Being a person directly related to a happening such as this, sheep is 100% on the mark.
Understand this:
If you talk, the courts will still see that the DONOR has "rights." If you open your mouth about it, that sicko will get "RIGHTS" and he can fight you every step of the way.
As for "seeing that rapist in the face of the child," from the knowledge I have, that is just a COP OUT. This "constant reminder" argument is a LIE.
For a true Catholic, life is something that has IMMEASURABLE WORTH. A human soul is involved, that still needs salvation.
Sure, adoption is a legitimate option, and sometimes even the best one, but it's a very DIFFICULT thing to do. Just as I wouldn't want to be pressured to keep a child, contrariwise, I wouldn't want someone trying to force me to put a child up for adoption.
Take it from me, I KNOW about it. If you go to the HELP thread written by the teenage girl that came here, you can read what I had to go through, and I was not even raped.
Adoption is not something that every woman has the capability of doing. There is already a tremendous loss that NO ONE that hasn't been through it can even possibly comprehend even closely to what it's really like, but then, on top of that, to add the aftershocks of what happens to someone emotionally following a rape, it's incomprehensible emotional pain and anguish, and if it was violent enough, even physically excruciating to bear.
In a nutshell, here's from someone who has a pretty darn good idea of what to do.
If a child is not involved, REPORT IT IMMEDIATELY.
If a child IS involved, please, for the sake of whatever decision you intend for placement of that child, whatever it is, DO NOT SAY ANYTHING. If you do, you could already put a little soul sent from God in jeopardy.
If our justice system actually looked out for the victims, you wouldn't have outrageous outcomes like the recent debacle in Florida, where a woman got away with KILLING HER CHILD, but is now SCOTT FREE to go party and be a floozie while her daughter's blood still screams from the ground for vengeance.
God takes care of those that do His Holy Will. Sometimes, it may seem cut-and-dried to those that haven't been through it, but it's really not that simple. No matter how a child was conceived, their souls are of more worth than the entire universe, and everything in it, combined. Being a true Catholic, this should already be very obvious.
A mother has an obligation to that soul. SHE is ultimately responsible for what happens to them. If she does the right thing, she can lead that soul to God, without the interference of the "busy bodies" that would rather have your child in "protective custody" with some other family because of a screwed up notion that something is too mentally wrong with you to handle a child. Remember, the courts don't consider SOULS, they consider BODIES.