Once more, Trad Guy, you're somewhat twisting Christ's words to suit yourself. By hating your mother or father He didn't mean it in the sense in which you use it. How are they preventing you from being His disciple? Then you can't 'hate' them.
You still haven't explained the conundrum of 'hoarding & spending money foolishly' & being prosperous, yet are being foreclosed upon. This makes no sense. I'm guessing then that they bought a McMansion & now can't afford it & are in over their heads? Doesn't really sound to me like something grandparents of their era would do, but stranger things than that have happened, I guess.