I was born and raised in ny and nj and it is so true what you say. My family is of dominican and Puerto Rican decent but when they came here and assimilated all of what you speak was slowly driven out of our family. I strongly believe in having our daughters at home until they either marry with papa's consent or become a religious. Also boys must work and either learn a trade or start a business or take over family business. We here do not encourage college...mostly it is just a worldly indoctrination camp...that you pay for!
That was a traditional catholic family view.
Not allowing your 17yo daughters who go to another city to live as independent man.
Fathers who allow this would have to answer to God ....