What level of fear of Hell is acceptable? I sometimes become almost petrified at the thought of being damned for eternity, and I struggle with thoughts about Hell in general. What degree of worry and fear of Hell is good to have, so that I can always be aware of the eternal reward Catholics and all humans await… whether it be salvation or damnation… And what fear is simply from the devil as a means to temptation towards despair or some other sin?
Fear of the Lord is one of the Seven Gifts of the Holy Ghost. It is much better to not sin because you love God so much that you never want to offend Him, vs fearing what He will do to you, but if a healthy fear of hell keeps you from sinning, so be it. In time that should turn into not sinning for love of God.
Also, St. Theresa said that no one is saved against his will, and no one is damned against his will.
From the
Novena to the Holy GhostThe Gift of Fear
The gift of Fear fills us with a sovereign respect for God, and makes us dread nothing so much as to offend Him by sin. It is a fear that arises, not from the thought of hell, but from sentiments of reverence and filial submission to our heavenly Father. It is the fear that is the beginning of wisdom, detaching us from worldly pleasures that could in any way separate us from God. "They that fear the Lord will prepare their hearts, and in His sight will sanctify their souls."
Prayer
Come, O blessed Spirit of Holy Fear, penetrate my inmost heart, that I may set you, my Lord and God, before my face forever, help me to shun all things that can offend You, and make me worthy to appear before the pure eyes of Your Divine Majesty in heaven, where You live and reign in the unity of the ever Blessed Trinity, God world without end. Amen.