This goes both ways.
Women thinking that men are attracted to the same things we do (leadership, resources, independence, strength, etc). That is why modern women brag about their degrees, successful careers, or "I make more money than you", etc...like men actually cared about those things; (instead of looks). It is laughable.
It is as if each sex projects itself into the other, being actually clueless of each other; instead of recognizing that we do seem different species; only to be united for the procreation of families in Marriage.
I think this is, for the most part, a modern phenomenon, though. People before used to have a better perception of the differences between male and female nature.
Very true! If I see a guy who is barechested, flexing his muscles, his body tanned and oiled, bragging about how many pounds he can benchpress, I dismiss him as an immature, arrogant jerk. Likewise, if a man looks too feminine, wears skinny jeans, designer shoes, flaunts his designer labels, hairdo, and carries a shoulder bag, (Max Krah?), he's a ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ. The only temptation is to judge rashly.
While I'd prefer a large man, the outdoorsy logger-type, looks aren't everything. I'd be looking for respectfulness, moral and spiritual leadership, strength of character. If he's too fat, out of shape, a sloppy dresser, those things can be remedied.
A friend of my family's once went to a job interview for a dean of discipline at a private boys' school. When asked to describe himself, he replied, "short, fat, bald, and ugly." He was hired the same day.