Mrs. Z said:I do get really tired of reading about how little an older woman offers to a man and how unattractive she becomes and how all men want to marry a 20 year old.
Are you attracted to 98-year old men, Mrs. Z? How about men whose faces have been blown apart by hand grenades?
Hopefully you see where I'm going with this question. There is a superficial element to human attraction, to romantic love, unless you know someone who has married a man or woman they find outright repugnant, which I doubt. That is why celibacy is better, as God's love is not superficial on any level.
I don't think anyone here said, by the way, that they WANTED to exchange their forty-something wife for a spry gamine of 19. However, men and probably women as well can recognize that young women are very pleasing to behold. A mature man would probably not even have a twinge of regret that his wife was no longer that young, while recognizing the glories of youth; some men would pine away for the younger woman; while others would do anything in their power to actually conquer the young flesh, as their whole lives are about the flesh. But all heterosɛҳuąƖ men would be at some level attracted to a young woman, as you would consider a young man attractive. It is as ineluctable as biology itself. If a painter wants to represent beauty on the canvas, he portrays a young woman with alabaster skin and hair flowing, not a granny with her knitting on her lap.
It all works out in the end because those young women of today are the wrinkly fortysomethings of tomorrow. No one gets to be young and beautiful forever except maybe the Virgin Mary ( who was said to look 30 all her life ). Those who trade on their looks tend to end up with nothing; those who overcome their superficiality, at least to some degree, through immersion in God, are rewarded with peace of mind.
At some point we all have to give up these vain games -- why not start now? I am glad to take myself out of the game, because it's a game you can't win. There's always someone taller, handsomer, younger, smarter, richer, etc.