Author Topic: How To Deal With Jealous Women (Read 4434 times)

Marcelino · « **on:** March 17, 2012, 12:00:17 AM »

Men and women have been thrown together in just about every activity known to man. So, they've both had to adjust to it, but from a male perspective, the most challenging thing is dealing with the jealous woman. By jealous I mean the girl who starts hating you, because you are better than she is at whatever you are doing together. How do you cope with this?

Alex · « **Reply #1 on:** March 17, 2012, 01:14:43 AM »

Leave her.

Busillis · « **Reply #2 on:** March 17, 2012, 06:08:45 AM »

Great image!

Maizar · « **Reply #3 on:** March 17, 2012, 06:55:56 AM »

It's just pride. I assume the theoretical woman is not one's spouse (in which case you are stuck, my friend!).

I don't mean to belittle women in saying this, but a woman who is truly in that frame of mind (meaning if she has hatred) will not submit to reason until she is humiliated. I use the word 'humiliated' because she cannot be humbled, as this requires some kind of insight, and if it existed she would not be jealous for long.

Men are naturally attuned to finding respect for those who are more capable than themselves, as this is necessary for survival. Many women lack this because they don't need it as much, and so in this situation they are doomed to a destructive end to the relationship. This can be averted but it's not easy.

A psychological trick, which is quite a good one to use, is to react in the opposite way that you would normally. For example, if you were a person who sought a woman's respect, then stop looking for it. Say it how it is - the simple truth (eg: "if you react like this every time I do a better job than you, then we are wasting our time!") - and walk away. If she cares enough she will accept, be humbled, and follow you (preferably through the doors of a Church, where you can both pray. If not, she will feel her wounded pride and storm off in her pride and anger, and you will have saved yourself a lifetime of avoidable suffering.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #4 on:** March 17, 2012, 07:00:34 AM »

The most important thing is guard your heart, and not confide in them unless they have truly proven their trustworthiness. Avoid, petty, vindictive, manipulative women. Yeah, not an easy task.

Graham · « **Reply #5 on:** March 17, 2012, 10:07:00 AM »

Maybe if you appreciate and remark on what strengths she does have pertaining to whatever you're doing together, she will concentrate on doing those things and the two of you will work better as a team.

At my job I was tasked with editing a certain female coworker's docuмent. This docuмent was intended for a highly critical client and I knew it would never pass muster if I wasn't brutal to it. So I gave it back to her far more red than black, and she openly resented me for a good while after that, although I was simply acting in her and the company's best interests.

Not a good situation, because she's close with the boss's wife.

Now, my writing is typically concentrated and blunt, other times too lofty in vocabulary for the business world, while hers is more 'socially aware', so to speak - I mean that she is better able to anticipate the feelings a given reader might have. So to defuse the situation I simply entrusted her with one my own docuмents which needed her kind of eye. I didn't make a big deal about it, just mentioned off-hand that she's "pretty good with that sort of thing". Anyway, to cut the story short, it helped defuse the situation and now we have an informal thing going on where we edit eachother's stuff.

All in all, the story goes to show why I'd rather not work with women. Most men know, but won't say, that an all male work environment is usually much pleasanter; I've even met working women who knew it and preferred to work with men.

Busillis · « **Reply #6 on:** March 17, 2012, 10:58:53 AM »

I worked once at a store with a male boss, and an all-female staff -- except for me. It wasn't pleasant. The gossip and backbiting that went on in that environment was totally alien to my experience, and gave me an intimation of what the world would be like if women ran things.

The boss was a feminist man. I think he hired me so that no one would accuse him of discriminating against male applicants -- he would always shift me to hours when he wasn't around. I think he liked to surround himself with feminist bimbos.

Long story short, I got fired. It seems one of his pets didn't feel I was being sufficiently respectful to her, and he fired me for "not taking the job seriously."

I was actually relieved.

Marcelino · « **Reply #7 on:** March 17, 2012, 01:26:10 PM »

Quote from: Busillis

I worked once at a store with a male boss, and an all-female staff -- except for me. It wasn't pleasant. The gossip and backbiting that went on in that environment was totally alien to my experience, and gave me an intimation of what the world would be like if women ran things.

The boss was a feminist man. I think he hired me so that no one would accuse him of discriminating against male applicants -- he would always shift me to hours when he wasn't around. I think he liked to surround himself with feminist bimbos.

Long story short, I got fired. It seems one of his pets didn't feel I was being sufficiently respectful to her, and he fired me for "not taking the job seriously."

