement (by fathers, husbands, and older women) of honorable conduct for women was an absolute necessity.

We have an amazing potential to be and do good; but also great evil.

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Cantarella on March 18, 2018, 01:01:21 PM
I want to add here that the pornographic industry has profited greatly from the naiveté of sɛҳuąƖly immature of men of hoping to be physically "wanted" by the women just as much as they want them. Reality is, when it comes to sɛҳuąƖ drives, there is a sea separating male nature from female nature.

Our great grandfathers knew better. Entire patriarchal civilizations were built upon these truths regarding such differences. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 18, 2018, 03:09:53 PM
I want to add here that the pornographic industry has profited greatly from the naiveté of sɛҳuąƖly immature of men of hoping to be physically "wanted" by the women just as much as they want them. Reality is, when it comes to sɛҳuąƖ drives, there is a sea separating male nature from female nature.

I don't know.  Croix here claims that women want him physically just as much as a man might want a woman that way.  I think that, more and more, a lot of young women have been culturally conditioned to think that way.  Priests and various secular studies indicate that there are nearly as many women addicted to pornography now as men.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 18, 2018, 03:14:13 PM
This thread needs to die. The reason is because the more a person tries to understand a monster, he is at risk of becoming a monster himself.

Cantarella, I accidentally misspelled your name in an earlier comment. Sorry.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Seraphina on March 18, 2018, 09:24:25 PM
Speaking only for myself, there's nothing tempting about an improperly clad man, no matter how perfect his physique.  I'm disgusted by men who have no manners, no sense of decorum to go about in public or appear in mixed company without a shirt, with tight-fitting pants or shorts.  Hardly a man knows enough to remove his cap upon entering a building.  I can only wonder about women who find such men attractive.  
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Cantarella on March 18, 2018, 09:41:51 PM
Speaking only for myself, there's nothing tempting about an improperly clad man, no matter how perfect his physique.  I'm disgusted by men who have no manners, no sense of decorum to go about in public or appear in mixed company without a shirt, with tight-fitting pants or shorts.  Hardly a man knows enough to remove his cap upon entering a building.  I can only wonder about women who find such men attractive.  

I definitely agree. I rather see a handsome man wearing a proper shirt and tie (or even working attire), than the same handsome man without a shirt on! If this is true for the good looking men, then you can imagine the disgust the ugly ones inspire. Summer is approaching and it is revolting seeing so many men without the shirts on and shorts falling down. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Cantarella on March 18, 2018, 09:47:24 PM

* Duplicate
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 19, 2018, 07:41:13 AM
It's healthy for a woman to be attracted (not the same as lust) to a shirtless man whose physique is the result of being physically active,  just as it's healthy for a man to be attracted (again, not to be confused with lust) to a scantly dressed woman who is in good shape. To be repulsed by a good physique whose form is visible, for whatever reason, by the opposite sex is actually unhealthy.

You can disagree with me, but you will still be wrong.

With above being said, scantly dressed women are immodest and an occasion of sin, while the shirtless men are potentially being immodest, depending on the circuмstances. Women are homemakers, therefore, they have absolutely no reason to be immodestly dressed relative to the circuмstance in public. They are supposed to be dressed modestly in private, too.  Conversely, men are the laborers, builders, hunters and defenders, so less clothing, in those situations, can sometimes lend to efficiency and relief from heat and humidity.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 19, 2018, 07:49:08 AM
I definitely agree. I rather see a handsome man wearing a proper shirt and tie (or even working attire), than the same handsome man without a shirt on!

So, then, would you rather see an ugly man wearing a proper shirt and tie or a handsome man without a shirt on?  

Here you just compare two handsome men.  :laugh1:
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 19, 2018, 07:54:02 AM
It's healthy for a woman to be attracted (not the same as lust) to a shirtless man whose physique is the result of being physically active,  just as it's healthy for a man to be attracted (again, not to be confused with lust) to a scantly dressed woman who is in good shape. To be repulsed by a good physique whose form is visible, for whatever reason, by the opposite sex is actually unhealthy.

