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Online Lazarus

Re: Extended family dress immodestly
« Reply #15 on: Yesterday at 09:09:41 PM »
Even if you corrected them on one point, what good would there be, if the intent of doing God's will wasn't behind it? Even if you convince someone to dress modestly , do you think they will go to heaven if they don't believe? 

There is no point getting offended on God's behalf, because God does not feel anger or does not feel wronged in the way a human would be. By caring about such things , you are only hurting yourself. 

Stay tranquil like a lake, let the ripples fade away. What they do has no importance, only your own actions will matter in the eyes of God the day of judgment. 

Ensure you won't be on God's left side.

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Online Maria Dolorosa

Re: Extended family dress immodestly
« Reply #16 on: Yesterday at 11:13:47 PM »
Quote from: Lazarus on Yesterday at 09:09:41 PM
Even if you corrected them on one point, what good would there be, if the intent of doing God's will wasn't behind it? Even if you convince someone to dress modestly , do you think they will go to heaven if they don't believe?

There is no point getting offended on God's behalf, because God does not feel anger or does not feel wronged in the way a human would be. By caring about such things , you are only hurting yourself.

Stay tranquil like a lake, let the ripples fade away. What they do has no importance, only your own actions will matter in the eyes of God the day of judgment.

Ensure you won't be on God's left side.
Very well said, great post!
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Offline Stubborn

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Re: Extended family dress immodestly
« Reply #17 on: Today at 10:12:58 AM »
Quote from: AnthonyPadua on Yesterday at 06:29:04 PM
But for younger niece and nephews i may be the only good example they have.
Yes, while that may (or may not) be true, I agree with everything MD said in her post above.

It's just like Fr. Wathen put it in the last minutes of that video I posted above, you need to watch yourself, which is always very difficult to do successfully when one *puts themself* in a position of compromise. In your case, you're putting yourself in a position of compromise with your extended family because you hope to be a good example for your younger niece and nephews - who have other, full-time bad influences from your extended family, school, friends, TV, websites, etc. IOW, once they go home, they're fully submerged back in the mire. 

It's a sticky situation, one that is better for you, *IMO*, by them knowing why you can have nothing to do with them - which is easy to say, but not usually easy to do. 

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Offline Mithrandylan

Re: Extended family dress immodestly
« Reply #18 on: Today at 10:59:24 AM »
Unless one's relatives are an occasion of sin or scandal, it seems generally unwise to cut them off in any formal way. 

It's natural enough to drift away from people, even relatives, with whom nothing is shared in common. I see no problem there. But you seem to be talking about some kind of formal separation where you announce to everyone you'll have nothing to do with them for reasons a, b, and c. 

What is the occasion for sin or scandal? Do you lust after your female relatives? Are you tempted to blaspheme by their irreverence? Are you tempted to cohabitate or commit adultery by their sins in those regards?

 Or is it more that these gatherings are awkward and uncomfortable because their sins offend your piety? If it's the latter you can definitely justify minimal contact but you have a point re: being the only Catholic influence in their life. That's not something that should be given up without serious justification. 

Minimal contact seems fine, advisable even. But unless their behavior imperils your own soul I don't see the justification for a formal policy of no contact. 
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Offline Miseremini

Re: Extended family dress immodestly
« Reply #19 on: Today at 11:29:38 AM »
Quote from: Lazarus on Yesterday at 09:09:41 PM
Even if you corrected them on one point, what good would there be, if the intent of doing God's will wasn't behind it?
You have no idea what good could be behind it.

When someone is asked to pray three Hail Marys every day, or to wear a Miraculous (Our Lady of Graces) medal, you can be sure they do so with absolutely no intention of doing God's will... but that small action may be just the opening Our Lady needs to start them on their journey.

We have to STOP expecting instant results.  We are not in control.  We just have to do what's right and leave the rest to heaven.  It's called Hope.

The tiniest most inconsequential word or action on our part may have a profound and lasting impact on someone else in the future.

When the Holy Family was in Egypt did they shun everyone who was in a state of sin?
Stop condemning, it's not our job.  Lead by example.
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