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• Since the fall of man, nature and biology are no longer perfect.
• It is through grace that nature finds its true perfection.

Just because we may feel naturally inclined toward something doesn't automatically make it right. Discernment is essential in all areas of life—not just when it comes to attraction.

I don't know why this is even an important topic of discussion anyway.

In the general case, one should rely on what's legal according to both canon and secular law. But there's really no need to try to marry the youngest possible women - even if fertility and risk of pregnancy complications are one's concern, the late teens are the start of peak fertility and not the end. It does seem a bit odd if someone's fixated on what the youngest age he can marry is, unless he has a specific young lady in mind who he's interested in for other reasons than her age. What are even they going to do with that information? Go around asking around people if that have daughters in high school they can be introduced to?

For the specific case, it depends on the woman herself and if her parents approve. It's not just up to you and her to decide if she's ready for marriage if she's living under her father's roof. If everyone involved is happy and the marriage is legal, then whatever someone said on Cathinfo is irrelevant. If the parties involved are not happy with a marriage that young, then it doesn't matter how many people on Cathinfo gave the thumbs up.

Yeah sure that would be helpful.

That seems like the case. I mean we could interview older men and ask them if they started looking for women when they were younger. Were they rejected by them?

AnthonyPadua mentioned that a man may want a younger woman because he felt like he spent a decade for example trying to be financially well-off so he thinks he should have a woman in her prime (likely to be a virgin, can have more children, etc.) My question is, is there attempt for men in their late 20s/early 30s to look for women in their own age/slighter younger? Or is there absolutely no interest there?

I just don’t really know why a teen girl would want to marry an older men unless the men her age wouldn’t be financially able to support a family. Was this the case back then?

Yes, a peasant woman would have upgraded her socioeconomic status by marrying an older men who had the financial means and it would give their kids better opportunities.

I guess the responses I will get will be "not trad for me" "they wished they married younger girls!" "I dont believe this stats" "youre feminist " but:

 Medieval Europe (c. 500–1500)

Nobility and Gentry

Marriage Age: Women often married in their mid-teens, while men typically married in their late teens to early twenties.

Age Gap: Approximately 2–5 years, with men usually older.

Context: Marriages were strategic, aiming to forge alliances and consolidate wealth. Betrothals could occur as early as age 12 for girls and 14 for boys, with the actual wedding taking place a few years later. The Church's canon law set the minimum marriageable age at 12 for women and 14 for men. historytools.org

Peasants and Laborers

Marriage Age: Both men and women typically married in their mid to late twenties.

Age Gap: Generally 2–3 years, with women often a bit younger.

Context: Marriage was delayed until individuals could establish financial independence, often through apprenticeships or service roles. This period of "life-cycle service" was common in both rural and urban settings.

Early Modern Period (1500–1800)

Nobility and Gentry

Marriage Age: Women married in their late teens to early twenties; men in their early to mid-twenties.

Age Gap: Approximately 3–5 years.

Context: Marriages continued to be arranged for political and economic reasons. In regions like England, the average age at first marriage was around 22 for women and 24 for men.

Urban and Rural Commoners

Marriage Age: Women married in their mid to late twenties; men in their late twenties to early thirties.

Age Gap: Approximately 3–5 years.

Context: Economic factors, such as the need to save for a dowry or establish a trade, influenced the timing of marriage. In urban areas, individuals often worked as apprentices or servants before marrying. encyclopedia.com

 19th Century

Upper Classes

Marriage Age: Women married in their early twenties; men in their mid to late twenties.

Age Gap: Approximately 3–5 years.

Context: Marriages were still often arranged, focusing on maintaining or enhancing social status and wealth. However, personal choice began to play a more significant role.

Middle and Lower ClassesMarriage Age: Women married in their mid to late twenties; men in their late twenties to early thirties.

Age Gap: Approximately 3–5 years.

Context: Economic stability was crucial before marriage, leading to delayed unions. In rural areas, agricultural cycles and the need for labor influenced marriage timing.

Good luck courting teens, buy them lolipop, ice cream and new iPhone so that they can film tiktok dance with justin bieber song and "thank you daddy "

I don't know why women haven't figured out the desire for a younger wife is probably linked to the desire to marry a virgin.  Men can't be certain of that with women in their 20s anymore.