Solely being a Catholic woman doesn't give you title to a good, Catholic man for a husband. Since a good, holy, Catholic woman is extremely rare in our society, don't think you can be lukewarm, at best, in your spirituality, and you can neglect your health and appearance, and your personality & cognitive domain can, variably, be a byproduct of this modern world, and all of this suffices in attaining a good, Catholic man, because his selection is extremely sparse. Shed yourself from your sense of entitlement. Shed yourself from your feminism and modernism. Shed yourself from your premeditation, conniving, selfishness, harlotry, and manipulative ways. Shed yourself of your physical lethargy and lack of concern for your health. Shed yourself from your narcissism. Shed yourself from your contentiousness.
You must be virtuous and chaste. Adhere to the natural order of man and woman. You must have modesty, while having reasonable concern for your health and appearance. An inner beauty still emanates through the most physically vapid woman, thus, evoking an attraction from Godly men, if the woman isn't a neglectful, physical blob or a freak with cartoonish physical traits resulting from her own modern lifestyle & wretched personality that make her appear she should be standing out in the middle of a cornfield to scare the crows away.
Love, serve & seek to please Jesus Christ and Blessed Mary above all. Don't rationalize your behavior or endeavors that are worldly.