For most of us, crisis (vs. everyday troubles) can be overwhelming, and emotion is so intense and suffocating it seems to prevent us from prayer for consolation.
What works for me: I have a painting of Gethsemane/Carl Bloch altarpiece
http://www.carlbloch.com/php/artwork.php?artwork=699 near a statue of the Pieta.
If I place myself in their hands, contemplating their sorrows, uniting mine with theirs, I'm able to get a grip and put my own suffering in perspective. Mine always pales in comparison.
Also, I'm always reminded of St. John at the Last Supper, resting his head on the Sacred Heart of our Savior. When I do the same, I'm always, always calmed and comforted.
The answers don't always come right away,but peace will.