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Offline MaterDominici

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Homeschooling through the toughest years
« on: November 28, 2024, 01:34:02 AM »
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  • I wrote a reply to a Facebook post and thought I'd share it here as well.


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    I am struggling with continuing to homeschool or putting my children in public school. I fear they aren’t getting enough from me. I’m not disciplined enough. I have 7 children (ages 9-newborn) I’m 2 months postpartum and we just moved for the second time in a year. So much is demandned of me every day that by the time I’m ready to sit down and do school something else needs tending to. I’m burnt out and spinning my wheels. We did very little in the 23’-24’ school year.
    Their grades are k, 1st, 2nd and 3rd.
    Our current county has a really great school district but obviously it’s public school and still secular.
    How do I combat the guilt I feel daily by not doing enough? I’m tired. My husband works 60-65 hours a week. I can’t get in a good routine and feel like I’m failing.


    Lots of good advice here. I just want to encourage you not to give up on homeschooling due to a busy "season". I say season, but I know it'll seem like a very long season. Trust me that it's not. I was about where you are in Jan 2015. The previous year had been very hit and miss and I thought some better record-keeping might get us on a better footing. My oldest was about to turn 9 and my 6th was four months old. As it turns out, the record-keeping idea didn't magically make work disappear or time become unlimited, but it did live to tell its story. That story is that in 2015 we only did six weeks of school, yes 6! Life happened and school did not. The following few years were better, but not outstanding. What turned the corner for me was that my kids got older. There's no denying that it will happen for yours too! 😄 Older kids become independent learners as long as you don't give up in trying to facilitate learning. My oldest is now in college and I'm still struggling to get schoolwork done each day with my youngest kids. But, I don't stress now because I see how things progress and know where to focus my time. For my current Kinder kiddo, I make sure 3 things happen consistently -- him reading to me (5 min), someone reading to him (15 min usually with an older sibling), and handwriting. On good days we do a little math as well. My last suggestion for you is that you pair off your kids as much as possible. Where this might or might not work for you could take a little trial and error, but teaching 2 spelling or math lessons is easier than teaching 4. Take a well-deserved holiday break and when January comes around start back with a family read-aloud. Read-alouds are like the super foods of early childhood education.

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    Offline Matthew

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    Re: Homeschooling through the toughest years
    « Reply #1 on: November 28, 2024, 07:33:47 AM »
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  • I would have added --

    Our son is in college. Yeah, he's in college all right. He started college with 1 1/2 years worth of credits. And he's behind in *nothing*. Do all high schoolers make it through Calculus in the Math department? I don't think so.

    Also, he has excellent grades. And want to talk about SAT score? Unfortunately, most scholarships don't care much about grades or GPA. They care more about gender, skin color, and other identity politics. But if they did care about grades, he would have nothing to worry about. He did manage to snag a few scholarships, even as a white male. That's quite an accomplishment.

    Same for the older kids. None of them are majorly behind in any subject. They all read and write way above their peers, much less their grade level.

    My point: any fallout from those "behind" years has *completely* decayed, like it was never even there. NO residual educational damage at all. None. Recovery from those busy years is currently at 100%.
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    Re: Homeschooling through the toughest years
    « Reply #2 on: November 28, 2024, 07:54:02 AM »
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  • Homeschooling is way more than academic subjects.  The top priority is education in virtue.  This is the foundation for the later academics.  Children could even learn to read at 10 years or older and still catch up to children in conventional school.  One of the main, if not the top, goals of secular school is getting children out of the way so their parents can do other things.  It is not designed especially well for creating virtuous or clear thinking human beings.  I got through the hard years by knowing that, no matter how much I struggled, I was doing better than the competition (secular school).

    My point: any fallout from those "behind" years has *completely* decayed, like it was never even there. NO residual educational damage at all. None. Recovery from those busy years is currently at 100%.

    I've been involved with homeschooling for decades (first as a mother then a grandmother).  What Matthew is talking about here is normal for homeschooling, not just his family.

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    Re: Homeschooling through the toughest years
    « Reply #3 on: November 28, 2024, 08:23:16 AM »
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  • And yes -- their purity, virtue, ability to think, escape from communist brainwashing, is PRICELESS.

    So let's summarize:

    No educational downside
    Kids are above their peers, and in many cases above their "peers" if they were hypothetically transported to the 1990s...
    Better religious and philosophical foundation
    Better chance at virtue

    Homeschooling is a NO BRAINER.
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    Re: Homeschooling through the toughest years
    « Reply #4 on: November 28, 2024, 12:31:04 PM »
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  • Dr. David Allen White spoke to homeschoolers in the 90's.  He said, It is better for your children to be at home playing cards than public school.  They are learning.  This is so true!  No matter what you may think, you ARE the number #1 teacher, at least in AZ.  We homeschooled 3, with SETON Program. If the children can read, they can do their work even if parents need to work.

    When my husband worked at the hospital, he knew of a husband and wife who worked there and they homeschooled 5.  When dad came home at 10 pm. he had an hour with one of the oldest, then off to bed.  Homeschool is year round.  

    Once your children are in public school, they are OWNED, yes! by the state.  Our children are now ages 38, 42, and 48.  All did very well in the world when they took their GED and went on.  2 in medical and our son is a long hauler with truck.  He is training as well.

    You pray to hang in there!  neighbors or family may put in their 2 cents that public is better, don't listen to them.  Our neighbors said to us, "What about their social?"  Well, you give your children directions and when they go out into the world, they are going to know how good they had it!!God Bless


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    Re: Homeschooling through the toughest years
    « Reply #5 on: November 28, 2024, 02:36:49 PM »
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  • Dr. David Allen White spoke to homeschoolers in the 90's.  He said, It is better for your children to be at home playing cards than public school.  
    I heard him say this at a Catholic homeschooling conference back when I was starting out.  It was such a blessing to hold onto this comment when I was tempted by that feeling of "I'm not doing enough".  I'm really glad you posted this. 

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    Re: Homeschooling through the toughest years
    « Reply #6 on: November 28, 2024, 09:50:06 PM »
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  • The top priority [in homeschooling] is education in virtue.
    Yes, self-discipline, accountability, intellectual humility, etc.
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    Re: Homeschooling through the toughest years
    « Reply #7 on: November 28, 2024, 10:14:29 PM »
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  • I'm glad to see pro-homeschooling sentiment here.
    Sad to say, but even the FSSP is more pro-homeschooling than the neo-SSPX, which is at best tolerant of it, it seems.
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