Looking back on this thread, many of my comments towards other members of this forum who offered sound advice seem rash, impatient, insincere, confrontational, uncharitable, and otherwise immature. I apologize. Please understand that at the time I was in a difficult situation that I did not want to be in but was forced into rather obligingly by various factors that were out of my control.
Now, before anyone has a chance to jump up and down saying "I told you so!", I still hold that this issue is more complicated and delicate than some here seem to believe, and I certainly do not think that it is an issue upon which a position can be clearly defined in one sentence.
As for myself, I did not continue work at either Protestant location very long after this thread was created, and I do not plan to take up any such work in the foreseeable future. However, I am in an entirely different living situation now and thankfully I don't think that working in a Protestant church is a realistic or viable option of possible employment.
As an aside, an aspiring traditional Catholic musician can do nothing but despair at the current job market. Frankly, it seems that many traditional Catholics in the pews are content to pay lip service to the need for beautiful art, music, etc (if even that), but when it comes down to money or even just a little effort, no one is willing to budge. I suppose if people don't even want to make an effort to sing themselves, it can't be expected that they care enough to pay someone else to sing or accompany their silence. Ironically, one common defense of the Latin Mass against the Novus Ordo is the aesthetic superiority of the former. Sadly, this is not true (musically speaking) in many, many cases.
I am just a disillusioned youth, wandering aimlessly through a world that is not as rosy as he once thought.
Thank you for bearing with me all these years.