The girls is 23 years old, my granddaughter who was raised traditional Catholic, however her mother was not a very good example to her. Not that this is an excuse, but the age we live in with sin all around us, it is very difficult for young adults to grow up without making mistakes.
My first reaction was that of Raoul and TKGS's, but thinking about it, I want this young girl to be a good example to her children, I want her to come back to the church, the faith she has drifted away from. So then I thought, I should take a softer approach or I will push her away.
Thinking about the different notes here, I think people tend to say what they will depending on their relationship with the person. If it is just someone in the office, or neighbor it is easy to take the harder approach, but when it is someone close to the family, someone you love, then maybe a softer approach would be chosen. What will the end result be from my actions and words, I asked myself.
I told her, that I hope everything turns out positive for her, but I was not happy about the circuмstances, I told her that. BTW the circuмstances are exactly the way she was conceived. My son married her mother when this girl was 2 years old, my son is not her biological father but the only father she has ever known. What happened to this child the first 2 years of her life, I do not know, but I do know it was difficult for her and fear she never bonded with her mother the way a baby should have.
Right now she seems shameless, ( which really bothers me ) and excited about the fact the she is getting a baby shower. A shower that because of distance I will not attend but I think what I will do is tell her that I will give her a gift after the baby is born. Due on Halloween of all things. She called me today, to brag she was having a girl, she just found out today. She wanted a boy, but it is what it is.
My guess is, if a ask a priest I will receive various answers depending on the priest I talk too, it is a subject that has no clear cut answer.