Raising a family on Long Island..with ten children...we could account for every dime as well. Only ever owned, one car, never new, always paid in cash...hubby is 100% disabled Veteran who after working for over 40 years had to retire due to service connected disabilities, at age 61. Since we could account for every dime for years, this did not present a problem for us. Being home owners, now owning 2 vehicles, pick up and jeep, we were eligible for no help from anyone just had to wait on VA for disability award, which took 7 months and SS to kick in as in early retirement, turned into SSD after 6 months out of work, we managed. Had all we needed and as St Paul said ...." I have learned to be content in every state....................." and finally after months his private pensions kicked in as well. You must be faithful and learn. Having raised eleven children...yes we had one after our move to the mountains...you do learn to manage,