Author Topic: How to meet another Traditional Catholic girl? (Read 2564 times)

RadTradCatholic · « **on:** June 27, 2016, 02:34:34 AM »

Well, I'm a young catholic who is worried about my future marriage, since I can't meet many like-minded Traditional Catholics in my region. I tried some websites, but those websites either have too broad group who is not interested in true Catholic faith or have too few members so that I can't even find a girl near me.
How do you meet together?
(FYI: I can accept Neo-SSPX, SSPX-Resistance, and Sedevacantist girls.)

MyrnaM · « **Reply #1 on:** June 27, 2016, 09:07:55 AM »

Quote from: RadTradCatholic

Well, I'm a young catholic who is worried about my future marriage, since I can't meet many like-minded Traditional Catholics in my region. I tried some websites, but those websites either have too broad group who is not interested in true Catholic faith or have too few members so that I can't even find a girl near me.
How do you meet together?
(FYI: I can accept Neo-SSPX, SSPX-Resistance, and Sedevacantist girls.)

If you are advertising here you should add your age, location and occupation, I know many young girls who MIGHT be interested.

You should make an effort to attend the Fatima Conference here in Spokane this coming October. See link below. They schedule an event for singles to get acquainted.
Not only will you have an opportunity to meet several young people; If you work towards showing an interest in meeting others.

You will also be graced with meeting priests and Catholic speakers from all over the world who will be there giving lectures on the Catholic Faith, and the crisis on our religion.

The Fatima Conference is held at Mount St. Michael Church in Spokane.
http://www.cmri.org/fatima-conference.shtml

Last Tradhican · « **Reply #2 on:** June 27, 2016, 10:01:03 AM »

I've seen unhappy marriages among traditionalists who were in a hurry to get married. So be careful and let God sort it out for you.

Stay close to the sacraments, mass, prayer, religious studies, and work. Let God do the rest. That is how I met my wife. I was not looking, and one day she showed up at my chapel. I did not have to compromise on anything, she was a knockout, a great chef, intelligent and loved children.

Did I mention that there will be a lot of children?

Croixalist · « **Reply #3 on:** June 27, 2016, 10:36:36 AM »

Leave a scapular out with some cheese at the local TLM center.

All kidding aside, it can be a wasteland out there depending on where you are and who you know. In the meantime, just think about the world you want to bring children into... if you still have a desire after that, then I suppose you might have a reason to look for that special someone.

Matthew · « **Reply #4 on:** June 27, 2016, 11:42:48 AM »

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In the meantime, just think about the world you want to bring children into... if you still have a desire after that, then I suppose you might have a reason to look for that special someone.

I've heard this sentiment more than once.

Unless it is your own personal reason for following a vocation, I can't see how this is anything but a form of despair. It doesn't strike me as Catholic or healthy to have such a fatalistic view of the world.

WHEN have Catholics ever said, "The world is too rotten. I can't get married and bring children into this world?" Isn't that the exact opposite of what Catholics are supposed to be about?

Again, the closest LEGIT attitude to this is the personal (non-dogmatic) opinion of many religious who decided to leave the world. They decided it was best FOR THEM to avoid completely the evil of the world, and be celibate. They decided it was best FOR THEM to leave it and become religious.

But to stay in the world, and give up on the world at the same time -- there's something messed up there.

Not trying to pick on you, Croixalist, because I've heard this on CathInfo from at least a dozen young and middle aged men over the years.

Croixalist · « **Reply #5 on:** June 27, 2016, 11:52:48 AM »

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In the meantime, just think about the world you want to bring children into... if you still have a desire after that, then I suppose you might have a reason to look for that special someone.

I've heard this sentiment more than once.

Unless it is your own personal reason for following a vocation, I can't see how this is anything but a form of despair. It doesn't strike me as Catholic or healthy to have such a fatalistic view of the world.

WHEN have Catholics ever said, "The world is too rotten. I can't get married and bring children into this world?" Isn't that the exact opposite of what Catholics are supposed to be about?

Again, the closest LEGIT attitude to this is the personal (non-dogmatic) opinion of many religious who decided to leave the world. They decided it was best FOR THEM to avoid completely the evil of the world, and be celibate. They decided it was best FOR THEM to leave it and become religious.

But to stay in the world, and give up on the world at the same time -- there's something messed up there.

Not trying to pick on you, Croixalist, because I've heard this on CathInfo from at least a dozen young and middle aged men over the years.

