I thought about putting this only in the women only feed, but I felt that it was a good clip for all. Its on healthy communication.

https://youtu.be/QmO1xj9qLb4?si=j2PBHVz-uuGFA7SG

Please explain what this means.  I don't get it.

I think there are several missing ingredients that are essential for Catholics:

1) self-sacrifice ... this presentation is completely from the perspective of getting your needs met in a relationship, with repeated talk of whether you should be in the relationship if it's not meeting your (emotional) needs

2) submission of the wife to the husband ... much conflict would be resolved if wives truly gave interior submission to their husbands.  If it's only exterior, the wife will hold grudges that will manifest in the typical cold-shoulder treatments, nagging, resentment, etc.  Now, certainly husbands should listen to their wives, but if after due consideration there's disagreement, it's incuмbent upon the wife to truly submit ... barring a decision that's contrary to faith or morals.  Even if the husband might be a jackass, in submitting this way, she's submitting to Our Lord.  It's like in the armed forces.  Your sergeant could be a jackass, but you continue to obey commands for the good of the armed forces in general, and you're submitting for the good of the country rather than for the individual commander.  Similarly, husbands should love even difficult and nagging wives, and continue to listen to them.

So, between self-sacrifice and true interior submission, a lot of these "feelings" work themselves out as they should.  When "feelings" are hurt and people brood over them, it's really a kind of self-absorption, and this guy in the video just confirms and re-affirms all that.

I wonder how Gray would feel about post #17 on this thread (which many consider the greatest post in CI history)?

https://www.cathinfo.com/anonymous-posts-allowed/proper-punishment-for-a-disobedient-wife/15/

 Really?  You think wives should be treated like children or are you joking?  I am losing Hope.

Gray,

Since you are a newbie to forums and CathInfo, I think it would be best if you took a step back (or two) and watched the forum for a while.

Please explain.  I am suppose to feel safe here and I do not.  What am I stepping back to see? 

I think you are here guns-a-blazing, and as with any new group of people you hang back and watch first.  It's like if you joined a new group in real life.  You would watch others and slowly get to know them.

If that doesn't make sense to you or that makes you feel unsafe, then you might want to reassess whether this is a good fit for you. 
 
 

I can see how you might think that.  But please look at it from my perspective.  A letter I wrote was put on here, I did not intend for it ever to be posted here.  The people were completely uncharitable.  They made me out to be something I am not.  I joined only to defend myself against bullying and now everyone judges me based on those first posts. 

I keep posting about love and loving thy neighbor and no one wants to hear it.  If everyone here is trying to be Catholic, then why so harsh to strangers.

A letter I wrote was put on here, I did not intend for it ever to be posted here.  The people were completely uncharitable.

You should be mad at the person who posted it.

Your letter got criticism but only because it was too general to agree with.  No one knew the backstory.