Author Topic: Going to a Wedding? (Read 1104 times)

John Grace · « **on:** October 22, 2013, 12:23:36 PM »

I have been invited to a wedding. It will be Indult. Am I extreme if I don't attend?

Cantarella · « **Reply #1 on:** October 22, 2013, 01:48:50 PM »

I would attend the wedding regardless.

Capt McQuigg · « **Reply #2 on:** October 22, 2013, 01:53:05 PM »

Attend but refrain from taking communion.

Frances · « **Reply #3 on:** October 22, 2013, 06:19:19 PM »

Consider those who invited you. What would be best for their souls? Your presence? Or would they not care particularly if you declined? If going is of no benefit to them, then don't. If they'd be insulted, confused, angry, or turn against the Faith, then you should go. If you have doubts regarding validity of the Mass or the priest's ordination, refrain from taking active part in the Mass. Of course, if you know the couple ought not marry, then do not go.

poche · « **Reply #4 on:** October 22, 2013, 11:16:54 PM »

Quote from: John Grace

I have been invited to a wedding. It will be Indult. Am I extreme if I don't attend?

Why would you refuse to attand?

SoldierOfChrist · « **Reply #5 on:** October 22, 2013, 11:28:36 PM »

I went to a 50th anniversary of a nun taking her vows recently. She is novus ordo, and is my wife's aunt. I did not go up for communion. I went out of respect and in order not to scandalize anyone who might be considering following us away from the conciliar church. I've got a lot of people that I'm working on, so I want to keep the lifeline out there. If you are in a similar position, I would say go, but if you have reason to doubt the validity of the Consecration, then by all means, don't approach the sacrament.

parentsfortruth · « **Reply #6 on:** October 22, 2013, 11:58:43 PM »

Quote from: John Grace

I have been invited to a wedding. It will be Indult. Am I extreme if I don't attend?

No, you're not, especially if the priest is going to be handing out communion to every immodest woman that approaches, whether they're Catholic or not, which is routine for the "indult" churches, as I've observed.

Pax Vobis · « **Reply #7 on:** October 23, 2013, 05:33:24 PM »

I don't think you're being extreme to not go. A lot depends upon the situation (i.e. who is getting married, what type of church it is, how looney the priest is, etc).

Logically, if one believes that the novus ordo is wrong and/or a sacrilege and/or promotes "abuses" (i.e. promotes an atmosphere of sacrilege) then it is not extreme to say that going to an "indult" "mass" is indirectly condoning the novus ordo, and by extension, its related sacrileges. For the "indult" priest and laity, by definition, say that they agree with the novus ordo, they just PREFER the latin.

Now, there is a lot of gray area in all this, as others pointed out in earlier posts, related to family situations, conflict, etc. But putting all this aside, if you go to an indult, you are affirming its significance, to some degree.

May God have mercy on all of us as we wade through these crazy theological times!

Dolores · « **Reply #8 on:** October 23, 2013, 09:06:23 PM »

Even if you were to consider the NO church to be full blown Protestants, traditionally, the Church permitted Catholics to attend the weddings and funerals of Protestant family members and acquaintances. Catholics were limited is mere passive attendance, however. No active participation in the ceremony.

John Grace · « **Reply #9 on:** October 24, 2013, 12:23:19 PM »

I certainly won't participate and wouldn't go to holy communion. Novus Ordo folk are often more honest than Indult folk. The vast bulk of those that attend the Novus Ordo are ignorant of the crisis in the Church. Indult people are aware.

An irony in it is the woman, who will marry was a 'future wife' for me. It was never going to happen. An 'obstacle' was/is Bishop Williamson.

I will probably go to the wedding.