My H's former work colleague (and someone my H describes as a "friend" although they hardly ever see or talk to each other .. and live hundreds of miles apart) ... was raised Catholic (Novus Ordo). He got married in the Church .. and a few years later (I don't know the details) he got divorced. Last year, he got engaged to another woman. She is also "Catholic" (i.e. Novus Ordo, too) and I don't believe she's been married before. At first, the friend was beginning the process of annulment .. then he found out it could take up to 18 months to be concluded .. and he decided to forget about it and get "married" again, anyway.
Apparently, he has made friends with her family and even goes to N.O. Mass with them. (Can you see all the happy, grinning faces here? :smile: :smile: :smile:) ? My H said he talked with him a couple of years ago, before he got engaged, about being Catholic and marriage and all that. Although, my H being a hardcore "sanguine" likely made it very vague and overly gentle...enough so that he was likely misunderstood by said friend.... :thinking: but that is another story and a long one at that!
Now they're getting "married" at a country club (big wedding, 26 attendants, etc) and we were sent an invitation. I returned the invitation sending our "regrets" at not being able to attend. Which is perfectly truthful. I'm very sorry we cannot attend. I'd love to go to a wedding!
Anyway, my question now is: Do I have to send a wedding gift? I think in a normal situation would require that we send a gift even if we don't attend. But I was thinking we shouldn't because just like attending wedding or reception that signifies not only acceptance but celebration of what is an invalid marriage. Is this correct? I'm a little worried that the friend and his "new wife" might be offended that we didn't send a gift...completely missing the point that they're doing something wrong.