Author Topic: Have Relationships Become Disposable? (Read 3242 times)

Jessa · « **Reply #15 on:** October 24, 2011, 01:27:18 AM »

Quote from: Waskiewicz

Have Relationships Become Disposable?

Obviously the answer is yes, they're the same as all other goods in society today. For an ethics paper, I'm on the hunt for opinions of Catholics as to why it is necessary that marriage be a lifelong commitment. What do you find are the main social benefits? Spiritual benefits? Do the benefits matter or is it based solely on something more?

In addition to your own opinions which I'd love to hear, I also was curious if any of the married-folk (or others) might know any good writings of the saints or other sound Catholic authors I could peruse.

Thank you in advance. I look forward to reading what you have to say!

If you are not marrying the person for a lifelong commitment, you shouldn't be getting married, don't marry outside your faith, the person you marry should know your views/goals/opinions etc and you know theirs. I'm not aware of any "social benefits" Spiritual, it's what God wants for you, a sacramental marriage and I'm sure their are many spiritual benefits that some married people can tell you. I think with the right person and in a sacramental marriage, that you can be married to the same person- my grandparents were married like 60 some years! I assure you, it can be done and even though society makes marriage look like a game, it's not. THey think " you can just go get divorced if it doesn't go the way you want it" America has the highest divorce rate......for a reason.

Telesphorus · « **Reply #16 on:** October 27, 2011, 08:00:42 PM »

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I'm not aware of any "social benefits"

You're not? That sounds like you have a pretty low view of marriage, since human society is organized around the family - it's obviously essential to human society, so there must be social benefits.

Darcy · « **Reply #17 on:** October 27, 2011, 08:28:30 PM »

Committment and monogamy should be as natural as brushing one's teeth. It shouldn't even conjure up much thought or its utility belabored. It should be taken for granted.
But our consumer driven society and materialistic life-styles and 1000 friend facebook virtual realities have destroyed this bliss.

copticruiser · « **Reply #18 on:** October 30, 2011, 04:06:29 PM »

Unless your a traditonal knowledgable practising catholic the views on lifelong committment in marriage are different from todays Catholic. With annulments ranging from 300 world wide in the 50's to 70 000 just in North America in the 1980's its no wonder that Catholics themselves have a harder time finding True Catholic Partners.

The council of trent catechism gives explicit teaching on marriage and its teaching is unfortunatley far removed from our Christain and current Catholic understanding.

Myself I was fortunatle to marry a practising Catholic who knew that the vows were death till you part regardless of circuмstances or feelings.

Now that I have 6 of my own children I hope to come across real catholics so my kids dont have to fine comb the population which is out there.

What a burden for a parent to worry that her kids marry partners who allow themselves the freedom of divorce and remarriage. Who dont simply keep 2000yr old catholic teaching and stick to it but become inventors of the faith like we live in now, which usually serves themselves and not the will of God.

I fought like crazy with my hubby the first few years. I was young, immature and he nor I had been married before. The understanding of the covenant we entered into overode our feelings and we eventually worked it out. Through prayer, and guidence etc.

I truly believed the blessings and fruits which we enjoy today is due to the commitment we had to God and to the sacrament of marriage which my children Im sure are thankful for.

My thoughts, Annie