Well if he can past the negative outlook, then it might be for him! Otherwise, be sober about the grave responsibility of raising children in this day and age as a traditional Catholic. It's better to be hesitant and well prepared than to be overly confident and hasty, in my opinion. It's not like I left him no options either.

Now, if you're going to downthumb me for that, at least allow me to return the favor you Napoleonic stand-in!

:really-mad2:

qeddeq · « **Reply #6 on:** June 27, 2016, 11:54:16 AM »

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Quote from: Croixalist
In the meantime, just think about the world you want to bring children into... if you still have a desire after that, then I suppose you might have a reason to look for that special someone.

I've heard this sentiment more than once.

Unless it is your own personal reason for following a vocation, I can't see how this is anything but a form of despair. It doesn't strike me as Catholic or healthy to have such a fatalistic view of the world.

WHEN have Catholics ever said, "The world is too rotten. I can't get married and bring children into this world?" Isn't that the exact opposite of what Catholics are supposed to be about?

Again, the closest LEGIT attitude to this is the personal (non-dogmatic) opinion of many religious who decided to leave the world. They decided it was best FOR THEM to avoid completely the evil of the world, and be celibate. They decided it was best FOR THEM to leave it and become religious.

But to stay in the world, and give up on the world at the same time -- there's something messed up there.

Not trying to pick on you, Croixalist, because I've heard this on CathInfo from at least a dozen young and middle aged men over the years.

I agree that thinking you cannot bring children into the world is a very uncatholic thought. All young catholics who want to marry should consider children a gift from God.

Croixalist · « **Reply #7 on:** June 27, 2016, 12:13:55 PM »

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In the meantime, just think about the world you want to bring children into... if you still have a desire after that, then I suppose you might have a reason to look for that special someone.

I've heard this sentiment more than once.

Unless it is your own personal reason for following a vocation, I can't see how this is anything but a form of despair. It doesn't strike me as Catholic or healthy to have such a fatalistic view of the world.

WHEN have Catholics ever said, "The world is too rotten. I can't get married and bring children into this world?" Isn't that the exact opposite of what Catholics are supposed to be about?

Again, the closest LEGIT attitude to this is the personal (non-dogmatic) opinion of many religious who decided to leave the world. They decided it was best FOR THEM to avoid completely the evil of the world, and be celibate. They decided it was best FOR THEM to leave it and become religious.

But to stay in the world, and give up on the world at the same time -- there's something messed up there.

Not trying to pick on you, Croixalist, because I've heard this on CathInfo from at least a dozen young and middle aged men over the years.

I agree that thinking you cannot bring children into the world is a very uncatholic thought. All young catholics who want to marry should consider children a gift from God.

Both of you are reading way more into that statement than was intended. I didn't say he couldn't, but it can be rough and likely to get much rougher. No sense in sugarcoating it. The average trad has to do a lot of extra work to try to make sure their kids are well provided for. It's just a fact. At the same time, it might be helpful to keep that in mind when looking for prospective spouses. I may be more prone to negativity, but I'm not ruling out the possibility!

There are 10 horror stories out there for every fairytale of personal happiness in the married life. It's not impossible, but we know the odds aren't favorable. Pray, hope, know what to look for, and have a plan.

Capt McQuigg · « **Reply #8 on:** June 27, 2016, 03:14:07 PM »

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In the meantime, just think about the world you want to bring children into... if you still have a desire after that, then I suppose you might have a reason to look for that special someone.

I've heard this sentiment more than once.

Unless it is your own personal reason for following a vocation, I can't see how this is anything but a form of despair. It doesn't strike me as Catholic or healthy to have such a fatalistic view of the world.

WHEN have Catholics ever said, "The world is too rotten. I can't get married and bring children into this world?" Isn't that the exact opposite of what Catholics are supposed to be about?

Again, the closest LEGIT attitude to this is the personal (non-dogmatic) opinion of many religious who decided to leave the world. They decided it was best FOR THEM to avoid completely the evil of the world, and be celibate. They decided it was best FOR THEM to leave it and become religious.

But to stay in the world, and give up on the world at the same time -- there's something messed up there.

Not trying to pick on you, Croixalist, because I've heard this on CathInfo from at least a dozen young and middle aged men over the years.

I agree that thinking you cannot bring children into the world is a very uncatholic thought. All young catholics who want to marry should consider children a gift from God.

Both of you are reading way more into that statement than was intended. I didn't say he couldn't, but it can be rough and likely to get much rougher. No sense in sugarcoating it. The average trad has to do a lot of extra work to try to make sure their kids are well provided for. It's just a fact. At the same time, it might be helpful to keep that in mind when looking for prospective spouses. I may be more prone to negativity, but I'm not ruling out the possibility!

