There's a difference between accountability and blame. Men take accountability for the organizations that they head up. This is true even in non-Catholic secular society.
If I am the bishop of a diocese, and there's a huge pedophile scandal that breaks out in my diocese. As bishop, I resign because I am accountable for what happens in my diocese. Only God will determine my actual blame and degree of guilt. He knows whether or not I could have done more to prevent it, been more vigilant about it, etc. ... or whether it may have been completely out of my control and not even St. Pius X could have stopped it. Not even YOU know your own degree of guilt and responsibility, and so in the external forum you assume responsibility for your organization and take accountability for it.
But, despite how you act sometimes, you're not God. So in your analogy you liken yourself to God, eh? That's incredibly revealing.
In any case, in civil society and in the EXTERNAL forum, leaders have accountability for their organization, and in this case fathers for the state of their family. In the internal forum, God alone will ultimately determine my blame. So as much as YOU would love to exonerate yourself and put yourself on the level of God vis-a-vis the fallen angels, that's an epic fail. Nor is it true that the woman can be likened to the devil. In very few, if any, cases does the fault lie ENTIRELY on one side. In the vast majority of cases, the husband has some fault in how everything transpired. God will ultimately be the judge the extent of it. But, in the meantime, on this earth, a true leader takes RESPONSIBILITY and ACCOUNTABILITY for the failure of his organization. If I'm President of the United States, and my Secretary of State and several of my cabinet members turn out to be traitors and criminals, do I get to wash my hands of this by whining and pointing the finger at them? No. I accept responsibility because at the very least I PICKED THESE MEN in the first place. Similarly, the husband is responsible and accountable because, at the very least, he chose the woman to marry.
So you act like the effeminate little "soy boy" that you ACTUALLY are by trying to point the finger at the "wicked" wife ... instead of assuming responsibility for the state of your family like a real man would. You know, Croix, in my experience, the more a many openly thumps his chest and tries to assert his masculinity and his "machismo", ironically, those are some of the least manly men that I've ever met. True men lead in action and in truth and have need to bluster. Usually the machismo blustering reveals a man who is actually insecure about his own masculinity.