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Feminism and the Nuptial Blessing
« on: June 26, 2018, 02:41:28 PM »
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  • It's interesting to note the tone of the TRUE (i.e. not novus ordo) Nuptial Blessing is strictly anti-feminist and is almost exclusively prayed for and directed towards the wife.  Why does the wife need extra prayers?  Obviously she has a greater duty and opportunity to raise the children, since 'matrimony' means literally 'the office of motherhood".  But, aside from her important job in raising children, most of the blessing concerns prayers so the wife would remain with the faith and bound to her husband, which concern her catholic mind-set, her "feelings" and her outlook on life.  Obviously, the woman needs to guard against the very philosophies which are so present today in society, which is why the Church gives us this very powerful and imporant blessing.  ...Yet, if we point out such things, we are sometimes labeled as anti-woman...even by Trads.  *sigh*


    Novus Ordo Feminist Blessing vs True Blessing

    (only those parts bolded have been changed by new-rome.  All else is "relatively" the same between the prayers.)

    O God, who by your mighty power created all things out of nothing, and, when you had set in place the beginnings of the universe, formed man and woman in your own image, making the woman an inseparable helpmate to the man, that they might be no longer two, but one flesh, and taught that what you were pleased to make one must never be divided; O God, who consecrated the bond of Marriage by so great a mystery that in the wedding covenant you foreshadowed the Sacrament of Christ and his Church; O God, by whom woman is joined to man and the companionship they had in the beginning is endowed with the one blessing not forfeited by original sin nor washed away by the flood.


    Look now with favor on these your servants joined together in Marriage, who ask to be strengthened by your blessing. Send down on them the grace of the Holy Spirit and pour your love into their hearts, that they may remain faithful in the Marriage covenant.

    TRUE BLESSING --  look in Thy mercy upon this Thy handmaid, who is to be joined in wedlock and entreats protection and strength from Thee. May the yoke of love and of peace be upon her.

    Comment - the blessing is for the wife, not the couple.

    May the grace of love and peace abide in your daughter [name],  and let her always follow the example of those holy women whose praises are sung in the Scriptures.

    True and chaste, may she wed in Christ; and may she ever follow the pattern of holy women: and may she be dear to her husband like Rachel; wise like Rebecca; long-lived and faithful like Sara.

    Comment - I'm sure feminists didn't like the mental picture of being "dear to their husbands like Rachel" so they went ahead and deleted all specific references to the holy women of the Old Testament.

    May her husband entrust his heart to her, so that, acknowledging her as his equal and his joint heir to the life of grace, he may show her due honor  and cherish her always with the love that Christ has for his Church.

    Comment - While this is certainly beautiful and sentimental, it is not what the Church wishes to be prayed.  "Entrusting his heart to her" is human emotion and has nothing to do with spirituality, but natural love, which is humanism and has a very small place in a prayer to God.

    "Acknowledging her as his equal" - wow, pure unadulterated feminism here.

    "Joint heir to the life of grace" - not even sure what that means, but the word "joint heir" again, has feministic ideals which supports the error that men and women "share" authority.

    "May show her due honor and cherish her always" - ok, that's fine and it's a good prayer, but again, it's a subversion of the original prayer - the Church's TRUE INTENTION - which prays that the wife may be guarded from error, honor HER husband and stay with the Faith.

    Feminism everywhere in the new church.

    And now, Lord, we implore you: may these your servants hold fast to the faith and keep your commandments; made one in the flesh, may they be blameless in all they do; and with the strength that comes from the Gospel, may they bear true witness to Christ before all;


    TRUE BLESSING -

    May the author of deceit work none of his evil deeds within her.

    May she ever be knit to the faith and to the commandments.

    May she be true to one husband and fly from forbidden approaches. May she fortify her weakness by strong discipline.

    May she be grave in demeanour and honoured for her modesty.  

    May she be well taught in heavenly lore.

    May she be fruitful in offspring.

    May her life be good and sinless.

    May she win the rest of the blessed and the kingdom of Heaven.


    Comment - The Novus Ordo prayer is not for the wife, but for the couple and subverts the Church's true intentions.  It's also pretty generic in its supplications.


    (may they be blessed with children, and prove themselves virtuous parents, who live to see their children’s children.)  And grant that, reaching at last together the fullness of years for which they hope, they may come to the life of the blessed in the Kingdom of Heaven.
     

    TRUE BLESSING -
    May they both see their children’s children unto the third and fourth generation, and may they reach the old age which they desire.

    Comment - I guess new rome didn't like the reference to the "third and fourth" generation since that implies an early marriage and many children, two ideals which the modernists and communists abhor.

    Through Christ our Lord.
    Amen.


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    Re: Feminism and the Nuptial Blessing
    « Reply #1 on: June 26, 2018, 04:06:57 PM »
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  • This is very interesting.  Thanks.