There are 10 horror stories out there for every fairytale of personal happiness in the married life. It's not impossible, but we know the odds aren't favorable. Pray, hope, know what to look for, and have a plan.

The odds of a "fairy tale marriage" in the secular world is very low and in the novus ordo it is also low. However, in the Traditional Catholic world, and particularly among SSPXers and Sedes, the odds would be on the high side of having a very happy Catholic marriage.

People aren't reading too much into your comment. To say that this world is too rotten to bring children into it is to make a comment of despair (as Matthew said) and also to deny God's blessing into our world. The purpose of a Catholic marriage is to bring Catholic souls into the world to worship Our Lord. To say that you want to refrain from bringing children into this world also implies a desire or wistfulness on your part to use birth control or even abortion.

To decide to not have children because the world is so rotten could be a slogan for an abortion clinic.

Croix de Fer · « **Reply #9 on:** June 27, 2016, 03:20:23 PM »

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Quote from: RadTradCatholic
Well, I'm a young catholic who is worried about my future marriage, since I can't meet many like-minded Traditional Catholics in my region. I tried some websites, but those websites either have too broad group who is not interested in true Catholic faith or have too few members so that I can't even find a girl near me.
How do you meet together?
(FYI: I can accept Neo-SSPX, SSPX-Resistance, and Sedevacantist girls.)

If you are advertising here you should add your age, location and occupation, I know many young girls who MIGHT be interested.

You should make an effort to attend the Fatima Conference here in Spokane this coming October. See link below. They schedule an event for singles to get acquainted.
Not only will you have an opportunity to meet several young people; If you work towards showing an interest in meeting others.

You will also be graced with meeting priests and Catholic speakers from all over the world who will be there giving lectures on the Catholic Faith, and the crisis on our religion.

The Fatima Conference is held at Mount St. Michael Church in Spokane.
http://www.cmri.org/fatima-conference.shtml

Is the Conference every year? I don't think I'll be able to make it this year. Is it the same location or does it change every year (if this is annual)?

Stubborn · « **Reply #10 on:** June 27, 2016, 03:29:31 PM »

Quote from: RadTradCatholic

Well, I'm a young catholic who is worried about my future marriage, since I can't meet many like-minded Traditional Catholics in my region. I tried some websites, but those websites either have too broad group who is not interested in true Catholic faith or have too few members so that I can't even find a girl near me.
How do you meet together?
(FYI: I can accept Neo-SSPX, SSPX-Resistance, and Sedevacantist girls.)

Well, surely there is at least one available trad woman at your trad chapel no? Have you spoken to her? If no then go do it!

Odds are more than likely that like you, she is looking for a trad man - so go up and find out - talk to her. Could be the best thing you ever did no matter what the outcome, but there's only one way to know.

MyrnaM · « **Reply #11 on:** June 27, 2016, 04:48:30 PM »

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Quote from: RadTradCatholic
Well, I'm a young catholic who is worried about my future marriage, since I can't meet many like-minded Traditional Catholics in my region. I tried some websites, but those websites either have too broad group who is not interested in true Catholic faith or have too few members so that I can't even find a girl near me.
How do you meet together?
(FYI: I can accept Neo-SSPX, SSPX-Resistance, and Sedevacantist girls.)

If you are advertising here you should add your age, location and occupation, I know many young girls who MIGHT be interested.

You should make an effort to attend the Fatima Conference here in Spokane this coming October. See link below. They schedule an event for singles to get acquainted.
Not only will you have an opportunity to meet several young people; If you work towards showing an interest in meeting others.

You will also be graced with meeting priests and Catholic speakers from all over the world who will be there giving lectures on the Catholic Faith, and the crisis on our religion.

The Fatima Conference is held at Mount St. Michael Church in Spokane.
http://www.cmri.org/fatima-conference.shtml

Is the Conference every year? I don't think I'll be able to make it this year. Is it the same location or does it change every year (if this is annual)?

