Author Topic: How to Treat Effeminate Men? (Read 10711 times)

Immaculata001 · « **on:** October 24, 2013, 09:30:40 PM »

I have been considering the acceptance and promotion of "transɛҳuąƖism" over at FE, and I happened to watch the movie "Infamous," which depicts Truman Capote's life at the time of the writing of In Cold Blood.

Capote, a famous American writer, was notoriously effeminate -- he was extremely so...

It caused me to consider how one should treat men who are extremely effeminate? I think we've all known of sissies from our youth who were very shocking in their behavior, their walk, their voices, and their interests. Some men are so effeminate that they seem to have a feminine build. As a child, and as depicted in the film which was set in the 1960s, I remember effeminate boys causing intense anxiety among both women and men.

Some men are so effeminate that it's extremely difficult for them to disguise it. What should they do? If they are celibate and not being brazen, how should one behave towards them?

I have a former coworker who's effeminate. I speak to him and treat him kindly, but I don't discuss romantic relationships with him or anything that might lead him to disclose anything -- I've also taken to praying for his conversion just as I pray for my own conversion.

Mithrandylan · « **Reply #1 on:** October 24, 2013, 09:39:01 PM »

There was a person at my work who was very effeminate. I am almost certain he was ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ. I stayed far away. Fortunately, my job doesn't normally put me in a position of interaction with my co-workers. The only risks were on break or lunch. It is wise to be not too familiar with people who purport an un-Catholic culture and morals. This may not be the best approach, but I have found it helpful for my own sanity.

Cantarella · « **Reply #2 on:** October 24, 2013, 09:40:11 PM »

Civil but distant.

Also, keep this soul in your prayers.

Immaculata001 · « **Reply #3 on:** October 24, 2013, 09:46:35 PM »

I should say that I'm a woman -- it's a little different than a man interacting with an effeminate man. I think most normal men would not consider associating with an effeminate man; IMO, if a man does want to be around an effeminate man he's got some unsavory motive...

But what should some effeminate do about how it shows up? For instance, some of them have extremely high pitched voices, even when speaking very low. I'm not sure what they can do about it.

Of course, traditional teaching is that they should be celibate and humble, but the discomfort with what's obvious remains...

s2srea · « **Reply #4 on:** October 24, 2013, 09:49:07 PM »

Quote from: Cantarella

Civil but distant.

Also, keep this soul in your prayers.

I agree. There is a man at my work who is effeminate. He does not say he's a ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ, and honestly I am unsure if he really is or not. I am cordial with him, and he with me. We were both working out in our workplace gym, and even got to discussing the Faith to an extent.