    There is an example of something similar in the 1988 Encyclical Mulieris Dignitatem. The entire document shows feminist influence, but this passage is one of the most striking:

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    The apostolic letters are addressed to people living in an environment marked by that same traditional way of thinking and acting. The "innovation" of Christ is a fact: it constitutes the unambiguous content of the evangelical message and is the result of the Redemption. However, the awareness that in marriage there is mutual "subjection of the spouses out of reverence for Christ", and not just that of the wife to the husband, must gradually establish itself in hearts, consciences, behaviour and customs. This is a call which from that time onwards, does not cease to challenge succeeding generations; it is a call which people have to accept ever anew.
    This is basically saying that the subjection of the wife to her husband is replaced by mutual submission.

    By the way, I agreed with most of your observations on the nuptial blessing, but not this one:

    May her husband entrust his heart to her, so that, acknowledging her as his equal and his joint heir to the life of grace, he may show her due honor  and cherish her always with the love that Christ has for his Church.

    Comment - While this is certainly beautiful and sentimental, it is not what the Church wishes to be prayed.  "Entrusting his heart to her" is human emotion and has nothing to do with spirituality, but natural love, which is humanism and has a very small place in a prayer to God.

    "Acknowledging her as his equal" - wow, pure unadulterated feminism here.

    "Joint heir to the life of grace" - not even sure what that means, but the word "joint heir" again, has feministic ideals which supports the error that men and women "share" authority.
    It looks like "equal and joint heir to the life of grace" is talking about men and women equally receiving grace and salvation.  As far as I know, that has always been what the Church teaches.  I don't think this passage is saying that men and women should be equal in authority.


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    Re: Feminism and the Nuptial Blessing
    « Reply #2 on: June 26, 2018, 04:28:07 PM »
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    However, the awareness that in marriage there is mutual "subjection of the spouses out of reverence for Christ", and not just that of the wife to the husband,
    This is one of the many errors of JPII's "theology of the body" and his anti-matrimony heresies.


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    It looks like "equal and joint heir to the life of grace" is talking about men and women equally receiving grace and salvation.  As far as I know, that has always been what the Church teaches.  I don't think this passage is saying that men and women should be equal in authority.
    1.  This phrase is not part of the Traditional rite, so it is novel, post-V2 drivel and modernistic in philosophy.
    2.  All of the other changes to this blessing had a feminist bent, therefore it is logical to presume this does as well. 
    3.  You can't take this phrase and look at it in isolation because it is part of the complete phrase "acknowledging her as his equal and his joint heir to the life of grace."  It is a continuation of the false idea that men and women are "equal" in the marriage relationship, which is anti-catholic and a heresy.
    4.  If that phrase was a separate idea/sentence and talked about the spiritual blessings that one can receive from God, then it would be ok. 

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    Re: Feminism and the Nuptial Blessing
    « Reply #3 on: June 26, 2018, 04:41:10 PM »
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  • 1.  This phrase is not part of the Traditional rite, so it is novel, post-V2 drivel and modernistic in philosophy.
    2.  All of the other changes to this blessing had a feminist bent, therefore it is logical to presume this does as well.
    3.  You can't take this phrase and look at it in isolation because it is part of the complete phrase "acknowledging her as his equal and his joint heir to the life of grace."  It is a continuation of the false idea that men and women are "equal" in the marriage relationship, which is anti-catholic and a heresy.
    4.  If that phrase was a separate idea/sentence and talked about the spiritual blessings that one can receive from God, then it would be ok.
    The expression "joint heir to the life of grace" comes from Scripture.  It is in 1 Peter 3:7:

    Ye husbands, likewise dwelling with them according to knowledge, giving honour to the female as to the weaker vessel, and as to the co-heirs of the grace of life: that your prayers be not hindered.

    "Joint heirs" is another way to translate "co-heirs" so it is a traditional expression.  It is not opposed to the husband's authority in its original context, but I can see what you are saying about it giving that impression in the context of the prayer.

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    Re: Feminism and the Nuptial Blessing
    « Reply #4 on: June 26, 2018, 04:47:17 PM »
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    "Joint heirs" is another way to translate "co-heirs" so it is a traditional expression.
    Whether or not it's in Scripture is irrelevant.  It's a nice thought, a good point to meditate on, but the point is that the Church did not include this phrase in the TRUE RITE of the nuptial blessing.  So to include it, in a revised feminist version, is wrong.


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    Re: Feminism and the Nuptial Blessing
    « Reply #5 on: June 26, 2018, 09:18:11 PM »
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  • Thanks for the post of the nuptial blessing.  When the priest read this blessing at our marriage, I felt so...aware of the undertaking I was about to start on.  And so thankful that the Church saw the need for this prayer for women, the future mothers of more Catholics and (hopefully) saints.  And now that I'm a mother, I am especially grateful for the last line:

    May she win the rest of the blessed and the kingdom of Heaven.


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    Re: Feminism and the Nuptial Blessing
    « Reply #6 on: June 26, 2018, 10:05:22 PM »
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  • A very valuable post, Pax. Thank you!

     

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