Sounds like Dad is hung up on this Harry Potter thing. I'm no priest, but I'm not sure Harry Potter books, in and of themselves are *mortal* sin. Sinful yes, but I don't know that he should be so singleminded about this.
He should encourage her to go to Confession *period*. Forget about her sins and the nature of them,that's between her and God and her confessor. He should just nudge/encourage confession, regardless of the Harry Potter thing and let an experienced confessor work out whereher mind is, how to devleopthe relationship as Confessor-- they know more about not alienating people than Dad.
Point is, drop the Harry Potter thing and just focus on getting her to Confession. There's plenty for her to talk about at Confession if she fell away from the Faith, let a priest figure it out.
Confession,yes, good idea. Confession *of what* is none of Dad's business.
Very perceptive, Iuvenalis. Thank you. You're right about dad being "hung up" on
Potter. I think he knows that, too, but it's a challenge. He said the one priest
whom his daughter is considering for a confessor gave a sermon that she did
not hear, denouncing Potter books, saying that it basically comes down to this:
"I put an object over here, like a box on the floor, and there it is. Now I can move
it, or, I can ask angels to move it. There are two kinds of angels. The good
angels usually don't move things when we ask them to. But the bad angels are
known to be more cooperative, so long as your soul is in the bargain. So a
devil can pick that box up and move it over there. Is that kind of thinking
something you want your children playing around with, even if it's "only a story?"
So dad is a bit gun-shy with just turning her over to him without giving him a
"heads-up" on the Potter issue, since girl is so hyper-sensitive about it. But the
sensitivity is a minefield, for you never know what's going to be upsetting.
True on confession, and letting Potter drop if she is willing to, if not, then something going on, hopefully will ween off. Prior to confession, might be good for her to meet a priest, maybe a 1-1 or dad and her w/priest....sometimes the cold confesisonal for some of us are fine, those more matured in faith, but wonder about the meeting/dinner thing and if not a good prudent step.....the confessional is a must, tis true and needed ASAP, but I do wonder if not a intimidating thing for her at this stage or not.
You are a convert, she is not but largely in same situation to you when you first came into church, any thoughts? Were you more comfortable in meeting the priest and then confessing, less intimidating? Not trying to get touchy-feely on this, but would hate for her to get turned off this soon into return...
You guys are great.
This is a lot to take in. I'll have to come back after I see him again, which may not
be for a few days. See what he thinks. Then it might take him a while to think on
it too, and a few more days to get back to me, so this could take a while.
As I recall, the daughter brought up Potter voluntarily, and dad thinks that she
trusts him, but doesn't agree with him, something like that. This Potter thing
could be her new way of looking for independence.
If only we could just trust in the grace of the sacrament. It's not a counseling
session (although that's exactly what the Novus Ordo "reconciliation" thing has
become!).
One more thing. Dad has another daughter who confided in him that she had
just had a unique experience. They were in a second hand shop. This was one
day, many years ago. She had been walking by the games section, and there
was a Ouiji board on display with the pointer thingy on top, like it's ready to
use. She paused to look at it, and the pointer started to move. Nobody was
touching it, and there were no strings or setup, or magnets or anything. This is
not a techy display, it's a cheap GoodWill or Salvation Army or whatever. As
she watched, the pointer spelled out the words, "I - w-a-n-t - y-o-u - t-o - ..."
and the girl walked away. Dad told her, he was very pleased that she had
explained this to him, and that she had done the right thing by walking away.
Ouiji boards are not an innocent toy.