Author Topic: Fornicating with Girlfriend, but want to stop (Read 3752 times)

Croix de Fer · « **Reply #15 on:** October 06, 2015, 09:56:16 AM »

Quote from: Ladislaus

Quote from: ascent
You either do or you don't. There is no 'try'."

I like the Yoda quote here.

I never heard of Yoda. I quoted a man with a very different name who said it.

Matthew · « **Reply #16 on:** October 06, 2015, 10:12:03 AM »

Quote from: ascent

I never heard of Yoda. I quoted a man with a very different name who said it.

Greetings!

We earthlings welcome you to our planet.

Yoda is a famous person, known even by those who haven't seen Star Wars.

But there were 3 very popular movies in the late 70's and early 80's called "Star Wars". You should have heard of them.

If you somehow missed, it, 3 prequels were released in the 2000's also called "Star Wars" with various titles.

How did you manage to keep that knowledge out of your brain for so long? You can't go to the grocery store without seeing Yoda. It has nothing to do with owning or not owning a TV. Some pop culture elements are SO pervasive, that everyone learns them. At least learns OF their existence.

I hope you realize, if you talk to anyone, even a group of devout nuns or seminarians, they are all going to think you're quoting Yoda. That's why you shouldn't go through life with blinders on, trying to preserve your ignorance at all costs, and then once you've succeeded, wear it proudly as a badge.

You'll have to forgive me; I'm in love with truth and knowledge; error and ignorance are my mortal enemies.

Ignorance is NOT the same thing as innocence. Our Lady knew all about the Birds and the Bees. She was as innocent as can be, but certainly not ignorant.

See, if you had opened your eyes a bit, you would have known that famous Yoda quote, and then you could make sure to tell people, "as the wise man ____ said, do or do not; there is no try." So people wouldn't assume you were quoting Yoda.

P.S. Whatever "wise man" you claim said it probably ripped off Yoda. What wise man did you have in mind?

MrYeZe · « **Reply #17 on:** October 06, 2015, 10:57:35 AM »

The hardest part isn't really making yourself stop, the hardest part is to stop trying to convince yourself that there's more to it than just deciding not to doing it.

Disputaciones · « **Reply #18 on:** October 06, 2015, 02:49:37 PM »

Quote from: Ladislaus

Quote from: Ladislaus
Quote from: Mitch93
I want to tell her as soon as possible, but am nervous she will take it personally and be hurt.

That should be the least of your concerns. You just tell her you're done because you've come to the realization that it's wrong vis-à-vis your Catholic faith. If she won't accept that, then tell her to have a nice life. If she's amenable, then you can try persuading her that she was along wrong in committing that sin, in an attempt to undo the damage you did by having her cooperate in your own sin.

In fact, tell her how bad you feel about having done damage to her soul. She might even be moved by that. If not, simply ask her not to let the door hit her on the way out.

I don't agree with the bolded part. I would do this as tactfully as possible. It seems hypocritical to all of a sudden act self-righteously when you've been doing it yourself for so long.

Croix de Fer · « **Reply #19 on:** October 07, 2015, 12:33:17 AM »

Quote from: Matthew

Quote from: ascent

I never heard of Yoda. I quoted a man with a very different name who said it.

Greetings!

We earthlings welcome you to our planet.

Yoda is a famous person, known even by those who haven't seen Star Wars.

But there were 3 very popular movies in the late 70's and early 80's called "Star Wars". You should have heard of them.

If you somehow missed, it, 3 prequels were released in the 2000's also called "Star Wars" with various titles.

How did you manage to keep that knowledge out of your brain for so long? You can't go to the grocery store without seeing Yoda. It has nothing to do with owning or not owning a TV. Some pop culture elements are SO pervasive, that everyone learns them. At least learns OF their existence.

I hope you realize, if you talk to anyone, even a group of devout nuns or seminarians, they are all going to think you're quoting Yoda. That's why you shouldn't go through life with blinders on, trying to preserve your ignorance at all costs, and then once you've succeeded, wear it proudly as a badge.

You'll have to forgive me; I'm in love with truth and knowledge; error and ignorance are my mortal enemies.

Ignorance is NOT the same thing as innocence. Our Lady knew all about the Birds and the Bees. She was as innocent as can be, but certainly not ignorant.

See, if you had opened your eyes a bit, you would have known that famous Yoda quote, and then you could make sure to tell people, "as the wise man ____ said, do or do not; there is no try." So people wouldn't assume you were quoting Yoda.

P.S. Whatever "wise man" you claim said it probably ripped off Yoda. What wise man did you have in mind?

I've never seen Star Wars, but I did know about that character "Yoda", yet, I didn't realize that character made that quote. I thought Ladislaus was saying some "famous" person named "Yoda" in real life made the quote.

All I did was quote somebody (a FB friend) with whom I agreed in a Catholic spiritual context, and tried to help the OP apply it to his predicament. If you think about it, that saying and mentality (at least theoretical), aren't uncommon (wise can still be common), and I'm sure it predates Star Wars in various, slightly different wording.