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Several women have made the argument that when couples get married, they should entrust everything to God, therefore the prenup should be avoided, because a prenup shows a lack of trust in each other, so there must not be real love involved. If that is their argument, then why do they demand a State marriage license, if they entrust their marriage to God, and they feel they and their husbands should try to live up to an ideal spousal trust? Why do they feel they need legal validation from the State?

Can you see the contradiction? The women demand trust of each other (husband & wife) only when the women are allowed to have leverage of taking the husband's hard-earned assets, home & money through a "divorce", and in order to allow this leverage to remain, there should be no outside force (prenup) disrupting it. Conversely and in contradiction, they demand an outside force - the State - to be involved in their marriage in a state contract (license) as a 3rd party.

Wake up from your slumber, "men".

Anything less than long and complicated would not do the complexities of the many possible situations any justice unless you can simply turn authority of the situation over to an entity of the Church. (But, we all know impossible that would be in today's Church situation.)

Yes, even if it were possible to create a Catholic version of a prenup, one that did not undermine the permanence of marriage, there is the problem of the complexity of marriage breakdowns.  It is rarely a matter of an all-good spouse dealing with an all-bad spouse.

Here is a hypothetical scenario to illustrate what I mean:

After the birth of their first child, the wife (due to sleep deprivation, hormone changes, adjusting to motherhood, etc.) loses interest in sɛҳuąƖ intimacy.  She becomes cold toward her husband, reluctant to fulfill the marital debt, and sees him as excessively demanding.  In response, the husband gives in to the temptation to use pornography and masturbation.  Over time, he becomes addicted and begins to prefer fantasy sex to intimacy with a real woman.  This leaves the wife feeling betrayed and hurt.  She would be interested in intimacy now, but cannot compete with the porn.  While in this state, she is tempted by another man who makes her feel loved and desirable again and she commits adultery.  The husband finds out when she becomes pregnant and he beats her.  A couple of days later the wife has a miscarriage which she blames on her husband.  At this point she thinks of him as violent and murderous. She wants to leave him and get a civil divorce.

Both the husband and wife see the faults of the other and see the other as the cause of the marriage problems.  Both see themselves as the injured party, so how are they going to implement a prenup designed to protect the injured party?  Who is going to make the decision about who is at fault?  They have both committed mortal sins.  How could a prenup have envisioned the situation they are facing?