I was actually relieved.

I could see how you could walk into a place and have that kind of experience, especially now that the workforce is getting older (crabbier) and more multicultural (alienating), than it used to be. Anyway, everybody just screams "banzi!" and hits rush hour traffic like a real life kamikazi.

Seriously though, most women I do things with are fine. Yeah, it's a different standard and that can be a drag, but they're nice and it isn't their fault they are there and usually, I'm only there for the "goodies" anyway. But, it's those few who cause all the trouble. Still though, most people/everyone has a bad side. And yeah, everybody gets jealous too. It's just that girl's are enabled. So, it's kind of hard to just give it right back to them, when they dish out abuse. Still...

Don't give up on what you're doing, because you got treated bad. Somebody else may be a lot nicer to you.

Sigismund · « **Reply #8 on:** March 17, 2012, 01:54:59 PM »

Quote from: Marcelino

Men and women have been thrown together in just about every activity known to man. So, they've both had to adjust to it, but from a male perspective, the most challenging thing is dealing with the jealous woman. By jealous I mean the girl who starts hating you, because you are better than she is at whatever you are doing together. How do you cope with this?

Well, not being an arrogant twit in the first place would probably help.

Marcelino · « **Reply #9 on:** March 17, 2012, 02:09:29 PM »

Quote from: Sigismund

Quote from: Marcelino
Men and women have been thrown together in just about every activity known to man. So, they've both had to adjust to it, but from a male perspective, the most challenging thing is dealing with the jealous woman. By jealous I mean the girl who starts hating you, because you are better than she is at whatever you are doing together. How do you cope with this?

Well, if I wasn't such an arrogant twit in the first place I would probably help.

You shouldn't be so hard on yourself.

Sigismund · « **Reply #10 on:** April 01, 2012, 10:03:21 PM »

Rabbit heat, huh? I am not sure whether I should be offended or not. :smile:

Marcelino · « **Reply #11 on:** April 01, 2012, 10:41:35 PM »

Quote from: Sigismund

Rabbit heat, huh? I am not sure whether I should be offended or not. :smile:

yuk!

SouthernBelle · « **Reply #12 on:** April 02, 2012, 10:51:03 AM »

Quote from: Graham

Maybe if you appreciate and remark on what strengths she does have pertaining to whatever you're doing together, she will concentrate on doing those things and the two of you will work better as a team.

At my job I was tasked with editing a certain female coworker's docuмent. This docuмent was intended for a highly critical client and I knew it would never pass muster if I wasn't brutal to it. So I gave it back to her far more red than black, and she openly resented me for a good while after that, although I was simply acting in her and the company's best interests.

Not a good situation, because she's close with the boss's wife.

Now, my writing is typically concentrated and blunt, other times too lofty in vocabulary for the business world, while hers is more 'socially aware', so to speak - I mean that she is better able to anticipate the feelings a given reader might have. So to defuse the situation I simply entrusted her with one my own docuмents which needed her kind of eye. I didn't make a big deal about it, just mentioned off-hand that she's "pretty good with that sort of thing". Anyway, to cut the story short, it helped defuse the situation and now we have an informal thing going on where we edit eachother's stuff.

All in all, the story goes to show why I'd rather not work with women. Most men know, but won't say, that an all male work environment is usually much pleasanter; I've even met working women who knew it and preferred to work with men.

Excellent advice. Many situations can be made more pleasant simply by focusing on the good qualities or strengths of the other person.

Capt McQuigg · « **Reply #13 on:** April 14, 2012, 06:49:36 PM »

Marry the right girl. It will save you a lot of heartbreak and will actually bring gladness and joy into your life.

:whistleblower:

Too too many men marry a shrew and think with a little tender loving care she'll become the lovely lady that he thinks is hiding in there somewhere...

Capt McQuigg · « **Reply #14 on:** April 14, 2012, 06:51:11 PM »

Quote from: Sigismund

Quote from: Marcelino
Men and women have been thrown together in just about every activity known to man. So, they've both had to adjust to it, but from a male perspective, the most challenging thing is dealing with the jealous woman. By jealous I mean the girl who starts hating you, because you are better than she is at whatever you are doing together. How do you cope with this?

Well, not being an arrogant twit in the first place would probably help.

:jumping2:

I mean if a girl can't accept the fact that you are just naturally better than her in every little imaginable thing... ...and this bothers her...

:detective:

What's a humble guy to do?