You can disagree with me, but you will still be wrong.

Sorry, man, but I can't separate the body from a person's soul and a person's character.  I am not attracted to a "physique", a piece of meat.  If a person is ugly inside, I find the physique repugnant as well.  To me, even what might otherwise in the abstract be a "good physique" is utterly repugnant.  In fact, it almost becomes MORE repugnant than if the ugly soul had a poor physique ... because of the incongruity.  Then, on the other hand, I could, if I were not married, be physically attracted to someone with a beautiful soul but average (to even below-average) physique.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 19, 2018, 08:09:44 AM
Sorry, man, but I can't separate the body from a person's soul and a person's character.  I am not attracted to a "physique", a piece of meat.  If a person is ugly inside, I find the physique repugnant as well.  To me, even what might otherwise in the abstract be a "good physique" is utterly repugnant.  In fact, it almost becomes MORE repugnant than if the ugly soul had a poor physique ... because of the incongruity.  Then, on the other hand, I could, if I were not married, be physically attracted to someone with a beautiful soul but average (to even below-average) physique.

I absolutely agree with this.

My comment is more in regard to a person seeing another person for the first time and not knowing their character, values, personality, etc. except from what they might be able to immediately gather by the countenance and dress code of the person they're meeting or viewing from a distance.

I'm just saying all things, except the body, being equal and neutral, it's healthy for a chick be attracted to men with good bodies, and vice versa, whose form is visible for whatever reason - right or wrong.

* again, attraction is not the same as lust
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 19, 2018, 08:41:07 AM
I absolutely agree with this.

My comment is more in regard to a person seeing another person for the first time and not knowing their character, values, personality, etc. except from what they might be able to immediately gather by the countenance and dress code of the person they're meeting or viewing from a distance.

I'm just saying all things, except the body, being equal and neutral, it's healthy for a chick be attracted to men with good bodies, and vice versa, whose form is visible for whatever reason - right or wrong.

* again, attraction is not the same as lust

OK.  Got it.  Then I don't disagree.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 19, 2018, 09:15:09 AM
OK.  Got it.  Then I don't disagree.

My comment, "You can disagree with me, but you will still be wrong" was more directed as Seraphina and Cantarella.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on March 19, 2018, 12:42:48 PM
My comment, "You can disagree with me, but you will still be wrong" was more directed as Seraphina and Cantarella.

I know.  I was just responding to where you said that you "agree" with me ... by saying that I do not disagree with you, given how you clarified what you were saying.

Your distinction between attraction (even physical attraction) and lust is a very important one, and I'd like to discuss that more later when I have more time.  Scrupulous people often confuse the two.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 19, 2018, 01:04:06 PM
Basically, the provocatively dressed female is telling the man, I am easy.  I described in detail how a man is tempted to sin by the provocative fashions of women.

I ask, how exactly is a Catholic woman tempted to commit mortal sin, what exactly takes place?
Only one woman has responded, that was Cantarella, and many women have agreed with her and none has disagreed. My own life's experience confirms everything she wrote and I have written the same observations many times here on CI and how it applies to the Fathers raising their daughters right (more follows) Here is everything Cantarella has said:

Cantarella - I think the temptation for women in this regard is more a vanity issue than physical inchastity. Sure, we can see a good looking man and think to ourselves: "wow, what a handsome man". But from that point of simple awareness, to actually "undressing the man in our minds and imagining"... I just don't think it naturally happens. Or maybe it is just me. What I do remember happening back in my early youth is me instantaneously trying to appear more pretty or even flirtatious, this is, actively seeking attention, when the mentioned good looking young man appeared in the room. It is really an ego issue. If left unchecked, this could lead to sins of vanity or even immodesty.

