FYI let me explain something that's happening in Los Angeles, CA
A few years ago, when I encouraged my daughter to wear long skirts to school,
she tried to follow my advice, but she discovered something surprising.
She was misunderstood by everyone, other students and the faculty and
administration. They all presumed she was trying to draw attention to herself.
She said that other students who wear long skirts do so to be "different,"
and by being non-conformist, they become the center of attention.
When she tried to explain that her purpose was to dress modestly,
nobody believed her. They accused her of lying. They said that
her lies are all part of the intention to become noticed and "vain."
It was quite challenging for me to understand this at the time,
for it made no sense to me, so I went to the school and asked some
questions. I was alarmed to find that no one I spoke to seemed
to have any common sense. I felt like I was from a different planet.
When she related this issue to our traditional priests, they did
not give her much help, because they stuck to their message that
Catholic girls should wear long skirts anyway. It was this state of
being all alone in a crowd of thousands of people who passed
judgment on her every day, that gradually made her think that
this is something she can't discuss with her confessor. It seems to
me this set a precedent, which later grew into other areas,
for if one thing is useless to get advice on, then other things are also
useless to bring up. And so it goes...