Author Topic: How to Discourage Men from Hugging Each Other (Read 10121 times)

wallflower · « **Reply #60 on:** June 03, 2014, 06:58:33 PM »

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Pere Joseph's continued erudition in this thread indicate to me that he has either been drinking too much, or not enough.

I think you're right. Some alcohol and a nap should fix it.

The other hot topic!

Zeitun · « **Reply #61 on:** June 03, 2014, 08:54:54 PM »

I'm sorry that I haven't continued to post on the thread. The issue was resolved for my family so I didn't see the need to continue.

Let me clarify--I grew up in California where hugging has replaced handshakes BETWEEN STRANGERS. My husband has complained frequently about the social pressure men are under to go along with this. Even in the workplace one might see male co-workers hugging. I left California to get away from that sick culture and I'm upset that I'm finding it in my new place even among Catholics.

The situation I presented in the OP was lacking details that I realize now might have changed how others interpretted it. I was in a hurry when I wrote the post. The incident that spawned the thread was an evening where an elderly man sought out and hugged my son against his will THREE TIMES. In less than 2 hours. It happened in my own home when my husband was not here and my son and myself were very very upset. This man is NOT family--we barely know him. I have nothing against male family or even friends hugging. That is NOT what this thread is about.

Again, I apologize for not providing enough details in the OP. I don't come from a culture where touching is sinful nor do I teach that to my children. I'm not angry at the hugging man or anyone who has disagreed with me on the issue. :sign-surrender:

holyfamily · « **Reply #62 on:** June 03, 2014, 09:20:17 PM »

Just wondering, why was a man who you describe as not family and barely knowing, in your home in the evening while your husband not home?

Zeitun · « **Reply #63 on:** June 03, 2014, 11:04:32 PM »

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Just wondering, why was a man who you describe as not family and barely knowing, in your home in the evening while your husband not home?

He was picking up his wife who had come over to pray with us.

parentsfortruth · « **Reply #64 on:** June 04, 2014, 12:59:53 PM »

Perhaps the best thing to do is to just be up front to him. Give him a call on the phone, and say, "Hello Mr. ____, do you have a moment to chat?" And then after exchanging pleasantries, just say, "It was so nice to have your wife come and visit the other day. There was something I wanted to bring up, though. My son is not comfortable with exchanging hugs with people he doesn't know. I don't mean to hurt your feelings, or anything. It's just the way he is." Or something to that effect.

It's so sad that everyone has to walk on eggshells when sometimes, just coming out and saying it is so easy, after you look back on it, you wonder what you were even worried about in the first place.

Just my two cents anyway.

Take with a grain of salt.

stbrighidswell · « **Reply #65 on:** June 04, 2014, 02:50:45 PM »

I am going to throw a wobbler here but

'elderly man sought out and hugged my son against his will THREE TIMES. In less than 2 hours'

HE IS A PERVERT....there is something very odd about his behaviour.

Nadir · « **Reply #66 on:** June 04, 2014, 04:43:54 PM »

Ah! but she also said, "The issue was resolved for my family".

It seemed to me that this man was hugging her boys at the church, and she eventually corrected that impression. What she is talking about is men hugging men, in general. And this affectionate (or is it perverted?) gentleman is just one example among many.

Nobody here agrees with strangers hugging each other. The title of this thread is "How to Discourage Men from Hugging Each Other". Personally I find that very strange. If any man has a problem I believe he will pretty soon sort it out. :boxer:

Parents suggestion is a good one.

Anyway I'm glad that's sorted. Phew!

soulguard · « **Reply #67 on:** June 04, 2014, 09:49:03 PM »

Quote from: Zeitun

This horrible metrosɛҳuąƖ and effeminate act of men hugging other men upon every meeting and hugging strangers has infected tradition. We have a elderly man who is very nice but he gives hugs to my teenage sons and it's totally gαy (the man is not gαy). I told them to not stand so close to the man when they see him and to offer their hand instead to see if we can curb this gross behavior. It's extremely embarrassing to my sons and it's unmanly to say the least.

Anyone else suffering with this?

I agree with Zeitun. Unless it is a special occasion, shake hands instead, if you really have to. PLEASE.
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