Cantarella - It was this Fanny by the way, who also made the indecorous comment that those women who are not "frigid", would be tempted to impurity by the sight of men. It was only Fanny who said that, not "many women" in this thread. I disagree. I believe it is part of the ultra - egalitarian revolution that the sexes are not "that different" to pretend that women have the same temptations than the men when it comes to sins of lust or that their needs for sɛҳuąƖ release are the same. As I said before, the temptation is more a pride issue. Last Tradhican is correct when he says is more a self - esteem issue for women. That is why women flirt, not necessarily because they are "undressing the men in their minds and all that", but because they falsely feel better about themselves when receiving validation from the men. It is also a power issue. I would be willing to bet that that the motivation of that "cougar" that Croix de Fer had such an experience with, was not a physical inclination per se; but more of a desperate attempt of hers to feel she "is still got it" and that she has some imaginary power over him. This motivation comes from broken women who realize they have absolutely nothing to offer to a man; but her sex. I agree it is absolutely pathetic.  


Cantarella -  And the sad thing is that misguided girls fall for these lies so easily! In an attempt to just be "like the guys" they deliberately imitate and exaggerate the "guy's talk" about such matters. It makes them feel "empowered" to be harsh and insensitive, which they perceive men to be like; but it is a lie which actually goes against their nature. It is also a physiological mechanism of defense against the men and their own feelings. Surely, from damaged girls, which sadly account for the vast majority of them out there nowadays. But these girls are broken and damaged. They have been brainwashed. There is a reason why we girls tend to be "copy cats". We tend to imitate other women around us. When all we see as girls is what the media portrays today the role model to be, (this is, basically the "empowered, masculinized slut") well...it is hard for girls to disconnect from that pattern, it takes a special Grace. Role models for girls are crucial because of our malleable, water-like nature. Patriarchal societies are well aware of this nature, and heavy reinforcement (by fathers, husbands, and older women) of honorable conduct for women was an absolute necessity.We have an amazing potential to be and do good; but also great evil.

Cantarella - I want to add here that the pornographic industry has profited greatly from the naiveté of sɛҳuąƖly immature of men of hoping to be physically "wanted" by the women just as much as they want them. Reality is, when it comes to sɛҳuąƖ drives, there is a sea separating male nature from female nature. Our great grandfathers knew better. Entire patriarchal civilizations were built upon these truths regarding such differences.





(https://www.cathinfo.com/general-discussion/male-immodesty-tempts-feminine-women/100/?action=reporttm;msg=600190)






(https://www.cathinfo.com/general-discussion/male-immodesty-tempts-feminine-women/100/?action=reporttm;msg=600190)






Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 19, 2018, 01:18:39 PM
The objective of all of my postings on proper dress is to teach the young ladies how to dress modestly and conduct themselves as Catholic ladies. The young girls need to be made aware of why women act the way they do, so they can be aware of it. This is foundational. I did not find that I had posted that here, I thought I had, but in going over the whole thread I realized that I never posted this. As it turns out, Cantarella spelled it out. Nevertheless, I'll repeat it here for the other fathers of young girls.


Here is the lesson I teach my daughters from the time they start noticing boys:

Women erroneously learn from other women that their beauty and value comes from the attraction they can bring to themselves from men. They are taught that the way to attract men is to dress provocatively and to flirt. In poor countries this is the way a woman can become rich overnight, however, it is like the lottery, 99+% of the women  will lose and will spend an entire life of misery, always wondering why they go from man to man, till their grave.

Once a young girl is infected with this mindset, they are caught for life.

Practically all women have this decease. It is the foundation of all immodesty and immorality.

Those that have eyes to see, let them see.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 19, 2018, 02:00:08 PM
"Before all decision to create the world, the infinite knowledge of God presents to Him all the graces, and different series of graces, which He can prepare for each soul, along with the consent or refusal which would follow in each circuмstance, and that in millions of possible combinations ... Thus, for each man in particular there are in the thought of God, limitless possible histories, some histories of virtue and salvation, others of crime and damnation; and God will be free in choosing such a world, such a series of graces, and in determining the future history and final destiny of each soul. And this is precisely what He does when among all possible worlds, by an absolutely free act, he decides to realize the actual world with all the circuмstances of its historic evolutions, with all the graces which in fact have been and will be distributed until the end of the world, and consequently with all the elect and all the reprobate who God foresaw would be in it if de facto He created it." [The Catholic Encyclopedia Appleton, 1909, on Augustine, pg 97]


In other words before a man is conceived, God in his infinite knowledge has already put that person through the test with millions of possible combinations and possible histories, some histories of virtue and salvation, others of crime and damnation;along with the consent or refusal which would follow in each circuмstance (of millions of possible combinations!!!) and God will be free in determining which future history and final destiny He assigns each soul.


