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Where do you stand on Marriage Prenups and State Marriage Licenses?

I FAVOR a Catholic prenup and REFUSE a state marriage license.
2 (8.3%)
I REFUSE a Catholic Prenup and ACCEPT a state marriage license.
1 (4.2%)
I accept Catholic marriage vows and state laws as written (and pray I'm not divorced).
13 (54.2%)
I don't have a firm opinion on either one.
3 (12.5%)
I hope to get to Heaven by remaining single.
5 (20.8%)

Total Members Voted: 20

Voting closed: July 05, 2018, 07:43:47 PM

Author Topic: Do you favor State Marriage Licenses & Prenuptual Agreements ?  (Read 19949 times)

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Re: Do you favor State Marriage Licenses & Prenuptual Agreements ?
« Reply #35 on: June 24, 2018, 10:30:20 AM »
When I got married, I looked into only having a Church marriage and it wasn't possible.  Getting married in the Church was automatically registered with the state.
This was in Canada.  I have heard it works differently in different countries.
I think that is the way it is here in the US as well.

Offline Ladislaus

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Re: Do you favor State Marriage Licenses & Prenuptual Agreements ?
« Reply #36 on: June 24, 2018, 11:04:13 AM »
I wouldn't enter a prenup.  I recognize that I am obliged before God to provide for my wife and children ... even if my wife were to leave me for no fault of my own.  I would give them more than what the divorce settlements typically provide.


Re: Do you favor State Marriage Licenses & Prenuptual Agreements ?
« Reply #37 on: June 24, 2018, 12:08:49 PM »
I wouldn't enter a prenup.  I recognize that I am obliged before God to provide for my wife and children ... even if my wife were to leave me for no fault of my own.  I would give them more than what the divorce settlements typically provide.
The demand for protection for men seems to come from non-Catholic influences. Your attitude seems to be a better reflection of the Catholic teaching that a husband must love his wife as Christ loved the Church and delivered Himself up for her.

Offline Ladislaus

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Re: Do you favor State Marriage Licenses & Prenuptual Agreements ?
« Reply #38 on: June 24, 2018, 12:30:40 PM »
The demand for protection for men seems to come from non-Catholic influences. Your attitude seems to be a better reflection of the Catholic teaching that a husband must love his wife as Christ loved the Church and delivered Himself up for her.

Honestly, what do I need to get by if I'm on my own?  Not a lot.  Much of the prenup "thinking" derives from this notion that I can't start up with a new woman and start a new family if I'm still obligated to my previous wife and kids.  I hear lots of men who are in new sinful relationships complaining about how they can't go on vacations (and the like) with their new family because of the child support and alimony they owe.

Re: Do you favor State Marriage Licenses & Prenuptual Agreements ?
« Reply #39 on: June 24, 2018, 12:36:48 PM »
Several women have made the argument that when couples get married, they should entrust everything to God, therefore the prenup should be avoided, because a prenup shows a lack of trust in each other, so there must not be real love involved. If that is their argument, then why do they demand a State marriage license, if they entrust their marriage to God, and they feel they and their husbands should try to live up to an ideal spousal trust? Why do they feel they need legal validation from the State?
I think you might be jumping to conclusions when you say women demand a state marriage license. I certainly didn't. Honestly I didn't even think twice about it and neither did my husband. It's just what you do. It's what our priest told us we needed to do and that was end of it.
Maybe I'm just that ignorant, but I don't think the majority of women here even considered the idea of a state marriage license being a weapon in their favor and therefore demanded one. I bet the question didn't even come up between a lot, if not most couples here when they were preparing for marriage. 
Bad women aren't under every rock! Just half of them.... lol.