The conference is every years always in October and always at Mount St. Michael yes, annual. If you have never been to Mount St. Michael, the place has a history to enjoy, the building alone is 100 years old and we have a museum now. An old Jesuit cemetery is there and Father Cataldo is buried there along with some other Jesuits whose bodies are incorrupt. We are also blessed to have our own cemetery for the laity, which means so much to us, when I read horror stories about when I Traditional Catholic dies they are buried in a Vatican II cemetery. When my father died in Chicago 30 years ago, I had a hard time getting him into the cemetery where he already had and paid for a plot. They asked me all kinds of questions about where he went to Mass and wanted to know why a priest was flying in to offer Mass for him, instead of arranging for one of their Vatican II priests.
I had to convince them that the priest was a good friend of the family, of which he was so I did not lie. Although I did hide the truth.

snowball · « **Reply #12 on:** June 27, 2016, 04:55:15 PM »

Greatly increasing numbers of Novus Ordo Catholics are opening their eyes
and are willing to think like Trads, even become Trads of various sorts.
A long marriage would live through unknown
changes in the Church's future.
If you are the man, then your wife should follow your lead
on where to attend Mass. You're the head of the household
in that regard. All she needs is appropriate catechism.
This is my plan, anyway.
It's a lot easier to be persuasive in recent years as the mainstream
church has become foreign-feeling to so many Catholics.
It's even a reason why some are "lapsed", so I would concentrate
on making yourself appealing and able to provide the necessities.

Croixalist · « **Reply #13 on:** June 27, 2016, 04:56:09 PM »

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In the meantime, just think about the world you want to bring children into... if you still have a desire after that, then I suppose you might have a reason to look for that special someone.

I've heard this sentiment more than once.

Unless it is your own personal reason for following a vocation, I can't see how this is anything but a form of despair. It doesn't strike me as Catholic or healthy to have such a fatalistic view of the world.

WHEN have Catholics ever said, "The world is too rotten. I can't get married and bring children into this world?" Isn't that the exact opposite of what Catholics are supposed to be about?

Again, the closest LEGIT attitude to this is the personal (non-dogmatic) opinion of many religious who decided to leave the world. They decided it was best FOR THEM to avoid completely the evil of the world, and be celibate. They decided it was best FOR THEM to leave it and become religious.

But to stay in the world, and give up on the world at the same time -- there's something messed up there.

Not trying to pick on you, Croixalist, because I've heard this on CathInfo from at least a dozen young and middle aged men over the years.

I agree that thinking you cannot bring children into the world is a very uncatholic thought. All young catholics who want to marry should consider children a gift from God.

Both of you are reading way more into that statement than was intended. I didn't say he couldn't, but it can be rough and likely to get much rougher. No sense in sugarcoating it. The average trad has to do a lot of extra work to try to make sure their kids are well provided for. It's just a fact. At the same time, it might be helpful to keep that in mind when looking for prospective spouses. I may be more prone to negativity, but I'm not ruling out the possibility!

There are 10 horror stories out there for every fairytale of personal happiness in the married life. It's not impossible, but we know the odds aren't favorable. Pray, hope, know what to look for, and have a plan.

The odds of a "fairy tale marriage" in the secular world is very low and in the novus ordo it is also low. However, in the Traditional Catholic world, and particularly among SSPXers and Sedes, the odds would be on the high side of having a very happy Catholic marriage.

People aren't reading too much into your comment. To say that this world is too rotten to bring children into it is to make a comment of despair (as Matthew said) and also to deny God's blessing into our world. The purpose of a Catholic marriage is to bring Catholic souls into the world to worship Our Lord. To say that you want to refrain from bringing children into this world also implies a desire or wistfulness on your part to use birth control or even abortion.

To decide to not have children because the world is so rotten could be a slogan for an abortion clinic.

I didn't say it was too rotten, I simply said to think about the world he wants to bring children into. This means getting the imagination ready for all the extreme challenges ahead. If he's still up for it, then he's earned it. I don't see the despair if a young man truly puts in his best efforts but if he's just kinda feeling lonely and unloved, that's the world for you. Aim higher.

AMDGJMJ · « **Reply #14 on:** June 27, 2016, 07:15:50 PM »

I love Saint Michael's in Spokane!

I visited there while discerning a vocation to the religious life, and it is the only one I think that would have really considered entering. I was sort of devastated when I found out that I did not have a vocation to the religious life. God knows best though.

I had no clue that they had single retreats...

I might go to one if they had one on the East Coast, but going out West is tough because I would have to save up for the ticket and everything. My father actually paid for my trip to the convent, even though my family is novus ordo.

Maybe one day...

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As for meeting good single traditional Catholics...

I have wondered the same thing. I have had bad experiences over the different "catholicmatch" catholicsingles" groups, and am not in a hurry to go back to them...

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One thing that I do is I pray every day for my future spouse where ever and whom ever he is. This is what Saint Anne and Joachim both separately did, and then they left the rest in God's Hands. I try to be patient and do the same. :-)