God chose to place the Jew gangster Dutch Schultz (you can read the whole article at  http://www.killthedutchman.net/chapter_IX.htm (http://www.killthedutchman.net/chapter_IX.htm) ) into the circuмstances into which he was born. Dutch was a gangster and a killer, growing up surrounded by his allies and adversarial Italian and Irish gangsters. He was ambushed one day and shot many times, and mortally wounded he was taken to the hospital where he died. But before he died he asked for a priest and asked to be baptized, and his request was granted. If Dutch Schultz was sincere in his conversion, he went straight to heaven. I doubt anyone here on CI will go straight to heaven, unless we are martyred.

I explain all of that above to say that for some reason God has put us in the circuмstances and surroundings that we have been since our childhood till present. We are what we are because of our circuмstances and how we reacted to them, just like Dutch Schultz. Had we been put in Dutch Schultz place we would have been much worse and gone to hell.

If a man were born in a "Sin City" tropical tourist destination and grew up on the beach and ended up working in say a Club Med from the time he was 12 years old till he was 40, that person would be exposed to many women who are there to do what they can't do in their home town. That boy's life would be like the movie "Groundhog Day", where any mistakes he made with a girl, could be corrected with the next one that comes in and no one would know of his mistake or his reputation. New girls would come in every 2-3 days, so he would learn everything there is to know and correct himself as he goes along. If that person grew up doing this all his life, he would eventually become wise or shot by someone. That is a parable of my life and like Dutch Schultz, by God's grace, one day I was enlightened by God and I left that life behind almost instantly. I can't erase my life, God allowed me to go through it for some reason. I believe that all the daughters God has given to me is the reason, as well as all the other young ladies that are put in my path.

 (http://biblehub.com/matthew/13-23.htm)"But he that received the seed upon good ground, is he that heareth the word, and understandeth, and beareth fruit, and yieldeth the one an hundredfold"
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 19, 2018, 02:21:08 PM
I could give you an example, but I won't because people will say I'm bragging; and I don't know how to explain it while keeping it Catholic-friendly and not sounding like some short erotic story. It would probably be an occasion of sin for chicks.
The examples that you gave are mild for women in the world, they can also be explained by the descriptions given by Cantarella, those girls were not necessarily acting like men do when they take the same actions. Like I said before, nothing is 100%, there are women who are so corrupted, that they can become like the men of the world that I described. It is analogous to a man becoming a sodomite. Sodomites are mentally disturbed, possessed. Women who act as men will always be older and unattractive, as no one wants them anymore, but the self esteem factor is still there too. Since men will go after anything with a pulse, those women will always find someone.

I have never known of any young girl who was corrupted like that, and we are talking about young girls here and Catholic women. All men and women were once joyful children with no such thoughts on their mind. "To God, the joy of my youth"
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 19, 2018, 02:28:01 PM
The examples that you gave are mild for women in the world, they can also be explained by the descriptions given by Cantarella, those girls were not necessarily acting like men do when they take the same actions. Like I said before, nothing is 100%, there are women who are so corrupted, that they can become like the men of the world that I described. It is analogous to man becoming a sodomite. Sodomites are mentally disturbed, possessed. Women who act as men will always be older, as no one wants them anymore, but the self esteem factor is still there too. Since men will go after anything with a pulse, those women will always find someone.

I have never known of any young girl who was corrupted like that, and we are talking about young girls here and Catholic women.

