Unless your a traditonal knowledgable practising catholic the views on lifelong committment in marriage are different from todays Catholic. With annulments ranging from 300 world wide in the 50's to 70 000 just in North America in the 1980's its no wonder that Catholics themselves have a harder time finding True Catholic Partners.
The council of trent catechism gives explicit teaching on marriage and its teaching is unfortunatley far removed from our Christain and current Catholic understanding.
Myself I was fortunatle to marry a practising Catholic who knew that the vows were death till you part regardless of circuмstances or feelings.
Now that I have 6 of my own children I hope to come across real catholics so my kids dont have to fine comb the population which is out there.
What a burden for a parent to worry that her kids marry partners who allow themselves the freedom of divorce and remarriage. Who dont simply keep 2000yr old catholic teaching and stick to it but become inventors of the faith like we live in now, which usually serves themselves and not the will of God.
I fought like crazy with my hubby the first few years. I was young, immature and he nor I had been married before. The understanding of the covenant we entered into overode our feelings and we eventually worked it out. Through prayer, and guidence etc.
I truly believed the blessings and fruits which we enjoy today is due to the commitment we had to God and to the sacrament of marriage which my children Im sure are thankful for.
My thoughts, Annie