How should a husband lead and how should a wife obey?

I think that question has varied answers as it depends on many circuмstances. It cannot really be generalized on whatever way. Yes there are helpful tips from books, priests, and writings from saints, but I still believe that the best and right answer can only be found from inside of you and your future wife.  

How should a husband lead and how should a wife obey?

A husband should lead like Jesus and the wife should obey as Mary obeyed is the short answer, the long answer can and does fill up several books.

I mean that the Golden Rule covers all contingencies and doesn't require bogging down in minute rules and having to look up the rule per situation, etc.  Unless these priests and theologians are teaching infallibly, it does not necessarily equate that following them is following God.  

But I gave that to Keph in case it would be of some use to him, not to start an argument.

The golden rule is to vague, if it was that simple the Bible would be a much smaller as would this forum.

The golden rule is to vague, if it was that simple the Bible would be a much smaller as would this forum.

If you think the it's too vague, why don't you enlighten us?

Personally, I think a man who is a micromanager and makes silly demands (like being asked permission for a haircut) is not very masculine.  And women who can't make day to day decisions, which keep the household going, without asking their husbands a million questions, are acting like children.

If the husband and wife are both focusing on doing their daily tasks to the best of their ability, there will be very little commanding and obeying.  I don't need to be told to take care of the kids, pay the bills on time, etc-- I know these are my responsibilities and I don't shirk them.

The Duel
(The Gingham Dog and the Calico Cat
  by Eugene Field
The gingham dog and the calico cat  
Side by side on the table sat;
'Twas half-past twelve, and (what do you think!)
Nor one nor t'other had slept a wink!
  The old Dutch clock and the Chinese plate
  Appeared to know as sure as fate
There was going to be a terrible spat.
  (I wasn't there; I simply state
  What was told to me by the Chinese plate!)

The gingham dog went " Bow-wow-wow!"
And the calico cat replied "Me-ow!"
The air was littered,an hour or so,
With bits of gingham and calico,
  While the old Dutch clock in the chimney place
  Up with it hands before its face,
For it always dreaded a family row!
  (Now mind: I'm only telling you
  What the old Dutch clock declares is true!)

The Chinese plate looked very blue,
And wailed,"Oh dear! What shall we do!"
But the gingham dog and the calico cat
Wallowed this way and tumbled that,
  Employing every tooth and claw
  In the awfullest way you ever saw-
And oh! how the gingham and calico flew!
  (Don't fancy I exaggerate!
  I got my news from the Chinese plate!)

Next morning where the two had sat
They found no trace of dog or cat;
And some folks think unto this day
That burglars stole the pair away!
  But the truth about the cat and pup
  Is this: they ate each other up!
Now what do you really think of that!
  (The old Dutch clock, it told me so,
  And that is how I came to know.)

Quote from: Nomas

 :roll-laugh1:  what world are you living in

The world of the happily married, I guess.

Why?  Are you a micromanager?  Do you expect to be asked about every single minute detail of daily life?

Careful now don't let your brains go to your head.

Your post was pure vanity, basicly everyone should be perfect like you and no one better try and tell you what to do, I've got news for you, your not that great.