Nah, brah, the example I'm withholding isn't the mild examples I already stated on this thread. I'm withholding it for the reasons in my quote to which you responded.  Also, the chick acting on lust activated by her sight of me without a shirt was 19 years old, not some older lady whom no man wants anymore.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 19, 2018, 02:58:01 PM
Also, the chick acting on lust activated by her sight of me without a shirt was 19 years old, not some older lady whom no man wants anymore.
Her actions are mild for any woman of the world. It still can be explained as Cantarella has described. Her explanation can't be outright dismissed in the case you give.

You and I are then down to that:

Great Tradhican - Only corrupted older and unattractive ladies act like men

Croix De Fer - normal young (like a 19 years old) good looking girls pursue men for the same reason men pursue women. (What is the % vs girls who flirt to gain self esteem?)  



Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 19, 2018, 03:57:40 PM
 Also, the chick acting on lust activated by her sight of me without a shirt was 19 years old, not some older lady whom no man wants anymore.
Some men like older women.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 19, 2018, 04:12:38 PM
Some men like older women.
He is referring to this:


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Like I said before, nothing is 100%, there are women who are so corrupted, that they can become like the men of the world that I described. It is analogous to a man becoming a sodomite. Sodomites are mentally disturbed, possessed. Women who act as men will always be older and unattractive, as no one wants them anymore, but the self esteem factor is still there too. Since men will go after anything with a pulse, those women will always find someone.


He is not talking about just any older woman.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Croix de Fer on March 19, 2018, 05:34:25 PM
Her actions are mild for any woman of the world. It still can be explained as Cantarella has described. Her explanation can't be outright dismissed in the case you give.

You and I are then down to that:

Great Tradhican - Only corrupted older and unattractive ladies act like men

Croix De Fer - normal young (like a 19 years old) good looking girls pursue men for the same reason men pursue women. (What is the % vs girls who flirt to gain self esteem?)  

? ? ? ? ?

I'm not sure I follow you.

Also, I never mentioned her actions because there is really no way to put it on a Catholic forum. It wasn't mild. Earlier in this thread or a recent similar one, I was lambasted by several people for innocuously explaining some experiences and the biology of women, and the comment was even removed, so I can only imagine the reaction from people, if I tried to explain this particular incident.

It really doesn't matter chicks' motivation. Their actions are still sinful. They are just as lascivious, fornicating and adulterous as men, regardless of their motivation, but they're more sneaky about it, and they have the courts protecting them a lot more than men.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 19, 2018, 05:51:02 PM
The motivations are everything, it is exactly what this thread is about. If we know the motivation then we can provide the cure for the young ladies.

The OP:

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I'll be blunt, when a man of the world sees a young good looking well figured girl dressed provocatively, they immediately mentally strip her of her clothes  and fantisize or begin to plan on how to have relations with them. That is a mortal sin.

"Whosoever shall look on a woman to lust after her, hath already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:28).

I do not think women have the same problem. I think that women might be attracted by a "a young good looking well figured man dressed provocatively", but they are not tempted to sin as a man is.


(https://www.cathinfo.com/general-discussion/male-immodesty-tempts-feminine-women/?action=reporttm;msg=599465)

Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 19, 2018, 05:54:21 PM
? ? ? ? ?

I'm not sure I follow you.
Then forget it. See your private emails.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Fanny on March 19, 2018, 06:01:06 PM
Then forget it. 
ABOUT TIME!
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Last Tradhican on March 19, 2018, 06:25:25 PM
ABOUT TIME!
You started it all.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: elliseliz on June 03, 2018, 07:32:01 PM
Hi. New member here. Are people still interested in actually discussing this topic, or has it devolved entirely? I'm actually rather interested in talking about it, non-explicitly of course.
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: forlorn on June 04, 2018, 04:10:03 AM
Hi. New member here. Are people still interested in actually discussing this topic, or has it devolved entirely? I'm actually rather interested in talking about it, non-explicitly of course.
I'm interested in hearing it anyway. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: cassini on June 08, 2018, 06:23:38 AM
A lady here on CI, who I respect, said that"male immodesty tempts  feminine women".

