This might be a little off the subject. My grandmother was unhappy with my parents having child after child. When number 6 was on the way, grandmother made a comment of when "she" was going to stop doing this to her son. My mom told grandmother, "You are hurting your son and me deeply when you think and say these things." Grandmother never said anything again.
I believe and have experienced that you must talk things out in the open, just get it out. There is a way to do it. If you don't it just keeps festering. When time comes be ready. Tell your husband if something needs to be said, say it. And encourage him to say it first, by saying, I give you the honor as head of the home to say it. If not, I will. Don't keep a false peace. I see so many families doing this. False peace is tolerating each other either by keeping quiet or a fake smile. No, don't do that, there is a honorable way to say what needs to be said. Once it is said, that is it. If the family members continue to outwardly continue to hurt the family, then say you must leave. And go. It is a sign that you really mean it. Sometimes one of the spouses end up being the one who speaks up. And the one who speaks up knows that they will be looked upon as the "guru or bad guy". Even the kids catch on real quick. If they don't get their way with mom, they go to dad or vesus versus.
My mother gave me good advice when I was married. She said the hardest thing to do is make decisions. I found that out when a mother and young toddler son came to our home. The child was throwing a ball in my home against furniture and stereo. She just laughed so I said to myself, this is my home, if I don't stop this I will regret not doing just that. So, I caught the ball while in flight and I said, it's time for you to go home." And they left and never came back. I felt good, because I know I did what was best to do. I knew that I had control of what comes in or goes out the door. I knew what my mom met.
So speak up and discuss your thoughts with your husband and help him to make decisions too. It is the hardest thing to do, but speak up.