Hello everyone. This is my first post on this website. Hope I am of help or support to someone. Over 23 years ago when I was first married I decided to deal with the subject of my husbands gay brother. We had all met many times so I knew him and we got along great. But when I started raising babies I decided it was wrong for the brother in law to visit and bring his boy friend. My husband agreed but he could not call him and explain this so I ended up doing it. I told him he was welcome but he could not bring his partner. I explained the moral side to it and how I believed. I did not want my children to grow up and see my tolerance for that life style. He told me I was just like other family who reject him (but that was because the other brother in laws did not see him as manly, had nothing to do with his soul). He also said he would never speak to us again if I went though with this decision, and that is exactly what he did. We never spoke again, nor him to my husband. Too bad but I have no guilt and I can face my kids and stand strong on this issue.
My sister in law did not go to her sisters second wedding after she divorced. her family was really mad at her. My sister in law did not cave. End of story, they forgave and forgot and got along over time.
Stand by your convictions or you will feel really guilty when its over!