Author Topic: Dying relative,anointing of the sick.... (Read 1841 times)

Ursus · « **on:** June 17, 2014, 11:10:30 AM »

My wife's grandma is in hospital and close to passing at this moment. I contacted the priest of their parish they attended for 50 years and left emergency msg. with hospital info and name.

Of course if the other family member heard of this they'd get PO'ed. The family that has been taking care of her have been living in a state of public mortal sin. I've seen her values change from calling out family members who are doing sinful things to completely accepting it as just life, let everyone get along in just 5 years.

Got a msg. Back that a priest will be stopping by hopefully before the family. They don't believe in this catholic stuff anymore.

Anyway, going forward for wake, funeral and such what else can or should I insist on?

Sorry if rambling, very stressed.

PerEvangelicaDicta · « **Reply #1 on:** June 17, 2014, 11:40:15 AM »

God bless you both for your work of mercy - you may be the instrument of her salvation.

Death is the most important moment, returning to our Creator to stand in Judgment, and every step in these last moments should be carefully weighed.

It doesn't matter what the other heretical family members say/do unless they hold the purse strings. Otherwise, push ahead as hard as you can for her to have a holy death and funeral that will gain grace for her soul. That's all that's important.
Ditto, getting a priest there BEFORE she dies; however, a trad priest is best so that she receives actual extreme unction. "last rites' does not convey the same grace, nor exorcise. Even the holy water used by the novus ordo is blessed differently, no longer exorcising.
A trad priest can guide you regarding the wake, Requiem Mass, burial.
Please don't let her be deprived of this great grace, if you can. It's worth fighting for, even losing relationships over. I know firsthand.

As for you, be there as much as you can, praying the rosary with her, if she is able, and prayers for the dying.
Bring sacramentals to her.
And the Green Scapular - place it somewhere in her room where it won't be removed or disturbed, then recite the prayer for her each day.
Trust in Our Lord and His holy Mother - they do not fail, especially in these circuмstances.

Please, friend, do not be stressed. Don't you see? He is guiding you.

stillearning · « **Reply #2 on:** June 19, 2014, 11:14:06 PM »

This is HER move into the next stage of life no one else's, you and your wife do the best you can to honor her wishes, and remind other family members so. I will pray for grace and wisdom to shine in you during her final days. who knows, maybe this will bring others back to the Faith.

poche · « **Reply #3 on:** June 20, 2014, 12:59:07 AM »

It may be that God sent you so that she could recieve her last sacraments. I only hope that God arranges things so that I may recieve the annointing of the sick and viaticuм at the right time.
May her soul and the souls of all the faithful departed rest in peace. Amen.

Ursus · « **Reply #4 on:** June 20, 2014, 05:32:48 PM »

As of today I know a priest has stopped by, gave Communion and blessed the family that was there. I wasn't present, but my wife stopped by shortly after.

She's in a hospital hospice room and family are coming and going.

There is active sin in that family and its been torn apart. I know after a passing it can get much worse. I'm praying it will get better.

poche · « **Reply #5 on:** June 21, 2014, 12:22:09 AM »

Quote from: Ursus

As of today I know a priest has stopped by, gave Communion and blessed the family that was there. I wasn't present, but my wife stopped by shortly after.

She's in a hospital hospice room and family are coming and going.

There is active sin in that family and its been torn apart. I know after a passing it can get much worse. I'm praying it will get better.

Sometimes that is all that we can do.
We have to be prudential.
Love them
Pray for them.
Give good example by living the holiness of life that God is calling you to.
Pray for the grace to speak when it is opportune
To remain silent when it is best.
To know the difference between the two.

Ursus · « **Reply #6 on:** June 27, 2014, 02:55:02 PM »

Just an update. As of this moment she's still in hospice at the hospital and unresponsive. The mood is so sad on that floor. Patients within the past week come and go, maybe lasting a couple days.

Yesterday, I had the honor to pray the entire rosary, joyful, sorrowful and glorious aloud at bedside. Her husband and sister even joined in the Aves after a while.

I did the "short mediations" kind: say an Ave then a line to reflect the mystery to help keep focus. Took an hour but it was well received. It also appeared to them she was trying to say it with us, moving her lips.

Rosemary · « **Reply #7 on:** June 28, 2014, 01:04:43 AM »

shin · « **Reply #8 on:** June 28, 2014, 02:01:14 AM »

Miseremini · « **Reply #9 on:** June 28, 2014, 11:29:43 AM »

Search for "3 prayers for the dying" They are on many sites and in the Pieta Prayer Book. HOWEVER they have all omitted the Lord Have mercy, Christ have mercy, Lord have mercy, Our Father... Hail Mary... before each of the three prayers.

These prayers are from the 1926 Blessed Be God prayerbook, the Rituale Romanum 1945 and the Parish Ritual 1961. A traditional priest says them in latin when he gives Extreme Unction.

In years past we could depend on the priest to say these prayers. Now we should probably carry a copy in our purse or wallet in case of emergency.

Ursus · « **Reply #10 on:** June 30, 2014, 12:40:26 PM »

She passed away yesterday.

Thank you for prayers and support. Rough week now.

stgobnait · « **Reply #11 on:** June 30, 2014, 01:07:34 PM »

Neil Obstat · « **Reply #12 on:** July 13, 2014, 03:21:55 PM »

Quote from: Miseremini

Search for "3 prayers for the dying" They are on many sites and in the Pieta Prayer Book. HOWEVER they have all omitted the Lord Have mercy, Christ have mercy, Lord have mercy, Our Father... Hail Mary... before each of the three prayers.

These prayers are from the 1926 Blessed Be God prayerbook, the Rituale Romanum 1945 and the Parish Ritual 1961. A traditional priest says them in latin when he gives Extreme Unction.

In years past we could depend on the priest to say these prayers. Now we should probably carry a copy in our purse or wallet in case of emergency.

This is a most important message.

I know a man who died in the hospital, and all his grandchildren have to remember him by is when they stood around his hospital bed and joined with their father when they all prayed this Prayer For a Dying Person to be found in the little blue Pieta prayer book. Their memory includes seeing their grandfather make the sign of the cross with them as they prayed it.

Later, a traditional priest visited him when family members were not there, and the dying man recognized the priest, but his son had made the mistake of not obtaining his permission to have the priest come to visit. Therefore, the dying man refused to confess and the priest could not give him Extreme Unction as a result.

So it is really important to obtain from the dying person his permission for the priest to visit ("stop by" as Ursus says). Otherwise, you risk tempting him to commit another sin of final impenitence.

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