There was a person at my work who was very effeminate.  I am almost certain he was ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ.  I stayed far away.  Fortunately, my job doesn't normally put me in a position of interaction with my co-workers.  The only risks were on break or lunch.  It is wise to be not too familiar with people who purport an un-Catholic culture and morals.  This may not be the best approach, but I have found it helpful for my own sanity.

I should say that I'm a woman -- it's a little different than a man interacting with an effeminate man. I think most normal men would not consider associating with an effeminate man; IMO, if a man does want to be around an effeminate man he's got some unsavory motive...

But what should some effeminate do about how it shows up? For instance, some of them have extremely high pitched voices, even when speaking very low. I'm not sure what they can do about it.

Of course, traditional teaching is that they should be celibate and humble, but the discomfort with what's obvious remains...

Not all men with feminine traits, ie, a high voice, odd way of walking, are ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖs.  I have a distant relative in his 20s who has cerebal palsy, developmental delays and a severe speech impediment.  He is often mistaken for being "gαy" and finds it very distressing, as he is most definitely NOT!  I'd be kind, polite, friendly unless the man acts inappropriately.  

says sodomy is a separate sin from being effeminate

Does being effeminate lead to someone becoming a sodomite? I think of effeminancy (sp?) as a kind of character defect. Some people are prone to rash judgments and wrath; other people are gluttons, for instance. If you take a character defect to its terminus, it leads to something. Wrath can lead to murder, in its extreme...

I have a hard time reading some scholarly Church teachings, but I was wondering if someone could explain it in lay terms? Aquinas is too hard for me...

First, in the instance of those born as such:

Immaculata, effeminacy is condemned in the Scriptures. However, there are remedies and it can be minimized. Certainly, if hormonal in origin, the man cannot be held "responsible" for the condition anymore than for the color of his hair.

While, objectively and from a great remove, I might imagine that some of these poor creatures live an agonized life, bereft of real friends and making up for it by gathering any sort of attention they may. In short, even looking, sounding or behaving foolishly matters less than receiving some sort, almost any sort, of attention from others. It might be, for many of them, a terribly lonely existence.

Contrary to socialist dogma, God did not make men equal or even terribly similar. In better times, all men knew implicitly that it was the duty of the strong to protect the person and, as well, the good name of the weak. Whence, the sacred oath of knighthood.

It would seem most un-chivalric to consider that a true knight would mock or terrify some poor soul deficient in his normal attributes, even long before modern hormonal medical advances were developed.

Beyond all that, there are men who cannot enter combat or perform impressive physical feats, from their childhood. They may have any number of other skills of use to society, however, and in which they may justly take pride for their accomplishments.

Now, as to those who adopt such characteristics and behaviors as a result of ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖism, the matter is altogether different. They may even be chaste but willful in the manner of how they present themselves. It might be an emotional or even an ideological "game" for them wherein they deliberately seek to outrage others. These, I can only suggest, deserve ostracization, full stop. If possible, making it clear that one is neither interested in their views or in social interaction with them must be accomplished or, in some cases, they may seek to raise the emotional stakes and coerce others into "accepting" them, which is impossible.

And that is where the tension is greatest. As E. Michael Jones put it some years back, the queer is now the ideal citizen in fallen America, and Europe as well (save, thank God!, for Russia).

Despite the propaganda, the population of homos is probably less than 2% in most countries. It might be a bit higher in the West today, as a result of immigration from more repressive, non-Western cultures. However, these creatures do not in any way constitute a sizable portion of the population, as much as some of them would like to otherwise convince everyone.

Thus, being polite but distant, prudently avoiding settings where the risk of having to openly deal with an effeminate individual (who probably has any number of new civil procedures at his command if anyone antagonizes him) and, as others said, praying for yourself - first! - and then for his conversion may be, as far as possible, the only practical steps to take.

My remarks are only very general but I hope helpful to you. I have had zero encounters in my lifetime with such people and am trying to pass along what seems reasonable for a Catholic to do. I've seen very few effeminate men and it was always out in a general public setting.

I would hope good manners and being a gentleman or lady would most times carry the day even in an uncomfortable situation.

To close, I've seen quite a number of heterosɛҳuąƖ men who were dolts, jerks, creeps and ne'er-do-wells of other descriptions not fit to describe in mixed company. But, they too, and most fortunately, have been a minority.

Effeminate men seem to be numerous among the conciliar church and their religious orders. Some of them you would swear they were homos, but then logic kicks in, and you know that Jesus is portrayed as a feminine personality, and that modern society punishes men who act like men, because violence and assertiveness is "shocking". I don't see why people who have criminal records or who got into other trouble, or whom society drove mental, should be barred from religious life, but that is just a personal gripe. but Religion and its do no evil philosophy makes some religious men think that they are paralysed and can never get angry or fight for anything, even though true religion is the opposite. We must Fight. Our souls depend on it.
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And that is where the tension is greatest. As E. Michael Jones put it some years back, the queer is now the ideal citizen in fallen America, and Europe as well (save, thank God!, for Russia).

Despite the propaganda, the population of homos is probably less than 2% in most countries.

I think sodomy is a choice one makes, except in the case of rape of course, so I never liked those numbers. 2%, 10%, or 50%, they're certainly not "born that way". Born fallen, we all are except the necessary few in history, but I'd guess most people today don't get Baptised anymore, so they stay fallen. And then it doesn't even matter what they do: sodomy, necrophilia, bestiality, adultery, it's all bad and that society is toast.

I know of people who practice all sorts of evil, but don't "self-identify" that way. They say they don't want to be pegged down with a label. Kids say they're not sure yet, as if they're planning to try everything on for size. I wouldn't be surprised to learn they teach that attitude in public schools. But whatever has happened, this mystery of iniquity, it has far eclipsed that 2% figure.

The best I can say is, this All Hallow's Eve, most people in Western "civilization" would not NEED a costume to portray themselves as the living dead.  :sad: