How to treat effeminate men? As you would anyone else made in the Image and Likeness of God.

Every one of us has their own cross to carry as we try to become like Christ. ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖs should see God's Goodness, Love and Mercy in each of us, and then we can in time introduce them to God's Holy Church, the hospital for all of us sinners. Shunning them reflects a Pharisaical hardness of heart incompatible with Christ and His Kingdom.

A wise and humble post, Nick.

The Church is not a hospital.

Where else does one go to be treated for and cured of the insanity of sin?

The Church in this life should be an army...not a triage tent after a battle.

How to treat effeminate men? As you would anyone else made in the Image and Likeness of God.

Every one of us has their own cross to carry as we try to become like Christ. ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖs should see God's Goodness, Love and Mercy in each of us, and then we can in time introduce them to God's Holy Church, the hospital for all of us sinners. Shunning them reflects a Pharisaical hardness of heart incompatible with Christ and His Kingdom.

I tried earlier to add to my post but the cement had dried and I lost it. Anyway hours later here is the redone version.

Getting back on topic, the OP asked about effeminacy. Many people seem to think that effeminacy means ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖity, but not necessarily so.  

A baby boy raised by a lone mother, or together with a violent, weak, or emotionally-absent father, without the benefit of the rough-and-tumble toughening-up process which can only be supplied by a father, may possibly grow up to act effeminately. He may not know how to act in a masculine way and/or his effeminate behaviour may be encouraged and even rewarded within the dysfunctional family.

He will feel different from other boys. He will feel the lack of a true father. He may be singled out for name-calling etc and vulnerable to be preyed upon by unscrupulous characters.

All these things don’t make for ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖity, but he is in a very dangerous situation and he may find that the only friends he is able to make are unsavoury types.

Behaviour is learned and it can be unlearned, not without great difficulty, prayer, fasting, the practice of the Sacraments and self-discipline. He will need to detach himself from the unchaste, and he will need male friend/s who will accept him as he is and hopefully he will be able to learn from them in a safe chaste environment how to be manly.

This is a rare but possible scenario.

This solution can also work for those ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖs who wish to be freed from their slavery, and they can overcome their sin and temptation to sin, with prayer, fasting, the practice of the Sacraments and self-discipline and the help and support of manly men.

Such a work of Charity is not for every man, but there are those who are holy, balanced and virtuous  enough to do it.

It has been my observation that the people you need to watch out for are the very masculine ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ men.

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It has been my observation that the people you need to watch out for are the very masculine ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ men.

Yes, like the ones who populated the nαzι SA, aka the Brownshirts...

 

For me, the very sight of an effeminate man in my church, is a big red flag. This is someone to keep a close eye on. I watch them to see how they react to the young boys. If they are perverted, it will show.

It is the duty of men to watch out for these people, because women do not have a good eye for this. In my experience, few men have an eye for it. Many times I have saved young men from being victimized, and no one even noticed. It does not take many people to do the job, but those with an eye to see, need to step up and do their duty.

By the way, the same applies to watching for young men preying on the girls. There too, I don't see many people with an eye for watching out for them.

I have children, and I consider others children as if they were my own. Most fathers today are too busy thinking about Sundays football games or some other such trivial matter, meanwhile, their daughter is being seduced right before their eyes.

If you take out the same-sex part of it, I'd agree that at least one, sometimes two, people in most parishes are people to watch out for because they'll seduce women and teen girls, or act strangely around children. We're either told this (open secret sort of thing), or notice it and the child actually COMPLAINS.

We have one effeminate bachelor who's primarily just rich. It's not just his personal grooming habits, but his speech — and I mean the words he SAYS (though how he says them is a factor, too). He's older (50-60s?), and physically disabled (bad back), and perfectly round (5'3" tall and wide), so nobody "worries" about him being inappropriate, but visitors always assume he's homo.

I pray for him because he truly is scared of the silliest things (I'VE had to calm him down so I could kill the itty bitty spider with my fingers) and, well, he's scared of everything. He hoisted himself onto a chair when someone yelled "snake" once, leaving the women and children to fend for themselves (one older woman in her 70s walked over, picked up the harmless snake, and tossed it into the brush). He gets the "vapors," and says so (eg, "Girl, that scared me so bad I almost peed myself!"). We have to bring him water and calm him down. He uses a fan on himself like he's going through menopause, only it's his nerves (he's apparently ALWAYS been like that, needing to fan himself).

I adore the guy 100%; he's brilliant and funny, and I simply don't think he's gαy. He reminds me more of a eunuch (not interested in sɛҳuąƖ relations at all). But he's truly a poster boy for non-ɧoɱosɛҳųαƖ effeminism. Since scriptural eunuchs could be men of God (Daniel, for example), I think effeminates should shoot for those examples (Daniel stood UP for himself). As much as I enjoy his company, I fear he's got to man up a little. Good Lord he makes most of us women feel overly masculine.

I try to picture him being holy and humble ... he wouldn't do well in Purgatory, trust, so we've GOT to hope he's martyred. (Isn't that terrible!? I want him to go to Heaven, but the road... oh my.) Even then, I see him getting to Heaven and complimenting St. Peter on his robes, or complaining about dust specs in Heaven.

Does anyone even know how to pray for an effeminate man to "man up"? (I'm afraid I use those very words, and I even shrug a bit, because I don't know what to ask for!) Is there a patron saint for ...this effeminate condition? I read about Henry III and, well, I got nothing. (Except maybe a duel in his youth? But we can't duel! —I have no idea.)