Author Topic: Happy Hour at Home (Read 4815 times)

St Ignatius · « **Reply #10 on:** June 20, 2016, 05:50:40 PM »

Hmmm... when "this dead beat husband" comes home after 10-14 hrs working in 100 degree plus temperatures, my wife brings me my beers! :cheers:

Nick · « **Reply #11 on:** June 20, 2016, 06:54:54 PM »

http://beta.diylol.com/posts/363090-i-dont-always-tell-my-girls-what-to-do-but-when-i-do-its-to-make-me-a-sandwich

:tv-disturbed:

jen51 · « **Reply #12 on:** June 20, 2016, 08:05:23 PM »

OP, I understand what you are saying. And I doubt that you are saying that a hard working man doesn't deserve a few beers. There certainly are some cases where it would be completely wrong for the husband to come home, plop down on the couch and drink beer all evening. It sounds like it could be the case in the example you are talking about.

My husband works about 16 hours a day, hard manual work. Thank goodness he fits it all in Monday through Friday and has a break on the weekend. He has the heart of a servant if there ever was one. The minute he walks through the door he gives me a kiss, asks how my day has been and reaches for his little girl. Instead of thinking of his much deserved break, he immediately sets in to the mindset of "how can I help." He works incredibly hard all day but would bend over backwards to relieve me of the smallest burden that I may have. To top it all off he tells me every day that he is the luckiest man in the world. We are hard up for money, but he makes ends meet every month. He doesn't lament it, he actually thanks God for it. He prays to St. Joseph every day, and he always reminds us that we must always remember that our home is "Our own little Nazareth". In return he has a wife that utterly adores him, who keeps his favorite beer in the fridge and deals it out eagerly, and meets him as he comes in with an ice cold water, tells him to sit down, and waits on him hand and foot and prods him with jokes and smiles until he's able to cast off his cares. When both give each other 100% there is happiness and contentedness even amidst the many trials of married life. Both have to be very serious about their duties, and willing to serve the other.
I'll say a prayer for the family you are referring to, that things would get balanced out and things would go better for them!

Last Tradhican · « **Reply #13 on:** June 21, 2016, 09:56:58 AM »

Thanks Jen51, that was spot on.

I doubt that a man who does hard physical labor can come home and have 2 or 3 drinks for very long without dying young. Physical work cleans the body up, it removes stress, excessive drinking and physical work in the heat, do not work together, something has got to give, and usually the man stops the excessive drinking.

The examples I am thinking are office workers who do nothing physical during the day, then go home and have 2-3 drinks to "wind down". From my experience, there are two ways to deal with office stress, get physical when you get home (outdoor work or exercise) or have 3 or more drinks, vegetate and go to sleep.

The drinking solution here is deadly. That is the type on father I an talking about.

Last Tradhican · « **Reply #14 on:** June 21, 2016, 10:14:24 AM »

My answers in red

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Please explain to me how a father of three or more children can come home a have a happy hour, 2 or 3 drinks, then plop down on the couch or vegetate on the computer or watch the news, channel surf, and call himself useful around the house. If mothers did the same thing the children would be alone.

I can't even have a beer without feeling like I wasted time I could have spent doing something productive with/for the family.

1. The way your post is written, I assume you are married and your husband is doing this. (Wrong, I am a man, a father of many children)

2. Men and women aren't equal, and their roles aren't equal. If your husband is doing manual labor from 9-5, you can't expect him to jump into a bunch of domestic chores from 5 until he collapses at (an early) bedtime. (Men should not do domestic chores, they should do the man work around the house, fix things: house, cars, tractors, yard/farm work, cut down trees, make additions to the house....)

Your work, your role at home is much lower grade labor. Yes, women work too, I know that. But your work is DIFFERENT. (my wife home schools all our children, I don't consider that lower grade. I could not do it.)

I would consult A) an older, devout, traditional Catholic couple and B) a Traditional priest about the specifics of your situation. (I am an older devout Catholic, and my priest has no common sense. This has nothing to do with Church doctrine.)

P.S. "2 or 3 drinks" doesn't make him evil, unless you're a Muslim, Baptist or other protestant heretic who believes that alcohol is a sin. But you sure make it sound like you're "telling on him" or complaining about something bad he's doing.(The person I described in great detail "having a happy hour, 2 or 3 drinks, then plop down on the couch or vegetate on the computer or watch the news, channel surf", IS useless around the house, indoor and outdoor and everything in between. He is not doing his duty. This is plain wrong. Why do some people feel compelled to think of extremes, "baptists" and muslims" every time someone mentions drinking? I think it is because they have a horse in the race. I have no horse in any race.