In the context of the subject we were discussing: female immodesty in dress, I would answer that women are not tempted to sin in the same way as men are. I would say that male immodesty may attract some women, but I would not say it tempts them to sin.

I'll be blunt, when a man of the world sees a young good looking well figured girl dressed provocatively, they immediately mentally strip her of her clothes  and fantisize or begin to plan on how to have relations with them. That is a mortal sin.

"Whosoever shall look on a woman to lust after her, hath already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:28).

For a Catholic man, when they sees such a girl, a temptation, they must turn away and try to get the image out of their minds in order not to sin.

I do not think women have the same problem. I think that women might be attracted by a "a young good looking well figured man dressed provocatively", but they are not tempted to sin as a man is.

God made women attractive to men. I presume God made men attractive to women. He did so in order that they would marry and produce children, and one knows what is necessary to produce children. I was fortunate enough as a young man to live through times when a kiss was enough to show one's love before marriage. Today things are different, as I am led to believe bed has replaced that kiss.

I note the word 'lust' above in Matthew 5:2 and really could do with an explanation of such lust. Surely it cannot be that attraction, or admiration of femininity given to men by God? Is it a 'stalker' kind of lust? Is lust an instantaneous mental motion of adultry, or an ongoing one?

God forgive me, but I have joked with other men how to avoid such mortal sins. I tell them to frame their thoughts with the preface, 'I wonder what it would be like to be married to that woman.'
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: forlorn on June 08, 2018, 08:38:05 AM
God made women attractive to men. I presume God made men attractive to women. He did so in order that they would marry and produce children, and one knows what is necessary to produce children. I was fortunate enough as a young man to live through times when a kiss was enough to show one's love before marriage. Today things are different, as I am led to believe bed has replaced that kiss.

I note the word 'lust' above in Matthew 5:2 and really could do with an explanation of such lust. Surely it cannot be that attraction, or admiration of femininity given to men by God? Is it a 'stalker' kind of lust? Is lust an instantaneous mental motion of adultry, or an ongoing one?
An admiration of femininity is just thinking a woman is beautiful. Nothing wrong with that. But staring at her breasts, mentally undressing her, imagining sɛҳuąƖ relations, etc. is lust. 
Title: Re: Male Immodesty Tempts Feminine Women?
Post by: Ladislaus on June 08, 2018, 08:51:02 AM
An admiration of femininity is just thinking a woman is beautiful. Nothing wrong with that. But staring at her breasts, mentally undressing her, imagining sɛҳuąƖ relations, etc. is lust.

There are many degrees in between that too, from just a purely aesthetic appreciation of her beauty, to a nearly-subconscious sense of attraction, to a stronger / explicit sense of attraction, to outright lust.  And each step of the way there can be degrees of consent from the will (in which the sin consists).  But the slippery slope into impurity starts with giving in at the first stages.  At those first stages, we're generally not speaking about mortal sin (or even sin at all).  But you might start letting yourself feel some of these things, and then it escalates into the next phase.  So the subsequent temptation is a direct result of giving it some freedom in those earlier stages.  All this assumes that someone in general intends to avoid grave sins against purity.  Otherwise, they give in completely at every stage.  That's why venial sins very often slide right into mortal sins.  By committing venial sin in the early stages, you're setting yourself up for greater temptations with each subsequent stage ... and are creating the habit of consenting to sin in general.  Pilot gave in to non-mortally injuring Our Lord (venial sin), with the intention that it would avoid having to kill Him (mortal sin).  He hoped that by doing the venial he could avoid the mortal.  But it doesn't work out that way.

So, for instance, you said that there was nothing wrong with considering a woman beautiful.  Even those thoughts, if they arise on their own, we need to turn away from quickly.  Acknowledge it and move on.  It's very easy to fall into the trap of:  hey, there's nothing wrong with admiring her beauty.  Next thing you know, though, a sense of attraction is there.  Then you might say, well, this isn't sin, as it's just natural.  Next thing you know, you're sliding into at least venial sin.